Dave,

I also understand what you are saying and I would like to add my
agreement to it as well.

I can relate to the comments that Warren was making with respect to
ones beliefs always being "right" from ones own point of view. I
myself have gotten into many discussions with friends about that very
subject. Most people either think the point is trivially true, or
completely misunderstand it. So I just want to make it clear that I
also agree with those comments.

Even though I happen to feel that at any given time my current
thoughts on a subject are "right" I still am able to recognize that
many of my currently "correct" points of view differed in the past.
When presented with new information I am thus rather confident that
such views might stand the chance of changing in the future. While I
feel that some views which have not changed in a long time might never
change, I still must acknowledge the possibility (even if I only
acknowledge it internally).

However the fact that my "right" ideas might change in the future has
nothing at all to do with the idea that someone else might (and very
well dose) hold a differing view point on the subject. I might feel
that they are wrong, but I still should be able to acknowledge without
rancor that they do in fact equally believe in their "right" thoughts.

Their thoughts clearly are based on different data than my own, or
they interpret the same data differently than I do. Thus the point of
any conversation with someone who holds a vastly differing idea than
my own would be for me to learn any new data that they had, explain
new data to them, or try to understand why our interpretations of
common data differ.

If we are able to agree on all of the major data points associated
with a given subject, and also come to have similar interpretations of
this data, then our ideas should largely be in sync.

If you start out by dismissing the very possibility of someone else
having valid data or valid interpretations this type of mutual
exchange will not happen. In affect you are telling the other person
that everything they know about the subject is wrong, or they are
interpreting everything wrong, or both. You are claiming that there is
nothing they can give to you, and instead they must, if they want to
continue the conversation, start only listening to, and agreeing with
your data and interpretations.

It might not be your intention, but that is how it comes across.

Please note the difference here between having to always admit that
you are only expressing your own opinions vs trying to leave open the
possibility that the other person might be right, even if you do not
understand why yet.

This subject is important to me because I am often (always?) a strong
reductionist in any kind of argument. I always reduce complex things
to one or two discrete elements and then build up from there
(conversations are the transmission of data and interpretations of
data...;). I am well aware however that the very act of a reduction
has the chance of outright rejecting a large part of someone else's
basis for their beliefs. I try to be away of this, but I do not always
catch it. As a result I do my best to being open to correction if I do
such a thing.

Not having been a reader of this list for long though (and having only
started contributing in the last couple of days) I could very well be
missing some old arguments or personality conflicts. Leaving that
aside I did not take Dave's comments to be as aggressive as some are
taking them to be. It read a lot more like an honest attempt at
allowing a more fruitful conversation to take place.

John

P.S. There are only two kinds of people in the world, people who put
everyone into two kinds of people, and everyone else.
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