Jack, I did NOT call you insane. I repeated a line I have heard over and over that has been helpful to me. When I get insulted, I AM taking something personally.
Complaining IS useless. I even found a site (connected to the work of Eckhart Tolle) that aims to end complaining, gossip and criticizing http://www.acomplaintfreeworld.org/howitworks.html AND, I do not say this because I am free of complaining, gossip or criticizing. There are tons of things that the city does that I find absolutely ludicrous. The bike unfriendliness of cookman (the new section) is one of the grossest examples of absolute idiocy. So I make fun of them for it and ride my bike smack down the middle. But I also have to acknowledge that I wasn't there at the meetings, so I have to take some responsibility. All of my experiences sitting in the council chambers were a hoot to me. Ridiculous really. They are not smart people generally speaking. A friend who lives out of state for part of the year and is very active in his community once asked me about one of the council members. "Does that guy have ANY education" he asked me, "He's a buffoon". That's why I can't go to those meetings. I once listened to one of the council members respond to a question and it was perfectly clear that the guy had no idea what the question was about. It was embarrassing. I'd give anything for someone educated in communication and government to sit and write comments about it. Another thing as I yab on. I was at an event where women in smaller government were being celebrated. A fairly well known woman asked me where I lived and when I told her, her response was "Oh boy, you've got problems down there". They should NOT be sitting above members of the community, they should be sitting beneath them. Go sometime for entertainment. I recommend a few cocktails beforehand. I'll go with you, but I need a buzz. And it will be killed fast. That said, we can enjoy what is here. And it genuinely just makes me sad when it seems to bum you out so much. One of my favorite spiritual teachers says something like, "everything is a mess and everything is exactly the way its supposed to be". He's the "I'm an ass your an ass" guy. Anthony DeMello. I will shut up with a quote from Ani Difranco "The world owes me nothing, we owe each other the world". --- In [email protected], "Jack Pitzer" <hing...@...> wrote: > > No, I actually don't take things too personally. > I think you are blissfully unaware of how insulting you can be at times. > You basically suggested I was insane in a recent post. > You told me my perception is wrong. > I love Asbury Park and I have a different vision where I wish the city would go and you tell > me I'm wrong. > Complaining isn't useless when it leads to meaningful discussion, and it breaks down > when you interrupt that discussion by projecting thoughts in which you suggest insanity. > You refuse to understand that my thoughts about AP come from the fact that I love this > place. I subject myself and my car to a 140 mile a day commute because I don't want to > live any place else. > > > > --- In [email protected], "Gabrielle Obre" <gabrielleobre@> wrote: > > > > Thank you so much Jennifer and Jadee for the perception thoughts. > > Jennifer, your balance and equanimity is an inspiration for me and > > something I need to learn from. > > > > Werner, I am truly sorry for going off on you some weeks ago. I know > > how valuable your knowledge of Asbury is. Your love is clear. But > > science does tell us that perception has a lot to do with us. Is it > > Heisenberg's principle that even suggests that we CHANGE reality with > > our perceptions? > > > > I just listened to a talk by Russel Targ, physicist, CIA trainer and > > author of a new book called I think "the end of suffering". Thats > > where my passion lies. I used to be so negative about everything (ask > > my mother). We have to change if we want our world to change. Be > > negative if you want, but it really only hurts yourself. > > > > Jack, you take things way too personally. Life is so much more > > enjoyable when you don't. Whatever someone says has nothing to do with > > us. Only egos get offended. No one can touch who you are at essence. > > Thats freedom. And insanity is doing the same thing over and over and > > expecting different results. And complaining is useless. I don't have > > the time to be as involved as I would like, and I don't have the > > tolerance for the BS, phoniness, scheming etc. And I don't live in the > > past, or reminisce about it. > > > > I am an optimist and most people would look at my life and wonder how > > that is possible. I'm 41 about to enter vocational school. There are > > so many good things happening in the world its amazing. Find a talk on > > FORA tv by Paul Hawken. So beautiful. And it may sound kooky on this > > board, but the only reason we are here is to expand in consciousness > > and love. Yes for our enemies, those who would take us down, etc. > > > > Happy Happy inauguration Day! > > > > > > --- In [email protected], "oakdorf" <oakdorf@> wrote: > > > > > > - > > > maybe "change" is needed in AP as well. > > > > > > Someone to figure out AP's decades old fiscal problems and devise a > > > plan that will focus on becoming self funded with such a reliance on > > > the state, fed gov, singers, builders etc.. > > > > > > Story in the APP on how the 600 school districts are going to HAVE to > > > go k-12 or form regional districts. > > > > > > But that will up to the county to decide. > > > > > > So right along the shore you have Bradley, Deal, Belmar etc - all will > > > have to come to grips soon, as will having to pay a fairer sahre of > > > our property taxes. > > > > > > Anyone see that Neptune has introduced an ordinance to charge a 3% > > > hotel tax? > > > > > > ------------------------------------ Yahoo! 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