Friends, There is nothing wrong with two VI persons marrying each other. What I am concerned with is the message that such mass weddings send out to the Govt, Society and other family members of VI people. Further,blind people do not form a community, such weddeings would tend to confirm the sterio type mind set. -----Original Message----- From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of reem shamsudeen Sent: 25 February 2013 12:35 To: accessindia Subject: [AI] about the mass wedding happened in paravoor
friends, it was inspiring to read about the mass wedding of physicaly challenged happened at Kochin. perhaps i do not support the fact that people with same kind of impairemend can live together is always possible. however, apart from other kinds of disabilities, i strongly believe that two visually impaired people can be together as partners and can lead a successful life. no doubt there are challenges to face, and difficulties to handle when these partners proceed their lives further, may be in comparison to those problems that happen in the every day life of other partners. i heard several times even our visually impaired friends asking, how does a visually impaired girl do house hold duties? how does she perform in child rareing? she cannot read books to me. she cannot guide when i am travelling. how does she help me out if some emergency things happen? how does she drive my car? (smile).... being a visually impaired girl in each and every moment of such expression, i became highly irritated, expressed my bitter, and burst out into anger, and even at times into tears, primarily being insulted as a visually impaired girl. i am sure that such expressions are merely out of schovenism. because it is the societal norm that males can always demand. if you think about yourself, you are equally, or even worse disable in performing the above mentioned expressions. so i feel that such expressions are merely an insult to your own disability. now apart from the schovenistic attitude, it is embarazing to reveal that these demand makers are so narrow minded. in this appologeticaly long mail, i would like to view the whole point from a social perspective. it is true that, at least out of the experiences in Kerala, a visually impaired boy can easily get a sighted girl, recently even without any educational compramises. at certain points, not even the boy's social, financial status matter. but the case is totaly different with a visually impaired girl even if she pursues a so called good educational profile and professional status. girls are mostly dragged into the rehabilitation centers, after a point due to the lack of a family support. most among those who are financialy sound are forced to push themselves into a lonely, isolated hostel life. i firmly believe that marriage is not a reason to live, and the only cause that can make someone happy. but again as per societal norms, it is really difficult for a single girl to put down her feet and live boldly. i do not believe in the again and again propogated fact that support from the sighted person as a partner can make a visually impaired person's life easier, rather than the other way round. it is totally depend upon the person to whom you get married. i believe in finding alternatives to make our life easier. primarily it is to be understood that today, most of the visually impaired girls are far, far better than visually impaired boys in doing day to day things, perhaps by force itself. in every partnership there exists a togetherness, where you give and seek. moreover, it is all about how much does one want to have an understanding partner with him or her. the same disabilities convey and share lot of things silently. so much said and done, this mail does not indent to force anyone to take their life as a challenge and jump into conclusions. here i wished to pause a social issue. that's all. so dear habeeb, do not feel agitated when someone raises an exclamation towards two impaired people being together. i am sure that you must have heard such expressions earlier also. it is so common. regards reem Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessin dia.org.in Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ To unsubscribe send a message to [email protected] with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ To unsubscribe send a message to [email protected] with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in
