Aahz wrote: > Certainly. And there are also lots of assumptions behind any human > interaction. For example, I tend to be somewhat blind to a lot of > non-verbal cues (partly due to my hearing impairment, partly due to > personality), so I might well have done the same thing as "that guy" > simply because I didn't recognize the two of you as a couple. >
Well, I can see what you're saying. But we were in conversation with full eye contact, and he interrupted me in mid-sentence. It was like I wasn't even there. I'm glad it happened because I am now very cautious when approaching two people in conversation--particularly if they look like newcomers. I don't interrupt people in mid-sentence. I often address the gent first, and ask him if he is planning to ask this lady to dance. (I probably should change this strategy and address them both, asking if they are planning to dance together for the next dance.) If not I would then ask the lady to dance. Often this question prompts the gent to immediately ask the woman to dance. "That guy," by the way, turned out to be a rather decent fellow, just a little lacking in social skills. He was a life-long social dancer for whom dancing was where he was able to stand out. He was tuned into the local dance culture where partnering quickly for the next dance was the prime directive. I am glad that that dance culture is changing. Greg McKenzie West Coast, USA *********** On Tue, Aug 27, 2013 at 3:35 PM, Aahz Maruch <[email protected]> wrote: > On Tue, Aug 13, 2013, Greg McKenzie wrote: > > > > Good ideas. As to the contra dance subculture: I was taken to my first > > contra dance by a woman I had fallen in love with. We were there for > only > > a few minutes when a regular dancer came over to her and--without > > acknowledging my presence or even making eye contact--asked my sweetheart > > to dance. I was shocked. I thought it was the rudest thing I'd seen in > > years. And I never forgot that guy. > > > > I always try to remember that there are a lot of assumptions we make at > > contra dances. Newcomers don't understand many of them. > > Certainly. And there are also lots of assumptions behind any human > interaction. For example, I tend to be somewhat blind to a lot of > non-verbal cues (partly due to my hearing impairment, partly due to > personality), so I might well have done the same thing as "that guy" > simply because I didn't recognize the two of you as a couple. > -- > Hugs and backrubs -- I break Rule 6 > http://rule6.info/ > <*> <*> <*> > Help a hearing-impaired person: http://rule6.info/hearing.html > _______________________________________________ > Callers mailing list > [email protected] > http://www.sharedweight.net/mailman/listinfo/callers >
