Aditya Bondyopadhyay
Tue, 10 Jan 2012 21:37:12 -0800
http://www.boxturtlebulletin.com/2012/01/09/40435 Ex-Gay Leader: “99.9% Have Not Experienced A Change In Their Orientation”Jim BurrowayJanuary 9th, 2012 Last Friday, Exodus International President Alan Chambers appeared on a surprise panel Friday night at the Gay Christian Network’s annual conference on Orlando with former ex-gay leader Jeremy Marks, Exodus critic and ex-gay bridge-builder Wendy Gritter, and former Love In Action executive director John Smid. The panel was announced with little notice on Friday, catching many ex-gay survivors at the conference off-guard. GCN has posted audio of that panel discussion (Part 1<http://www.gaychristian.net/audio/2012conversation_pt1.mp3> , part 2<http://www.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.gaychristian.net%2Faudio%2F2012conversation_pt2.mp3&h=FAQFiRmmJAQG3Bg0yAoKtGG9ezqUQsgAGY-X3760VgJ-o6A>). In the opening minutes of part 2, Chambers addresses the criticism that Exodus and other ex-gay ministries promise change in sexual orientation: I think it’s a fair criticism from the past. If there are member ministries today that are promising something that I’m not aware that they’re promising, I’d want to know some specifics. I hear a lot of generalities, but I value specifics. And that’s something that does concern me because the fact of the matter is, and I feel like I’ve been very upfront and clear, both in the media, at conferences, anytime I have the opportunity to write about it, about the fact that I believe the slogan “Change is Possible,” for those of us who are Christians we do understand that when you come into a relationship with Christ all sorts of things are possible. The majority of people that I have met, and I would say the majority meaning 99.9% of them, have not experienced a change in their orientation or have gotten to a place where they could say that they could never be tempted or are not tempted in some way or experience some level of same-sex attraction. I think there is a gender issue there, there are some women who have challenged me and said that my orientation or my attractions have changed completely. Those have been few and far between. The vast majority of people that I know do still experience some level of same-sex attraction. And so that’s something, I think, I can’t be any clearer about that. …I hope that we’re coming to a place where we are a much more honest group of people, that when we talk about “Change is Possible,” we are very, very clear about what change means in our lives. Last November, there were reports that Chambers was considering a modification of their message<http://www.boxturtlebulletin.com/2011/11/30/39229>. At that time, I noted that Exodus has flirted with the idea of retooling its message before. The main message from Exodus has centered on changing from homosexuality to heterosexuality (however loosely defined that change may be). But there has been an underlying theme “the opposite of homosexuality isn’t heterosexuality, it’s holiness,” which leaves open the idea that becoming straight isn’t the goal. Chambers has been giving variations on that theme since at least 2007<http://www.boxturtlebulletin.com/2007/08/02/603>. He surprised supporters and critics alike in 2009 when he told the *Los Angeles Times* <http://www.boxturtlebulletin.com/2007/06/22/469>, “By no means would we ever say change can be sudden or complete.” It’s unclear whether this is a further tweaking of that theme or if it represents a marked change in message for the organization. So far, it looks more like a clarification similar to others that he has made when pressed about what change means. The only difference this time is his admission that “99.9%” don’t change. It will be interesting to see is if Chambers repeats his past pattern of clarifying his remarks in ways that bring them closer to more orthodox ex-gay messages. After all, If it does represent a marked change in message for Exodus International, it remains to be seen how this change would go down among the mostly-Evangelical churches which provide the bulk of financial support for Exodus International. A concurrent story to Chambers’s appearance at GCN is the controversy that surrounded the surprise panel at the conference. A very large number of GCN members are ex-gay survivors, and many of them felt blindsided by the conference. According to some of them who took to Facebook and Twitter to vent their anger, many of them first found out about the panel not form GCN but from a post earlier that day at Ex-Gay Watch<http://www.exgaywatch.com/wp/2012/01/exodus-president-alan-chambers-to-appear-at-gcn-conference-tonight/>. No ex-gay survivors were part of the panel discussion to provide counterpoint to Chambers’s presence, a move which strikes this writer as reminiscent of examples in history where conferences and panels discussed the issues surrounding homosexuality as a mental illness without the participation of a single gay person. GCN Executive Director Justin Lee spent the first fifteen minutes of the panel discussion addressing the controversy, incorrectly identifying XGW as among those who called him “naive” for hosting the panel discussion. He described the panel as an optional event, and urged those who didn’t feel comfortable remaining in the room to excuse themselves and attend an alternative event for ex-gay survivors. Insiders and social media commenters, some of whom say they are undergoing counseling for PTSD and other disorders as a result of having been part of an ex-gay ministry, complain that the alternative event was hastily organized by survivors themselves at the last minute after GCN failed to organize an alternative to the panel. Lee addressed the controversy this way: I believe in seeing people’s humanity. I believe even in the midst of strong disagreement in saying you are my brother, you are my sister in Christ. I want to understand you. I want to understand where you’re coming from no matter how much I disagree with you because you’re a human being and God loves you. And I want to love you too even though I disagree with you. That’s important to me. That’s part of what I do. …One part of me is I want to look at the world from Alan’s perspective and I want to say Alan I respect you as my brother, I respect what you’re trying to do what you think is right even though I disagree with you, and I love you because God loves you, and have this “kumbaya” moment. And there’s another part of me that’s like I’m really, really angry about a lot of things that have happened in Exodus and other ex-gay ministries. On 10 January 2012 10:11, RON SCHLITTLER <rlschlitt...@verizon.net> wrote: > Hello Everyone, > > Here are two items that will likely be of particular interest to those > around the world working to challenge “reparative therapy” promotion > discourses. > > The first is a rather stunning > admission<http://www.boxturtlebulletin.com/2012/01/09/40435>by Exodus > International President Alan Chambers. While on a panel at a > conference of people recovering from the damage of ex-gay therapies, he > said, “The majority of people that I have met, and I would say the majority > meaning 99.9% of them, have not experienced a change in their orientation > or have gotten to a place where they could say that they could never be > tempted or are not tempted in some way or experience some level of same-sex > attraction.” > > The second is something I ran across while investigating coverage of the > news of Chambers' statement: “*WORLD Magazine <http://www.worldmag.com/>* has > named Exodus International President Alan Chambers as its "Daniel of the > Year,"<http://www.cbn.com/cbnnews/us/2011/December/Exodus-Intl-Head-Named-Daniel-of-the-Year/>a > title that honors Christians who stand up to ungodly trends.” > > It will be interesting to see if/how his new revelation will play among > such press sources that consider him a primary advocate and spokesperson on > the topic. > > Ron > > _______________________________________________ > sogi-list mailing list > sogi-l...@arc-international.net > http://lists.arc-international.net/mailman/listinfo/sogi-list > > -- -- ADITYA BONDYOPADHYAY Development Sector Consultant Advocate (Regd. 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