Re: security in size?
@Defender, there is so much written on this subject and so much flat cultural baggage that its damnably difficult to find any kind of straight answer even to simple questions.
From third wave feminists who consider any sex to be rape just on principle, to those other third wave feminists who are so overbearing about the joys of female sexuality they flat out deny men have much part in the action at all, to post freudians who would see sexual metaphores in anything up to and including rice pudding and income tax, right wing religious who still think the only purpose of sex is for reproduction, and the only time it should be done is after a wedding, and nobody should do anything as silly as enjoy themselves. Then there are evolutionists who explain that it is! all about reproduction and are in their own way as bad as the religious fundamentalists, and then a fair serving of those who simply project their own dissatisfaction onto the entire world.
In general as I said, the best way to learn is just discuss things honestly with your partner, indeed since fundamentally lovemaking is a participation sport not talking to your team mate is pretty stupid .
If you don't have a partner, you could try a friend with at least a little experience, or try and find some of the very small amount of sane material out there, difficult though that might be.
This indeed is one area where culturally women have a distinct advantage, since its something women friends can and do discuss quite honestly, but its comparatively difficult to find men who will actually discuss the subject like adults, partly I suspect because in none religious circles aforesaid feminists have pretty much usurped the area of discussion as a female only province, and its still assume by a lot of people that men basically all work the same way and have absolutely no sensativity or nuance, something which is, (for anyone with an actually decent relationship with their partner), patently false.
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