Meninjau kembali Debat Doha yang terakhir, Mei 2009 yang lalu, dengan tema: Apakah Muslimah bebas memilih calon suaminya?
- video dapat dilihat di youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m9CHEhZL0OA (cukup lama debatnya, lebih dari 45 menit videonya) sekalipun debat cukup hangat antara pihak yang pro (aktivis perempuan Asra Nomani) dan yang anti (ulama konservatif Yasir Qadhi), argumen kedua belah pihak masih kurang menggigit. Pada tataran praktis, menikah dibatasi oleh hal-hal: agama, adat, sosio-ekonomi, sampai politik. Dalam debat ini, fokusnya terutama perempuan muslimah masih lebih banyak batasannya dibanding laki-laki dalam memilih pasangan, antara lain yang paling ditentang oleh kaum konservatif adalah menikah dengan nonmuslim dan menikah sesama jenis. - Mayoritas audiens debat mendukung mosi dengan suara 62:38. Tampaknya audiens yang mayoritas berusia muda mempunyai pandangan yang lebih terbuka dan bebas. - Polling/survey dilakukan dengan responden di dunia Arab, di luar audiens Debat Doha, pada awal Juni, hasilnya menunjukkan lebih dari 85% responden menolak mosi Debat Doha, terutama kalangan perempuan tidak setuju bahwa muslimah bebas memilih calon suami nonmuslim dengan alasan adanya larangan yang tercantum dalam al-Quran. Hanya sebagian kecil, 25%, yang berpendapat adanya ketidakadilan bahwa laki-laki muslim dibolehkan menikah dengan perempuan nonmuslim. http://www.thedohadebates.com/news/item.asp?n=4800 Arabs reject Doha Debate vote on Muslim marriage Wednesday, June 17 2009 ARABS REJECT DOHA DEBATE VOTE ON MUSLIM MARRIAGE Doha, Qatar, June 17, 2009: Arabs across the Middle East have voiced serious opposition to a recent vote at the Doha Debates that Muslim women should be free to marry the man of their choice. An opinion poll, commissioned by the Qatar-based debating forum, revealed over 85 percent of Arabs against the proposition, with the strongest objections coming from women. The finding stands in stark contrast to the result of the last debate, held on May 25th in Doha, when 62 percent of the mainly-Arab audience voted to remove all restrictions on a Muslim woman's choice of husband. In the poll carried out by YouGov, 89 percent of women said it was prohibited for Muslim women to marry outside their religion, with the majority citing the Koran as the reason for their conviction. More than 800 respondents from North Africa, the Gulf, Levant and Iraq took part in the online survey between June 4-9. A large majority opposed arranged marriages, while a quarter thought it was unfair that Muslim men could marry outside their faith at the same time as women were facing restrictions. On Mon, May 25, 2009 at 10:47 PM, Dwi Soegardi<soega...@gmail.com> wrote: > Debat Doha (http://www.dohadebates.com) adalah forum debat bebas bagi > masyarakat umum di dunia Arab membahas masalah-masalah di wilayah > tersebut. > Topik-topik yang pernah dibahas antara lain: > - Apakah negara-negara Arab perlu menyerahkan Presiden Sudan untuk > diadili di Mahkamah Internasional? > - Apakah Islam politik ancaman bagi Barat? > - Apakah perkembangan demokrasi terhambat di Arab? > > Debat-debat ini dapat dilihat videonya maupun didengarkan mp3nya. > > Untuk bulan ini topiknya adalah "Apakah muslimah berhak memilih siapa > yang akan dinikahinya?" > Hasilnya forum menyetujui dengan suara 62:38. > > > > http://www.gulf-times.com/site/topics/article.asp?cu_no=2&item_no=293103&version=1&template_id=36&parent_id=16 > > Muslim women should be ‘free to choose a husband’ > > The panel last night: Asra Nomani; Mohammed al-Habash; Tim Sebastian; > Thuraya al-Rayed and Yasir Qadhi > > By Peter Townson > > The Motion ‘This House believes that Muslim women should be free to > marry anyone they choose’, was passed resoundingly by 62% to 38% at > the final episode of the fifth series of the Doha Debates last night. > > A lively audience questioned the panellists on a highly emotional > issue, with a number of young Qatari women arguing staunchly for their > right to make a choice about who they should marry. > > First to speak for the motion was journalist and author Asra Nomani, > who spoke about her personal experiences as a young Muslim woman who > was pushed into a loveless marriage. > > “I wish we could have been having this conversation 25 years ago,” she > said, “and I want to ensure that no other young Muslim women have to > go through the suffering that I went through”. > > “Religion is not supposed to bring about suffering,” she argued, > “marriage is about love, passion and kinship and all our daughters of > Islam deserve this”. > > She was followed by the Muslim American cleric and dean of Academic > Affairs at Al Maghrib Institute, Yasir Qadhi, who stated that to > support the motion was both illogical and impractical. “To be a Muslim > means to submit,” he argued, saying “it is illogical to say you are a > Muslim and then try and destroy the rules upon which the religion is > based”. > > He also argued that it is also impractical for people from different > religions to sustain a marriage in the long term, but pointed out that > he was not opposed to women’s rights being increased, but rather “I am > opposed to the idea of unconditional freedom”. > > “Muslim women are not allowed to marry non-Muslims, just as they are > not allowed to marry other women – this is the Islamic law which is > supported by unanimous consensus.” > > Next to speak was the general director of the Islamic Studies Center > in Damascus and Member of the Syrian Parliament, Mohammed al-Habash. > His argument focussed on the fact that there is “no compulsion in > religion” and women should be free to choose who they want to marry. > > However, he qualified his statements with the condition that the woman > should still take the advice of her parents and family, as well as the > wider society. Rather confusingly, he appealed to the teachings of > Islam that say “people of scripture” should be accepted, but then said > that the people in question would have to affirm their belief in God > and the Prophet Mohammed. > > The final speaker was Saudi columnist, poet and member of the advisory > board of the Arab Thought Foundation, Thuraya al-Rayed, who stated > that she would argue against the motion “not on religious grounds, but > as a woman”. > > “Whether Muslim or non-Muslim, woman or man, we want marriage to > result in sustained happiness,” she said, adding “but freedom must be > embedded with controls to prevent abuse”. > > She argued that young men and women are not experienced enough to make > a wise decision, claiming that they are distracted by physical > attraction, and proposed instead that it is the concerned parties’ > families who can make the “right decision” in the long term. > > “We need to think of future consequences, such as children, and how > their lives will be affected,” she argued, claiming that any marriage > needs to be a “win-win situation” for everyone involved. > > However, it soon became clear that Al-Rayed’s approach upset a number > of audience members, who were keen to point out that they were capable > of making their own decisions and bearing the responsibility attached. > On a number of occasions she was accused of “belittling” or > patronising the young women in the audience, which cannot have done > her cause any good when it came to voting. > > And so it was the side for the motion who emerged successful, mainly > because of Nomani’s passionate defence of human rights, and her > appeals for > the audience to oppose the conservative and literal interpretation of > the Qu’ran put forward by her opposition – especially Qadhi. > > Once again, the audience excelled themselves, signing off five years > of free speech in the country by raising intelligent and focussed > questions throughout, but more importantly, by having their say on an > issue that will affect many of their lives in the future. > ------------------------------------ ========================================== MILIS MAJELIS MUDA MUSLIM BANDUNG (M3B) Milis tempat cerita, curhat atau ngegosip mengenai masalah anak muda dan Islam. 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