Great Dr. Jalaja! I am so delighted to hear from you here. Wonderful just keep going! Preeti
Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: [email protected] Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -----Original Message----- From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of Jalajakumari Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 8:00 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issuesconcerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: myquriyocityare normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners I had seen so many mails in this topic. Here is the answer , whether blind or sighted understanding is the only matter for success. In my case I got married to a sighted person, and till date no misunderstanding occurred between us. My spouse is working on rehabilitation of alcoholics and I too work in rehabilitation of VI, and if a VI person comes to his way who needs support he directs to me and same from my part also. Regarding family matters I will not put extra burden on him eventhough I am VI. We adopted a baby girl around 3 yrs back and all caring for the child is done alone by me from the age of 11 mths. and now she is in L K G ,of course Visual impairement produce little bit uneasiness for us but majority of success depends upon our attittude and courage to face problems . Always keeping the remote control of our mind with us is very essential in my point of view Regards Dr.Jalaja M. B. B. S Civil surgeon and M.O. In charge Kerala state health ces -------------------------------------------------- From: "Nitin" <[email protected]> Sent: Thursday, July 03, 2014 1:11 AM To: "accessindia@accessindia. in " <[email protected]> Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: myquriyocityarenormelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners> This is the mail from the chain I liked too much!!! > I fully agree with the guy's views. The boy is partially sighted and > married to a blind girl. The same thing should happened what I feel. > Partially boy should marry to blind girl and Partially girl should marry > to blind boy. I do understand it is depend on person to person and theirs > attitude. I don't want to say that blind boy should not marry to sighted > and vice versa. If some how blind gets a sighted partner and there is well > understanding between them then nothing like it!!!! > > Kaka, you may like to read the story. Great learning for VIs! > http://retinaindia.blogspot.in/2011/11/of-disclosing-disability-before.html > > Kind Regards, > Nitin > > -------------------------------------------------- > From: "Prashant Verma" <[email protected]> > Sent: Wednesday, July 02, 2014 9:22 PM > To: "accessindia@accessindia. in " <[email protected]> > Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my > quriyocityarenormelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners> This discussion > has made interesting reading. Knowing that writing anything >> on this could attract all types of comments, still I am putting down my >> views. >> >> >> >> Few people are stating the current situation while few are talking more >> about what should be the ideal scenario. >> >> >> >> The only complaint I have with many visually impaired is that they are >> not >> willing to marry any visually impaired at all. >> >> If they consider themselves useful and productive then they should be >> ready >> to accept a visually impaired partner. My understanding is that those who >> have not been able to master their disability due to various factors >> desire >> sighted partners. Some of these factors may be beyond their control. >> Economic status, upbringing, social pressure etc. are few of the factors. >> >> >> >> I think the possibility of having visually impaired children is one of >> the >> root cause of this desire. It is however not openly accepted. Parents >> also >> want someone sighted who can look after their son/daughter after them. >> >> >> >> What matters is compatibility and understanding. If we get a non-disabled >> partner then it may help solve few practical problems but then a >> visually >> impaired partner also takes care of many other matters. >> >> >> >> When looking for partners, one should have an open mind. Disability like >> caste, religion etc should be a secondary consideration. >> >> >> >> I see so many young talented and well settled visually impaired girls all >> around here but visually impaired boys even though they are passing the >> marriageable age are not ready to accept visually impaird partners. >> Finally >> they have to make comprimises. Girls sighted or disabled are generally >> seen >> to be more open minded and accommodating. >> >> >> >> It will indeed be great if visually impaired socialize more in the >> non-disabled community. It will enhance their personality and at the same >> time will increase chances of finding partners. >> >> >> >> I am partially sighted and married to a totally blind woman. >> >> >> >> -----Original Message----- >> >> From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On >> Behalf >> Of ishita kapoor >> >> Sent: 02 July 2014 14:10 >> >> To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues >> concerning >> the disabled. >> >> Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are >> normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners >> >> >> >> I have found the argument of bhavani sir more realistic. >> >> Preety madam, if your aim is just to motivate us then your points are >> valid. >> >> I have 40 percent vision. >> >> And if I lose it no sighted person will even think to marry me even in >> dream >> unless he has social or economical problems. >> >> In that case a guy will marry me if he won't get proper match rather any >> girl in able bodied world, Or if I can offer him lots of money if he is >> poor >> Or I have nice job and he has no earning capacity. >> >> Otherwise no sighted person will marry me just for the sake of charity. >> >> And I don't have any bitter feeling for this belief. >> >> Because everyone has right to choose a life partner who is equal in all >> aspects I can't marry with the guy who doesn't have both arms and both >> legs. >> >> The same way I shouldn't expect such charity from any able bodied man. >> >> And yes I won't get promotion if I ask my boss to touch his clothes by >> >> saying: sir log kafi tariff kar rahe hai chalo mai bhi chhoo ke dekhu to >> tariff kar saku. >> >> I don't have much experience but still I would like to advice all >> youngsters >> that please don't do this. >> >> Don't ask anyone that: sir ya madam mai apke kapde dekhna chahta hun ya >> chahti hun. >> >> >> >> >> >> On 7/2/14, Preeti Monga <[email protected]> wrote: >> >>> You are very right! >> >>> Preeti >> >>> >> >>> Preeti Monga >> >>> Director >> >>> >> >>> >> >>> >> >>> Mobile: +91 9871701646 >> >>> Landline: 011 22781446 >> >>> E-mail: [email protected] >> >>> Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our >> >>> Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training >> >>> -Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting - >> >>> Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including >> >>> demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive >> >>> Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. >> >>> >> >>> We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete >> >>> customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. >> >>> >> >>> >> >>> >> >>> -----Original Message----- >> >>> From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On >> >>> Behalf Of Zoher Kheriwala >> >>> Sent: Wednesday, July 02, 2014 11:44 AM >> >>> To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues >> >>> concerning the disabled. >> >>> Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are >> >>> normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners >> >>> >> >>> In the world we cannot expect every sighted person to get married to a >> >>> blind person, even we cannot expect every blind person to get married >> >>> to a blind person. Some of us might have rejected the proposal of >> >>> sighted person not because of he or she is sighted but many reasons >> >>> other vice. Or if we are rejected by sighted person, it might not be >> >>> related to our blindness. >> >>> Let me have the courage to make the statement, Many of we blind people >> >>> have the habit to relate our rejection (not only in marriages but also >> >>> in jobs and other sectors) to our blindness, but I am sure that if we >> >>> are appealing to the required party then our blindness should not be >> >>> of great concern. Yes having some doubt about our work efficiency is >> >>> quite natural in the case of sighted partner, this may not be the case >> >>> if we are engaged with blind partner. This is the time when we have to >> >>> show our ability (not only through talking but also through working). >> >>> Marrying to a sighted person or vice versa cannot guaranty of >> >>> successful married life. It has very little to do with our blindness. >> >>> I have married to a blind girl, We have not accepted each other >> >>> because we are blind, blindness is just is a coincidence. Let me put >> >>> in other words, My life partner happends to be a person with >> >>> blindness. >> >>> When we are in a hunt of life partner, we cannot over estimate the >> >>> ability of sighted person and we should not under estimate the ability >> >>> of blind partner. >> >>> >> >>> >> >>> On 7/2/14, Shadab Husain <[email protected]> wrote: >> >>>> Hey Bhawani bhai, nice quotes! The key point is that there has to be >> >>>> some "self-interest" for both the parties otherwise the friendship >> >>>> will end. A person with financial poverty and emotional richness can >> >>>> provide emotional support to the emotionally poor but financially >> >>>> rich one and thus can be equal in status. Can we apply it on a blind >> >>>> marrying a sighted? Disagree with it, but I won't - especially after >> >>>> seeing so many examples on Access India. >> >>>> >> >>>> -----Original Message----- >> >>>> From: AccessIndia [mailto:[email protected]] On >> >>> Behalf >> >>>> Of bhawani shankar verma >> >>>> Sent: 02 July 2014 07:13 >> >>>> To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and >> >>>> issuesconcerning the disabled. >> >>>> Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are >> >>>> normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners >> >>>> >> >>>> "Never make friends with people who are above or below you in status. >> >>>> Such >> >>>> friendships will never give you any happiness." >> >>>> - Chanakya >> >>>> >> >>>> "There is some self-interest behind every friendship. There is no >> >>>> friendship without self-interests. This is a bitter truth." >> >>>> - Chanakya >> >>>> >> >>>> both quotations should also be applied regarding partnership. >> >>>> marriage is >> >>> a >> >>>> social partnership between to parties where they have joined each >> >>>> other to satisfy their physical and emotional desires. >> >>>> >> >>>> ----- Original Message ----- >> >>>> From: "aditi shah" <[email protected]> >> >>>> To: "accessindia" <[email protected]> >> >>>> Sent: Tuesday, July 01, 2014 6:24 PM >> >>>> Subject: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are >> >>>> normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners >> >>>> >> >>>> >> >>>>> Hi there everyone, >> >>>>> Have been reading this discussion since a few days, so felt like >> >>>>> expressing my views as well. >> >>>>> >> >>>>> We are all humans blind or not, and we have our own set of skills. >> >>>>> There might be areas we are extremely good at or there might be >> >>>>> areas we cannot do much, in case of us blind it may be because of >> >>>>> our disability whereas incase of sighted it might be due to other >> reasons. >> >>>>> According to me, a happy married life demands a set of some basic >> >>>>> skills, like understanding, cooking, up bringing of kids, earning, >> >>>>> socializing, etc. >> >>>>> Again, these basic requirements differ depending on what kind of a >> >>>>> lifestyle one has. >> >>>>> So, in my view, it does not really matter whether we are marrying a >> >>>>> sighted or a blind, what matters is whether our's and our partner's >> >>>>> skills can meet those basic requirements or not. >> >>>>> Considering this, I disagree from the belief that if a blind has to >> >>>>> marry a sighted, he has to make compromises like marrying someone >> >>>>> economically or intellectually weaker than us. >> >>>>> If a blind who is earning well or is from a well-to-do family or may >> >>>>> be is extremely qualified marries a sighted from a weaker economic >> >>>>> background or qualification, it is not a compromise as far as both >> >>>>> partners together possess the required skills. >> >>>>> Even if a blind is marrying a blind, and both of them can manage to >> >>>>> do the required things, may be in ways different than the normal >> >>>>> world, they can indeed have a successful married life. >> >>>>> >> >>>>> So, it is not about being blind or sighted, it is always about >> >>>>> finding that someone such that with understanding, you can both >> >>>>> match up for each other's shortcomings. >> >>>>> Life partners are like two pieces of a puzzle, one has to find the >> >>>>> other half that fits perfectly, lest we got to spend our entire life >> >>>>> filling the gaps. >> >>>>> >> >>>>> Regards, >> >>>>> aditi >> >>>>> >> >>>>> >> >>>>> >> >>>>> Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing >> >>>>> accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: >> >>>>> http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_a >> >>>>> cc >> >>>>> essindia.org.in >> >>>>> >> >>>>> >> >>>>> Search for old postings at: >> >>>>> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >> >>>>> >> >>>>> To unsubscribe send a message to >> >>>>> [email protected] >> >>>>> with the subject unsubscribe. >> >>>>> >> >>>>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other >> >>>>> changes, please visit the list home page at >> >>>>> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.o >> >>>>> rg >> >>>>> .in >> >>>>> >> >>>>> >> >>>>> Disclaimer: >> >>>>> 1. 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