Hi

Though it is not particularly necessary for me to comment on the topic
As many notable personalities have already provided their brilliant
suggestions, still I’d love to contribute to the discussion to the
best of my understanding

Persons with not-so-obvious visibility of disability generally go
through the dilemma that you are facing(primarily speaking from my own
experience). Frankly agreeing with you, both options(hiding and
not-hiding of disability) do have their pros and cons. But we are best
served only if we are able to make the better suitable course of
action.
 We can tackle this situation by employing two simple thumb-rules.
First is lesser harm thesis which would suggest to choose the lesser
evil. This reasoning would lead us to the path of not-hiding the
disability. Second, not going for a rigid pattern. It is to suggest
that in the case where you feel that you can be cheated if the
person(s) interacting with your is/are likely to use your  disability
as an exploitable point, you can rightly choose to hide your
disability.   For example, while travelling alone you can choose this
path.

To help you decide you can also ponder over the emotional loss that
this adopted approach of hiding the disability is causing to your
existence. It is doing damage on various levels. First, it is
effectively alienating you from your being. Second, it hinders you
from being the best coppy of yourself. Third, it forces you to live a
life of perpetual dilemma! The loss may vary according to your
specifications.

I’ll sign out by recording that hiding or not-hiding should not be a
deliberate thing in the sense that one tries one’s best to do either
of the two. If it is natural; then it is not a problem. The problem
creaps in when one materialises the hiding or otherwise by a special
effort. Exception to the rule holds that the deliberate hiding is
allowed only if it saves you from some foreseeable ordeal.

I hope it helps

Wishing you, and many other like you, all the best.




On 4/7/18, Nagababu Arepalli <nagababu...@gmail.com> wrote:
> Hi,
>   please do not look for small benefits. you may need to face bigger
> problems in future if, you hide your disability.
> there is nothing rong in disclosing your disability.
> you will be recognised with your character, atitude and your
> qualificationsa.
> and all humanbeeings will have some diffect in there body. so, no need
> to hide disability.
> this is my opinion do not take it otherwise.
>
> On 4/7/18, Alvesh Shokeen <alveshshok...@gmail.com> wrote:
>> Some time there are benefits of not disclosing the disability, and
>> behaving as you were a sighted guy. For example, no one can cheat us
>> if he is not getting the clue that I am a vision impaired guy, and
>> people will not ask unnecessary questions!
>> As I have faced some aukward situations, asking for help people asked
>> me uncumfirtable questions, like your eyes are looking quite ok, are
>> you telling lie? How much can you see, can you identify which colour
>> shirt I am wearing? can you see the girls coming and going? Therefore
>> I deliberetly avoid to disclose my disability to avoid these
>> unwelcomed and aukward situations. But I can say, I am losing more by
>> hiding my disability, as people don't get the clue what kind of help I
>> require? And people think I am avoiding them by not greeding them with
>> hi and goodmorning etc. The other embarrassing situation I face at the
>> time of shaking the hands meeting someone. As sometime I can not
>> figure out that he has raised his hand to shake?
>> And also I am not visually impaired for long, I have a hard time to
>> distinguish the people by their voice. By the way, guide me for
>> getting good  counseling material to learn with my disability.
>>
>> On 4/6/18, Sandeep Singh <sandeepsingh...@gmail.com> wrote:
>>> And believe me, friend, George sir is a most respected personality
>>> applauded by all sections of the society despite his blindness. We
>>> have lots of people on our list, Ms Kanchan and Ms Priti, Mr Pranay
>>> and Mr Prashant, and so many veterans and youngsters who have a
>>> special place in the society and are loved and respected by all. You
>>> are a capable person, don't hide your disability, sensitize people
>>> instead. I recently organized a program where I asked a young lady
>>> doing Engineering to wear a blindfold and identify currency notes. I
>>> asked people to do activities pretending they were disabled of some
>>> kind and they understood how much we can do despite our physical
>>> limitations.
>>> So, go ahead and enjoy life, don't mind those who don't accept you,
>>> make merry with those who accept you and love you.
>>> Best regards
>>> Sandeep
>>>
>>> On 4/6/18, George Abraham <geo...@eyeway.org> wrote:
>>>> I have been through the same situation. Thought the World would reject
>>>> me.
>>>> Life was lived under great tension. But friend, the day I stopped
>>>> pretending, I discovered a whole new life of freedom and fun. Life is
>>>> determined by who you are, what you think and how you carry yourself.
>>>> It
>>>> becomes very dangerous when you try to mould your life basis the
>>>> World's
>>>> expectation of you. So "Stop pretending and start living."
>>>>
>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>> From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On
>>>> Behalf
>>>> Of Alvesh Shokeen
>>>> Sent: Friday, April 6, 2018 11:46 AM
>>>> To: accessindia
>>>> Subject: [AI] Disclosing or not disclosing the visual impairment
>>>>
>>>> Hey list members, I am a partially blind person, I can manage most of
>>>> the
>>>> chores at my own. People don't get easily that I am visually impaired
>>>> person. But this is true that I hide my disability, for instance, on
>>>> the
>>>> dining table I pretent that I don't like sweets in order to avoid the
>>>> embarrassment of asking where is the sweet kept on the table. I avoid
>>>> social
>>>> functions just to make sure that no one is knowing the magnitude of my
>>>> vision condition. I am unable to become very social, thinking that
>>>> people
>>>> will not like me on the account of my disability.
>>>> In order to hide my disability, I have to secrify a lot!  I hide my
>>>> disability just because of the matter of the fact that in my society
>>>> disabled people are looked with pity, and no one will respect me and my
>>>> parants after knowing that I am disabled person. Though I am central
>>>> government employee, still people will doubt on my ability and
>>>> education,
>>>> they will say that he got the job under quota reserved for handicapped
>>>> persons. Therefore till now, I am hiding my disability wherever
>>>> possible.
>>>> Kindly suggest me how to live a good life with the disability with full
>>>> confidence. . I always think that why it happened to me, while whole
>>>> world
>>>> is enjoying with their sight. When I think of future married life, I am
>>>> clueless that how will I manage children and all, their education and
>>>> then
>>>> their marriage etc. I feel life is useless with out sight.
>>>> Kindly help me  in coming out from this liquidating attitude.
>>>>
>>>>
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