Jack Campin wrote:
>
> Would I be correct in assuming there is a category of net abuser
> who lurks on a mailing list for just long enough to find out how
> to start a pointlessly destructive discussion and then tries to
> drown the forum in crap?
No, Jack, you would not be correct in assuming so. Or at least that is
not an issue in this particular sad case.
I know all the combattants well enough to assure you that they are all
earnest in their interest in and support of the ABC standard.
But there are a few people here who definitely lack the social skills
needed to participate in a civil, constructive discussion. And I'm
talking about more than one person here.
Yes, Gianni *was* way out of line, but it's not as if he was very
lonesome there...
Anyway, the harm is done now, and I don't think it's possible to repair
the damage. We just have to try to put it behind us and move on.
Here are a few general tips how to behave in a discussion:
1. Always try to understand your opponents view. The more ridiculous
it seems to you, the harder you should try.
2. Never attack anybody personally
3. *Never* ever answer an insult with another insult!!!
4. Avoid digging trenches
5. Remember that it takes more than one to have a quarrel (although
I've been told this isn't always the case in Ireland ;-)
6. Hard as it is to imagine, if someone disagrees with you, there
actually is a slight chance *you* are the one who is wrong
Frank Nordberg
http://www.musicaviva.com
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