Jon Gabriel wrote:
> Speaking of which:
> 3) Things *will* go wrong. Don't worry about 'em. Nobody but you and your
> wife will notice when things go wrong, and no one will remember 'em but you,
> either.
>
> 4) Remember that it's your day. Enjoy yourself. Be happy. Have fun! :)
>
> Anybody else have anything they can add?
> :-)
> Jon
Keeping in mind 4), do NOT let anyone take over control of the whole thing.
*Especially* do not let the photographer dictate things; if the photographer
wants X to be done, and you don't want to do X, then tell the photographer
that it's YOUR show.
This I say having seen a combination of horribly bossy photographer and
superstitious mother-of-the-bride cause there to be WAY, WAY, WAY too much
time between the end of the ceremony and the bride & groom's arrival at the
reception, to where about a quarter of the guests had already left!
We lucked out; we got the name of a very good photographer (and if anyone is
getting married in Austin and you want a recommendation, I think she's still
in business), interviewed her, and found that her primary goal was to let
the couple choose what they wanted done in terms of photography, AND she
scoffed at the whole groom-can't-see-the-bride-on-the-wedding-day thing, and
arranged for us to have a few minutes alone together before the pre-ceremony
photography began.
Also, I've seen a reception end with a few people having bad feelings
because the DJ (who was a last-minute replacement) ran the reception HIS
way, bride-and-groom's-wishes be damned. If there's a last-minute
replacement for someone who's being paid to provide a service, spend a few
minutes with them before they're supposed to start serving, and make sure
they're on the same page with you. If they insist that their way is the
right way, let them know that YOU know the people involved, and THEY don't,
and there's no such thing as the ONLY right way, and yours is probably
closer to the best for this particular group.
Oh, and if it looks like rain, ask one of the attendants (or someone else
you trust) to make sure that everyone in the wedding party is covered with
an umbrella coming out of the church. (Guess what happened to us? Good
thing the dress was 100% cotton, or it might have been ruined, for some
definition of ruined.... That was what most went "wrong" at our wedding, to
the best of my knowledge.)
Julia
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