absolutely right mam .
if we are free from prejudices and preferences , we can be as natural as
water that has no limitation or discrimination of main stream or isolation
. water can flow anywhere .
we should learn to delete the past from our computer of mind .
sab ko gale se lagate chalo .
meet the people and join wherever possible.
gajendra
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From: "Preeti Monga" <preeti.mo...@silver-linings.org>
To: "'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning
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Sent: Sunday, October 23, 2016 6:36 AM
Subject: Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi University:
Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner
Very interesting! Why do we have to marry disability or non disability? We
must not forget that we need to marry human beings! They can be disabled
or no9t! To find happiness in any relationship as in marriage, it is
important to have valus, intrests and values alined with each other. If
you want mainstreaming, then give value to the society and be proactive
in mingling with society, and you will soon find yourself mainstreamed!
And friends, we are already in the mainstream, because our families are
not all disabled! It is also largely in our own minds, we also keep away
from all mainstream activities and reject any opportunity to get out and
mingle, for we are ourselves ashamed and subconsciously worried about what
people will say or think about our disability and therefore keep ourselves
away from society, and get left out!
So friends the world belongs to all of us; disabled or non disabled, so
get up and start mingling with all and get yourself into the mainstream!
Even people who do not have disabilities get left out if they don’t make
the effort of becoming social from their side! They also get up and go
into society to participate, and believe you me, if they don't get out and
make that effort, they too get excluded from society! No society comes to
your doorstep to drag you into the mainstream, you have to make the effort
and bring value to others with whom you wish to connect and interact!
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From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On
Behalf Of Ajay Minocha
Sent: Sunday, October 23, 2016 00:28
To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning
the disabled.
Subject: Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi
University: Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner
Seems to be just hiding his own discomfort behind so-called mainstreaming.
On 10/21/16, avinash shahi <shahi88avin...@gmail.com> wrote:
A visually impaired teacher of Delhi University has expressed his
disillusionment at being unable to marry a physically 'normal' woman
because of societal constraints.
http://www.thestatesman.com/news/delhi/visually-impaired-teacher-seeks-normal-life-partner/169088.html
He said marriage between disabled and normal persons is an 'effective'
way to incorporate the differently abled into the mainstream and end
discrimination. Yogesh Chaurasia, 42, an assistant professor of
political science at DU's Maitreyi College is still unmarried as he
has turned down several proposals of marrying differently abled girls
in his quest to get a physically normal life partner. "If I marry, I
will marry a normal girl," he stressed. Chaurasia said society acts
with an 'orthodoxical' and 'prejudiced' mindset as it easily gives
sanction to matrimonial ties between two normal persons but looks down
upon marriage of a normal person with a disabled one.
"I had vehemently refused to accept several proposals of marriage with
physically disabled or visually impaired girls. I turned down many
such proposals in the past and I am really annoyed at and bewildered
by those who approach me with such proposals," said Yogesh. He said he
has no reservations in marrying a physically disabled girl but wants
to set an example that physical disability cannot be the cause of
'rejection' and 'neglect' of a person. He said there is no support
from his family members either who also cannot think 'out of box',
"Even my parents are of the view that I should marry a disabled girl,
but it's my personal view that marriages between differently abled and
normal persons will help in bringing Divyangs into mainstream of
society," said Chaurasia.
"Physically disabled persons are also human beings and have desires
similar to those of normal persons. Sometimes I have a strong urge to
have a life partner but I have diverted all my energy into academics,"
said Yogesh. He said many 'normal' men pretend to be blind only to
have girls sympathising with them. "Many normal persons pretend to be
blind in metros , buses and public places and only look for
opportunity to inappropriately touch or feel young girls who come to
their aid out of sympathy, this has maligned the image of blind people
and girls now look at all blind persons suspiciously”, he said.
Sympathy, no love "Most people help us out of sympathy but there is no
element of love in it. Sympathy cannot be misunderstood for love,"
said the professor.
"By sympathising with us you make us feel that as if we are some
helpless creatures but we want to tell that we are also human beings
who are desirous of love and not sympathy," said Yogesh. Another
teacher said society should shun its prejudices and ould encourage
those who want to marry 'out of box'. "In my view marriage between a
disabled and normal person should be encouraged, as it will help in
bringing them into mainstream and increase their acceptability," said
DU teacher.
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