Thankyou Ms. Payal, Rajesh Sir and Sandeep for your appreciation. Well, Rajesh Sir, point taken. I am of course not only conscious of my disability but happy to be disabled as it has made my life more interesting! This is true of others as well for they would not have behaved as they did had I not been less sighted. I got slightly carried away in that statement "The process was so smooth that neither I nor my friends became conscious of my disability." It often happens that due to the negative, sympathetic , over protectionist and sometimes insensitive approach of people towards me owing to my disability, I sometimes feel frustrated and helpless, at times feeling sad at not being able to meaningfully contribute. Such behaviour may include talking to my companion instead of me, not asking my opinion, not delegating me work etc. I have had similar experiences especially in Nagpur and hence was elated by the restaurant's approach. I also admit that having partial vision and living and studying in integrated settings, I have still not fully internalised my disability. Best Turab
On 8/21/18, bhawani shankar verma <[email protected]> wrote: > If it is paid arrangement, then why I should worry on account of hosting > it, because I am paying an attractive and desired amount to the restaurant? > the restaurant staff should take care of my party and inside decoratives. if > all the invitees are my friends and relatives then all of them knows about > my disability. > > > > > -----Original Message----- > From: Asudani, Rajesh > Sent: Tuesday, August 21, 2018 11:26 AM > To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning > the disabled. > Subject: Re: [AI] Sharing experience of hosting a lunch for friends: > independently > > Wonderful, Turab. > It is always a sense of a thing well-done which pushes us on. > > Your description of the whole event made me feel a part of it, in absentia! > > However, I don't agree with your assertion: > " The whole process was so smooth that neither my guests nor me ever became > conscious of my disability!!" > > What do you mean, please clarify. > > Does there ever come a moment when nobody is conscious of our disability > including ourselves,? > And if it does, is it desirable? > > Why was the hotel staff assisting you if they were not conscious of your > disability? > Why were you nervous beforehand if you were not conscious of your > disability? > > And, interestingly, why should a blind person be touch-nervous? > > Sorry for uncomfortable questions, but I do not agree with prevalent > narrative of disability as something to be forgotten, or overcome or > defeated. > > I live with my disability, doing the things audiotactually, or with hu-tech > aid, and not visually. > > > > सादर / With thanks & Regards > राजेश आसुदानी Rajesh Asudani > सहायक महाप्रबन्धक AGM > बाजार आसूचना ईकाई MIU > भारतीय रिजर्व बैंक Reserve Bank of India > नागपुर Nagpur > > 0712 2806846 > > President > VIBEWA > Co-Moderator > VIB-India > > A-pilll = Action coupled with Positivity, Interest, Love, Logic and > laughter. > > > -----Original Message----- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf > Of turab chimthanawala > Sent: 20 August 2018 23:51 > To: accessindia <[email protected]> > Subject: [AI] Sharing experience of hosting a lunch for friends: > independently > > Hi all, > I had an amazing experience of hosting a lunch for about 20 people > independently for the first time at Cafe Zenea, a prominent restaurant in > Nagpur. > Special thanks to Amar Jain for his valuable inputs and encouragement when I > had sought insights through a post before the event. Following was my > experience. > Before the event > Despite my birthday being on 14th, I decided to host my friends on 12th > (Sunday) as it enabled me to invite them for lunch: as I have partial vision > during the day and thus could have a broad grasp of the happenings in broad > daylight. I had initially planned to have the lunch on the lawn adjacent to > and belonging to the restaurant but the kind restaurant owner Mr. Sanjay, in > order to save me of the unnecessary cost burden, suggested to make special > arrangements in the open backyard of his restaurant. Though, his > subordinates were initially reluctant (as it would be difficult to organise > the buffet outside and it would block two persons to serve us on a busy > Sunday afternoon), appreciating my genuine handicap, they kindly agreed. > While finalising the menu, I made sure to include the top hits of the > restaurant in every course of the meal. While inviting, I made sure to > inform the guests of their acquaintance/ friend on the guest list in order > to comfort them and help logistically(coming together etc.). > At the event > Being a touch nervous and les confident, I had requested my closest friend > to reach early to pitch in if needed. Though he did reach in time and > happily volunteered to be my assistant manager, the kind staff of the > restaurant ensured that his help was never needed! Hardly had I reached, Mr. > Prashant who had taken my order, greeted me asking about the whereabouts of > my guests and apprising me of the arrangements already underway for my > party. > As my guests came, I briefly introduced each one to the group and seated > them close to people they would best jell with. Fortunately, per my > reckoning, no guest was bored or excluded from the chatter.. > Here I would like to laud the mature, sensitive and polite behaviour of the > restaurant staff. One of them was always posted near my chair to take my > instructions and save one of my guests the hassle of repeatedly calling > someone. They whispered their suggestions/ queries in my ear, letting me the > final call. Till most of the guests arrived, one waiter stood at the > entrance to guide anybody unable to find the place. I was very apprehensive > of my guests not eating well specially the introvert ones, but the > restaurant staff served so lovingly that I am sure most people overate. The > whole process was so smooth that neither my guests nor me ever became > conscious of my disability!! > I owe this to the kind staff of Cafe Zenea. I had always known Zenea for its > mouth watering food and rocking ambiance but now respect it more for its > amazing staff. > This experience greatly boosted my confidence and lends more weight to the > dictum that the more we experiment and challenge ourselves, the further we > will go. > Best > > Turab > > > > > Search for old postings at: > http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ > > To unsubscribe send a message to > [email protected] > with the subject unsubscribe. > > To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please > visit the list home page at > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > > Disclaimer: > 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of the > person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; > > 2. 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