Are you "UNDER THE INFLUENCE" of a destructive group or belief system? Find out with this SELF QUIZ:
Does your group discourage doubts, criticism or ideas that differ from their belief system? Yes____No____ Do you tend to rationalize whatever the group does even when it goes against your sense of right and wrong? Yes___ No___ Do you often feel exhausted from lengthy group activities, meetings and projects? Yes___ No___ Does your group have its own unique words, clichés, slogans, chants, prayers and doctrinal phrases that reinforce the group viewpoint? Yes___ No___ Are doubts viewed as a lack of faith, dedication, commitment or disloyalty? Yes___ No___ Have "your thoughts" become "the enemy?" Yes___ No___ Do you often find yourself doing more and more things in the group or because of group peer pressure that you would not have done on your own? Yes___ No___ Does your group publicly humiliate or criticize members? Yes___ No___ Does your group have a system of punishments and rewards for behavior? Yes___ No___ Group paranoia: Does your group obsessively think other groups or people with different beliefs are out to get them? Yes___ No___ Does the prospect of leaving your group seem scary, difficult? Yes___ No___ Do you feel the need to leave in secret? Yes___ No___ Have you been told something bad might happen if you leave? Yes___ No___ Does your group/belief system think they have/are the only or highest truth, or have the solution for the world’s problems? Yes___ No___ Are your leader’s ideas or belief system considered beyond reproach or sacred? Yes___ No___ Do you follow a particular individual or belief system that requires unquestioning obedience and loyalty? Yes___ No___ ) Do members of your group feel specially chosen, superior, exclusive, elite? Yes___ No___ Do you feel the need to save or convert others to your belief system or ideology? Yes___ No___ Is your group secretive to outsiders about its inner workings, teachings, activities or beliefs? Yes___ No___ Does your group equate purity and goodness to being in your group, and impurity or evil to those outside your group? Yes___ No___ Do you place your group’s mission or agenda above your own goals and ideals? Do group interests come before your own interest Yes___ No___ Do you find yourself thinking in a we-they, us-versus-them mind set? Yes___ No___ Does your group/system have a clear outside enemy? Yes___ No___ Do you see less and less of your family and friends who do not belong to your group or who do not subscribe to your group’s belief system? Yes___ No___ Does your group use frequent public testimonials, confessions, or sharings that reinforce the group’s mission or agenda? Yes___ No___ Is communication within, into and out of your group controlled or censored in any manner? Yes___ No___ Does your group criticize, shun, abandon or demean individuals who leave the group? Yes___ No___ Do members seek approval or get permission from group leader(s) for personal life choices? Yes___ No___ Do you feel pressured to attend meetings, events, lectures, seminars? And do you feel guilty if you don’t attend? Yes___ No___ Do you feel pressured to give a portion of your income to the group, or spend money on courses, books or special projects? Yes___ No___ Are the group’s financial needs more important than your own economic well-being? Yes___ No___ Does your group discriminate against anyone regarding race, gender, belief, or sexual orientation? Yes___ No___ Does your group have a totalitarian structure: a strict, top-down centralized control? Yes___ No___ -------------------------------------------------------------------------- ------ Do you wonder if you have been in a destructive group? Do you... ...have difficulty forming new friendships and intimate relationships? Yes___ No___ ...have low self-esteem, poor self-image or loss of identity? Yes___ No___ ...have difficulty making simple decisions and choices? Yes___ No___ ...often feel depressed, anxious and nervous? Yes___ No___ ...feel isolated, lonely, guilty, cynical? Yes___ No___ ...feel like you are just now growing up, becoming a mature adult? Yes___ No___ ...have short-term memory difficulties? Yes___ No___ ...feel you have nothing to believe in? Yes___ No___ ...often feel anger and rage towards the group? Yes___ No___ ...have nightmares or unpleasant dreams? Yes___ No___ ...find it difficult or impossible to stop mental or other group ritualistic practices? Yes___ No___ This quiz has no scientifically predetermined number of "yes" answers to indicate a destructive group. However, answering "yes" to any of the above questions means you may need to examine your group and its influence in your life in those areas. http://www.goldhammer.com/selfquiz.htm _______________________________________________ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
