>
> As it was, there were a lot of valid reasons why the latter never happened
> - the incident (with Dr. Brin) happened on a holiday weekend in the States,
> many others were simply not reading that particular discussion, and others
> simply aren't in the habit of calling people out in public - preferring to
> either stay out of personal disputes, or bring up such matters privately.
>
> I dunno, but the logic never seemed right to me then, and it doesn't seem
> right to me now.
>
> JDG
>
If Person X wasn't me, it certainly was someone I knew. And I could not
bring myself to hate any of the parties in question. Feuds happen when
people are forced to take sides. (and both sides of this affair were I
think taking the whole thing too seriously because they were emotionally
upset at the time.)
If I had not been at home recuperating from an injury.....I might have
caused a certain amount of disruption trying to access my normally
ordinalry Brin-L email from the office as I had been accustomed to do =
the whole experience was very upsetting. (not that DB would ever believe
it was anything but crocodile tears on my part! Is it possible to ever
come across as sincere online?) but then, I *am* emotionally
dysfunctional, i admit itk, and at first he thought a great deal of me for
admitting it, but when things turned sour....a relationship does not have
to be sexual for both sides to be hurt and even embittered when it goes
bad. No, I am not some ex-lover with whom David broke up after a bad tiff
(he's a married family man for heaven's sake), but I think emotionally it
might have been close. Not just for me but for him, because I think he had
involved himself heavily in the list.
Now, DROP THIS SUBJECT. I learned the hard way not to push it. And it was
too late. And today I have to avoid him at conventions - we kind a aggeed
in an off list RFF message to go separate ways. I am prone to
oversensitivity to criticism and he felt I had deliberately hurt him by
overreacting to his polite statement and overreacting to his reaction in
an evil spiral. Incompatible personalities.
John, I hope you and David Brin get into some interesting discussions
privately someday. (and I suppose you two can commisserate about what an
Evil Bitch I am.) Aren't you two friends?
now GOSSIP MODE OFF NO MORE GOSSIP MODE. this post set me off because I
have painful memories of the summer DB left.
Kristin
