On Nov 20, 2004, at 11:46 AM, Dan Minette wrote:
Impotence spots seem to adress long term relationships (marriages) that
have been adversely affected by a physical dysfunction. Yes it deals
with
sex, but it seems to deal with it in a healthy manner.
Please describe how you obtained the definition of "healthy" here. I'd
be willing to bet that my ideas of healthy sex, and of dealing with sex
in a healthy fashion, are radically at odds with yours. (For instance I
don't tend to get doe-eyed when thinking of two people who've known
each other forever still having sex -- that's great, but it is not the
definition -- nor even the touchstone -- of sexual health or of dealing
with sex in a healthy way.)
Sure. Sex that is an intimate expression of love between two people is healthy.
So those who engage in group encounters are unhealthy? Extended intimacy partnership groups are unhealthy? People who have sex in order to enjoy sex -- not to express love, but just for the fun of it -- are also engaging in unhealthy sexual contact?
Cite your proofs, please.
Sex that is based on power, dominence, determining one's self
worth by one's sexual marketability, or the use of other people as tools
for self-gratification is unhealthy.
So two (or more!) consenting adults engaging in SM or bondage are also performing unhealthy activity? Prostitution is unhealthy? For that matter, masturbation's out too?
Again, cite your proofs, please.
Another way of looking at it is seeing how healthy/unhealty sexual
relationships affect families. Monogomous sex, that serves as a glue in a
long standing relationship helps to provide a stable environment in which
children grow up.
So a parenting group must engage in sex in order to remain stable? Or are you suggesting instead that only monogamous couples are capable of engaging in healthy sex? (And that, therefore, group parenting is unhealthy.)
This also implies that a single parent is either performing unhealthy sex or is providing an unhealthy environment for his/her children. (Or both.) Is this what you intend to suggest?
Measuring one's manhood by how many different women one has "gotten" or how many children one isn't supporting by these various women is not healthy.
Under whose rules?
Having an affair with a young women that is much closer to one's daughter's age than to one's own is not healthy.
Based upon what factual, immutable, inarguable criteria?
(FTR I'm inclined to agree with *some of* the foregoing -- but I recognize that my bias is likely sourced in my cultural heritage. It's certainly not an objective measure of what is or is not healthy sexuality.)
-- Warren Ockrassa, Publisher/Editor, nightwares Books http://books.nightwares.com/ Current work in progress "The Seven-Year Mirror" http://www.nightwares.com/books/ockrassa/Flat_Out.pdf
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