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Date: Sat, 10 Jul 1999 13:47:49 -0400
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From: Lynne Moss-Sharman <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
Subject: Reunion: St. Mary's Residential School Nova Scotia

First Nation bringing its lost children home St. Mary's is reuniting the
survivors of abuse at a residential school with their community

By ALAN WHITE - New Brunswick Telegraph Journal  July 10, 1999

They are the lost children of St. Mary's. For much of this century, they
were herded to Shubenacadie, N.S., to the federally funded, Catholic-run
residential school where they, and children from other New Brunswick and
Nova Scotia native communities, were to be educated, assimilated and
"civilized." Instead, the Micmacs and Maliseets as young as seven years old
were beaten, starved, sexually abused and terrorized. When they reached 16
and their time at the school was finished, some returned home. Others
drifted to places far away from the scene of their haunting childhood
memories. Now, the St. Mary's First Nation is bringing its lost children home.

The community has identified 26 survivors of Shubenacadie - now ranging in
age from about 40 to almost 80 - from throughout North America. They're
bringing any of those who wish to come home to the community Aug. 21-23 in
an effort to reunite the lost survivors with their community and families.
While some of the survivors are in the area today, others have been located
in Maine, Texas, Ohio and British Columbia. "To bury all those things and
get as far away they could to forget - that's why they left," says Candace
Paul, a St. Mary's councillor and the administrator of the St. Mary's
Health Centre. "It was drilled into their heads when they were there -
forget that you're Indian. Forget that you have that language. You can't
speak your native tongue, you have to speak English. "They lost any sort of
identity, so they don't feel they belong," said Ms. Paul. "These kids grew
up and they didn't fit in anywhere," says Alma Brooks, a program
development officer for the community who is one of the main organizers of
the community healing effort planned for next month.

"When they were 16, the door was opened and they were sent outside the door
and they were never able to reconnect," says Ms. Brooks. "Who would you
know in the community? That's a long time to be locked up. "They didn't
feel comfortable going back to the community. They didn't feel they
belonged." Ms. Brooks refuses to talk in detail about her community's
survivors and their post-school life. While some have done well for
themselves despite the experience of their early years, others live in
poverty or struggle with alcoholism or drug abuse. "DEFINITELY WHAT
HAPPENED IS NO DIFFERENT THAN WHAT HAPPENED IN THE DAYS OF HITLER AND THE
JEWS," says Ms. Brooks. "IT WAS GENOCIDE. THEY TRIED TO KILL US OFF AT THE
SAME TIME THEY WERE STEALING OUR LAND." The reunion effort is part of the
attempt by St. Mary's at healing the wounds inflicted upon its members by
the residential school system, with the community receiving a $123,000
grant from the Aboriginal Healing Foundation. In January 1998, the federal
government committed $350-million to support community-based healing
initiatives for aboriginal people who have been affected by the legacy of
abuse in the residential schools and the Aboriginal Healing Foundation was
established to manage those funds.  The foundation issued the first 35 such
grants to native communities across the country recently, with the total
funding awarded topping $2-million. St. Mary's was the only native
community in New Brunswick to receive any funding. The reunion for
survivors is but one facet of the St. Mary's project, which is also to
provide community-based training to develop a healing program in the
community as well as address the specific needs of the survivors. The
community will takes its cue from its survivors next month, waiting to hear
what they feel they need, rather than tell them what they need. "We can't
assume what the impact is of Shubie," says Ms. Brooks. "Poverty is a big
thing. Maybe they would need a house more than they need counselling. "It
will be a gathering of respect," she says. "We'll respect whatever they
want. It's a beginning. It's a first step.  "I'm sure there will be mixed
emotions," she says. "There will be happiness. There will be sadness. There
will be support."

Despite the distance, in both miles and years, between the residential
school survivors and St. Mary's, Ms. Brooks didn't find it difficult to
track down the survivors. "We know who our people are. They are our
families."  She believes the 26 represent are all who remain from St.
Mary's who attended the residential school in Shubenacadie. "Many more took
it to their graves."

~~~FOLLOWING, ARTICLE RE: ABUSE BY CATHOLIC PRIEST $128 Million lawsuit,
four non-Native brothers in London, Ontario~~~~~~

July 10, 1999

Catholic church has tightened rules on dealing with abuse

By Roxanne Beaubien -- Free Press Crime Reporter The days of hushing up
accusations of sexual improprieties and moving an accused Roman Catholic
priest to another diocese under a veil of secrecy are gone, says a
spokesperson for the Diocese of London. "If we discover that, in fact, this
person has transgressed the boundaries, then we will not put them back in
ministry again, unless we can be absolutely certain that what has happened
will never happen again -- and that certainty is very difficult to come
by," said vicar-general Rev. Tony Daniels. In the late 1980s, the London
diocese created a committee from various professions to probe any claims of
abuse. By June 1993, a year after the publication of From Pain to Hope, a
report from the Canadian Conference of Catholic Bishops, these committees
had been set up in three-quarters of Canada's 75 Catholic dioceses. The
conference report's 50 recommendations are aimed at helping victims and
perpetrators to recover. It lays out the responsibility of bishops,
priests, seminary staff and parishioners to prevent recurrences of sexual
abuse. As society's knowledge of sexual abuse has grown, so has the
church's, said Daniels. "If we knew 20 or 30 years ago what we know today,
we would have dealt with these things differently. "But I know that the way
we dealt with it then is similar to the way that many many professions
dealt with it; and none of it was intended to deliberately put people in
harm's way -- it was just a lack of understanding." But because of the
closed nature of church organizations, it's impossible to know if the
policy is being followed or not, said the head of an Ottawa-based victims'
advocacy and lobby group. "It's difficult to assess because it's a closed
organization," said Steve Sullivan, executive director of the Canadian
Resource Centre for Victims of Crime. Rev. Barry Glendinning, convicted of
gross indecency involving six London youths between 11 and 16 years old in
1974, ended up helping out in a rural Alberta parish and admitted to sexual
improprieties with young boys there. Glendinning was transferred to Toronto
in 1983. Six years later a superior clergyman said he didn't know
Glendinning had twice been treated for pedophilia. Daniels believes the
now-retired priest wouldn't have been allowed contact with youth at other
parishes after the conviction if the incidents had occurred today. Now, any
priest or church worker accused of abuse is immediately pulled from active
duty and either sent to Southdown Institute, a Toronto-area treatment
centre, or a similar centre for psychological assessment, Daniels said.
Treatment is based on the assessment findings. But if it's determined an
assault occurred, the perpetrator would most likely end up with an
administrative job. "That has not always been the way that we operated,"
Daniels said. "I don't want to judge too harshly how things happened in the
past because it's kind of easy for us to sit with a 1999 understanding of
this disorder and judge how things were handled 30 years ago when there was
no understanding of this disorder." Sullivan, however, would like to see an
independent watchdog with access to church records to ensure "they are
doing what they say they are doing." "They may very well be. Public
scrutiny may reveal that," he said.

July 10, 1999

'The more you get better . . . the more you feel the shame'

By Roxanne Beaubien -- Free Press Crime Reporter It was a decade ago when
news emerged that a Roman Catholic priest -- who twice admitted to sexual
involvement with children -- had been quietly transferred to a Toronto
parish. Rev. Barry Glendinning, a former liturgy teacher at London's St.
Peter's Seminary, was convicted in 1974 of six counts of gross indecency
involving five boys and one girl. When parishioners in Toronto learned he'd
also admitted to sexual improprieties with several young boys at a rural
parish in northern Alberta, he talked to an Edmonton Journal reporter.
Attempts to contact Glendinning, now 66 and retired, failed for this
report. But following are some of his comments from the 1989 newspaper
story: Of his sexual attraction to young boys: "Surely it has to do with a
very inhibited and underdeveloped sexuality in the early years," he was
quoted as saying. "This is an area where there hasn't always been 100 per
cent success," he said of treatment for pedophiles. "It's been a
bedevilling problem for people and I count myself among the fortunate, the
blessed, that somehow therapy has finally taken hold and worked," he said,
noting he was still seeing a therapist, six years after the Alberta
revelations. He said he struggled daily with knowing he left victims in his
wake. "There's a flood of remorse. The more you get better and establish a
kind of sound sexuality, the more you feel the shame. It's just a terrible
thing you have to carry." Of his hope to continue his work, he was quoted
as saying: "I want to make a genuine contribution. That's the best way for
me to make up and redress, to give 100 per cent . . . I recognize now that
I have an increased capacity for people who are suffering, and have
compassion."


July 10, 1999

Haunted by dark secrets

By Roxanne Beaubien -- Free Press Crime Reporter They were young boys with
hopes and dreams for the future when it all began in 1968. When it was over
in 1974, they say they were left confused, hurt and destined for lives of
drug and alcohol abuse, dysfunctional relationships and dead-end jobs. They
are three of four London brothers speaking out for the first time about
years of sexual abuse they claim was suffered at the hands of Rev. Barry
Glendinning, then a teacher at St. Peter's Seminary in London and a trusted
family friend. Jake, Gerry, Eric and a fourth brother have launched a
lawsuit against Glendinning, the Roman Catholic Diocese of London and
others, claiming $32 million in damages each. Real names aren't used to
protect the identity of the fourth brother, who didn't want to go public.
Glendinning pleaded guilty in 1974 to six counts of gross indecency
involving the four brothers, another boy and a girl -- all between the ages
of 11 and 16. The brothers, whose stories are told in this exclusive
report, say St. Peter's Seminary, an imposing regal-like complex in London
where men prepare to become priests, was the site of much of the abuse.
Their allegations include countless sessions of naked body painting,
full-body massages, oral sex and the flash of a camera documenting the
lurid and sexual poses orchestrated by the priest in the privacy of his
apartment at the seminary. The crux of the lawsuit, one of several filed
recently by London lawyer Ted Madison against the diocese and other priests
on behalf of different clients, is that the priest's superiors either knew
or ought to have known about the abuse and failed to take steps to stop it.
It's a claim that still has to be proven in court.

It was over a cup of coffee about a year ago that four brothers dared to
first speak aloud of the secret they blame for devastating their lives. The
oldest, who will be called Jake here, told his brothers he wanted to sue
the Roman Catholic diocese of London and the priest who, cloaked in a robe
of trust and salvation, molested him and his siblings more than 25 years
ago. Sitting this week at a boardroom table in the offices of London lawyer
Ted Madison, who has filed a lawsuit on their behalf, two of the brothers,
Jake, 40, and the youngest victim, who will be called Eric, 36, recounted
those memories. Thirty-eight-year-old Gerry (also not his real name) spoke
out separately. Their story is one of fluorescent body painting, baby oil
massages, oral sex and Polaroids -- details Madison said would be evidence
in the civil trial where the brothers' allegations must yet be proved.
Their voices fluctuated from barely audible whispers to ones backed by the
strength of their belief that speaking out is the right thing to do.
Interviews with the trio lasted nearly six hours. All spoke of the abuse
they endured for nearly five years and of their lives since -- lives filled
with booze, drugs, brushes with the law, failed relationships and dead-end
jobs. All three explained how they and their parents were duped by Rev.
Barry Glendinning and why the three, with a fourth brother who didn't want
to speak, are now each seeking damages of $32 million.

The statement of claim filed by Madison alleges the four brothers were
sexually assaulted by Glendinning between 1968 and 1974. The suit is filed
against the priest, the diocese of London, Gerald Emmett Carter, who was
diocese bishop from 1964 to 1978, and the London District Catholic school
board. It claims Glendinning, now 66 and living in Toronto, inflicted
physical pain on the plaintiffs, humiliated them, left them emotionally
scarred and interfered with normal development and enjoyment of life. The
suit, which still hasn't been heard in court, also claims an undisclosed
amount for their parents. A recent Supreme Court of Canada ruling that
employers can be held responsible for incidents of sexual abuse strengthens
the brothers' position, said Madison. Even if not directly at fault, an
employer can be "vicariously liable" if the work environment made it easier
for its employees to commit crimes. Glendinning, ordained in 1964, was an
assistant pastor in Windsor before going to study in Europe. In the late
1960s, he became a professor of liturgy at St. Peter's Seminary, an
awe-inspiring brick facility nestled in London's well-heeled Old North
neighbourhood. The Waterloo Street complex, surrounded by lush lawns, a
wrought-iron fence and backed by a wooded area perfect for nature walks, is
one Eric said he still can't pass without being overwhelmed by memories.
It's the place where Glendinning took the boys for many weekend getaways --
a break for their parents. But it's also the place where they claim they
were turned into sexual toys by a man they trusted. In 1974, Glendinning
pleaded guilty to six counts of gross indecency involving the four
brothers, another boy and one girl between the ages of 11 and 16, after
police were tipped off by a family member of one of the other victims.
Glendinning was sentenced to three years probation and sent to Southdown
Institute, an Aurora centre that treats clergy and other church workers
with mental health problems and addictions. London diocese vicar-general
Rev. Tony Daniels said he hasn't seen the statement of claim, spoken to
Glendinning or those in charge at the seminary at the time and therefore,
isn't prepared to discuss the allegations. While a statement of defence
hasn't been filed yet, he said one will be. While he doesn't dispute
Glendinning molested the boys -- as evidenced by the 1974 criminal
convictions -- he does dispute allegations others within the seminary knew
what was going on. And he spoke generally of the type of abuse. "The very
nature of these types of acts is that they are kept secret. "The
perpetrators make it a point to insist that these things remain secret."
Daniels insists the church is looking for truth behind allegations made
against priests across the country. "We're not trying to hide from all
this; we're really trying to deal with it." At least one of Glendinning's
victims -- Jake -- cried the day the priest was arrested for molesting him.
Trying to think back how he thought of the priest then, the eldest brother
and the one who, according to his brothers, suffered the most abuse,
described Glendinning as kind, warm and spiritual. "I was a priest lover --
it wasn't just sexual abuse. I was seduced by this man. When he was
arrested, I cried and I've been crying in some . . . capacity for 30
years," Jake said. The brothers grew up in east London in a large
working-class family that struggled to pay the bills. That didn't leave
much for extras, something Glendinning capitalized on, said the men. Their
mother was a devout Catholic, and even though their father wasn't, the
children were raised in the church. Jake and Eric don't remember if they
met Glendinning through a school-supported summer camp or at the family's
parish, St. Mary's Church. Gerry remembers Glendinning visiting classes at
their school -- St. Mary's Catholic school on Lyle Street -- and delivering
masses to the pupils. They recall their mother reaching out to the priest
for help with the four boys. Jake, who was about 10 at the time and an
altar boy, recalled needing some direction. Gerry, who estimates he was
about 9, was also an altar boy. At about 6, Eric was the youngest of the
four and the only one who wasn't an altar boy. "This wasn't just something
that started in the bedroom. It started at home. Your parents were seduced
into believing this man was there for the good -- for the good of God, the
good of your children," Eric said. Glendinning was a regular visitor to the
family's home, so respected a baby boy born during the period the four
older boys were being assaulted was named in honour of the reverend.
Madison said the brothers would paint a very different picture of the
priest -- well-regarded in the community as a gifted and talented spiritual
leader -- in their evidence in any civil trial over the lawsuit. There were
drives in Glendinning's car, long talks, dinners out and movies. Then there
were overnight weekend visits to St. Peter's Seminary where Glendinning
taught and lived. Gerry, Eric and Jake said they were allowed to do
whatever they wanted -- including smoking and drinking booze. But as time
passed and their trust grew, there was also body painting with fluorescent
paints, posing and pictures, full body massages with oil and sexual acts at
the direction of Glendinning, the brothers said. "He would narrate what was
to happen and who was to do what" for the poses, said Eric. "If he turned
around and said, 'OK you lie down and . . . you do this and you do that,'
that's what you would do." The brothers tell of camping trips to Lake
Huron, of hiking, skinny dipping, dancing naked around a campfire. "He'd
get you to secluded places where he'd get you alone," Gerry said. "It
started out with body painting and massages and then it turned into him
performing oral sex on you, lying on top of you, rubbing himself against
you, getting you to play with him, stuff like that," he said. "You're so
young you don't even have a clue of what the hell it is that you're doing."
Repeated attempts to reach Glendinning at his Toronto home and through the
Toronto archdiocese, from which he retired, were unsuccessful. All three
brothers said they're convinced someone at the seminary knew what was going
on and are angry steps to end it weren't taken earlier. Jake's face is
etched and toughened by the more than a dozen years he spent drunk and high
after dropping out of school in Grade 9. He gestures with his hands and
tattoo-laden arms as he speaks of things usually unspoken. He's quick to
offer encouragement to Eric, who has never before told his big brother of
some of the incidents he speaks of on this day. Eric has four children
between five and 16, the youngest one with his current wife of six years.
He married for the first time at 19. With an education that didn't go much
beyond Grade 8 -- when he first remembers taking drugs and drinking booze
"whenever you could steal it" -- Eric found himself bouncing from job to
job. Jake took a similar but more extreme route. He soon learned he didn't
have to have a job to keep himself high on his drug of choice -- speed, the
street name for methamphetamine. All he had to do was sell his body to men
in London's Victoria Park. Jake moved from place to place, leaving when
things got rough. He ended up in Toronto with the third of a string of
"sugar daddies" who supported and spoiled him in return for sex. "I was
very pretty and young, a salable commodity," Jake said of his teens and
early 20s. Later, he married a woman and made a failed try at tackling his
addictions. The marriage broke up after 12 years and a subsequent
relationship fell apart. Then Jake went over the edge. "It's called
bottom." It was a drug and booze haze he ended up in about seven-years ago.
Jake eventually joined a self-help group, quit drinking and reclaimed a
sense of spirituality -- something he said he lost after the sexual abuse.
Gerry has been diagnosed with hepatitis B and Jake with hepatitis C from
years of intravenous drug use. Now off drugs and sober, Gerry is a
high-school dropout who was in and out of jail in his youth. He's separated
from his second wife and is the father of an 18-month-old daughter. "I know
it has screwed me up," he said. Counselling has helped him make sense of
his chaotic life. "I have all of the characteristics of what an abused
person goes through." David Wolfe, a University of Western Ontario
professor and expert on childhood sexual abuse treatment, said falling into
a downward spiral of drugs, booze and failed relationships is one of the
classic profiles of abuse victims. As victims age, they can follow a
variety of paths, Wolfe said, speaking generally about abuse victims and
not about this particular case. While the paths can be different at the
core, being sexually abused in childhood -- particularly continued abuse by
a trusted adult -- causes "a very devastating or evil effect on their sense
of self; basically their ability to relate to others," he said. A 1984
federal study on child sexual abuse overwhelmingly found that assailants --
five out of every six -- were either family members or people in a position
of trust such as a teacher, a scout leader or a priest. The ground-breaking
study was the first to document the prevalence of the sexual abuse in
Canada. Commonly called the Badgley Report after committee chairperson
Robin Badgley, the study found one in every two women and one in every
three men reported being victims of unwanted sexual acts when they were
children or youths. In the 15 years Wolfe has studied sexual abuse, the
literature on it and understanding of its causes and effects have
ballooned. "The analogy that I use is that it's not like a hammer blow that
leaves the same mark on everything it hits . . . Sexual abuse doesn't lead
to certain outcomes. It's more accurate to say that it increases the
likelihood for interpersonal difficulties." And how far reaching the impact
is seems to depend on how those around then deal with disclosures, he said.
For the brothers, the subject was never discussed -- at home or among
themselves. Gerry recalled his fear that everyone at school knew because
they were pulled out of class to be interviewed by police. Eric and Gerry
now shun any formal religion. They say they believe in God but will never
again have any connection to a religious organization. And while Jake still
describes himself as Catholic, he doesn't go to church. A year after
quitting drinking, Jake dropped the drugs and said he's been clean ever
since. "That process has brought me here." The 1974 criminal case against
Glendinning received little media coverage. But in the years since, the
now-retired priest has received more attention. In 1976, he was transferred
to Edmonton where he joined the teaching staff at Newman Theological
College and was expected to be closely monitored. But after two years, he
began helping another priest at a small country parish outside the city. In
1983, he admitted to superiors of sexual improprieties with boys there. He
was never charged, the Edmonton Journal reported in 1989. Glendinning was
sent back to the Toronto-area treatment centre where he received
counselling after the London convictions. In 1989, when parishioners at a
Toronto church where he was posted learned of his past, the sordid saga hit
the headlines. Some parents of the Alberta victims sent a note to the
Toronto parish, saying he molested at least 15 boys between the ages of 12
and 17, the Journal reported. A friend of one Edmonton-area victim told the
newspaper an eerily similar story: the Journal quoted her as saying
Glendinning would ply the boys with liquor and dirty songs on camping trips
before sexually abusing them. The London brothers' lawsuit is one of
several filed recently by Madison against the London diocese and other
priests on behalf of different clients. The other priests named in the
lawsuits are: Rev. John Stock, 70, who twice pleaded guilty in London to
indecently assaulting altar boys and pleaded guilty in Stratford to 34
charges over 22 years, and Rev. Cameron J. MacLean, 56, of Strathroy, who
pleaded guilty in Windsor last year to sexually abusing four boys in London
and Windsor parishes. MacLean still faces additional charges in Windsor.
For Jake, Eric and Gerry, not identified by their real names because the
fourth brother doesn't want to go public, just telling their story is a
first step. "I've done many things in my life but in this situation my
hands are clean," said Jake. "The people who should carry shame are the
people who perpetrated these heinous acts on young boys. And further to
that, the hierarchy of the Catholic church that suppressed this information
and sheltered their own . . . It's their shame, not mine."



            
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