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Welcome to this edition of the Meet Women Anywhere Newsletter. This edition focuses on a pitfall I call "The Mind Reading Trap." ------------------------------------------------------------ *Table of Contents * I. The Mind Reading Trap II. Your Questions, Comments, or Success Stories III. Next Edition ------------------------------------------------------------ -------------------------- *I. The Mind Reading Trap* -------------------------- The other night I had dinner with my wife and her recently single friend (I'll call her Amy). Amy is 28, very attractive, very outgoing and personable, and basically the kind of girl most guys would love to date. She had been living with her ex for several years before the recent break up, so she definitely feels a little awkward about the whole dating scene. As people often do after a breakup, Amy feels a little insecure about being single again. She asked for my advice on how and where she could meet a good guy. Frankly, I was a little bit stumped. I mean, that's not really what I do. I have spent years concentrating and studying on how men could have more success with women, but I don't really think much about how women can meet men. But as we discussed it further I realized that Amy's story is a perfect example of how important it is for men to be proactive about meeting women. Her story makes it crystal clear why men have to be ready to "go for it." I asked Amy if she had met any men recently or been around any men that she wanted to meet. This is where it gets very interesting. She saw this cute guy while she was shopping. They made eye contact, they did the "aisle dance" (walking past each other repeatedly, pretending to be looking at stuff near each other, etc.), they did everything but have a conversation. He was definitely paying attention to her, but he never said anything or tried to strike up a conversation. So eventually, she left. When I asked why she didn't say something to him, she looked at me like I was nuts! And of course, this is how most normal women would react. Why will women almost never make the first move? Because this is not their role. They are not comfortable making the first move. *They don't want to be the pursuer, they want a bold, confident man who pursues them!* I am sure this guy would have loved to met Amy. He was obviously interested and hoping that somehow they would end up talking and he would get her number. But he couldn't bring himself to say anything to her. Why? I can guess what part of the problem was. Like most guys in that situation, the whole time they were "aisle dancing" he was probably having a mind-reading internal dialogue that went something like this . . "Wow, she is hot. Maybe, I should say something to her. Nah, she probably would just blow me off. If she was interested she would give me some kind of a signal or say something to me. I'd go talk to her if she acted like she wanted me to, but she doesn't seem interested. She is too good-looking anyway, I'm sure she has a boyfriend. Why should I waste my time just to get shot down." So he just talked himself out of a chance to meet and possibly date this great girl! What an absolute waste. In reality he knew nothing about her or her current situation, but he fell into the Mind Reading Trap and convinced himself that he had no shot with her at all. This is a really good lesson for all guys because the Mind Reading Trap is such a common pitfall. The Mind Reading Trap is the erroneous belief that you can read a women's mind, know what she is thinking, and figure out whether you will succeed before you ever approach her. Trust me, it is absolutely impossible to know for certain what she is thinking. I don't care how many books on body language you read, you can never know. So don't waste your energy trying to know the unknowable. Think about it, this woman is a complete stranger to you. You don't know anything at all about her, yet somehow you are supposed to be able to read her well enough to know whether she wants you to approach her? That's insane! Imagine if a realtor decided that he would only show houses to people he was 100% certain would want to buy. If he wasn't 100% certain, he wouldn't even try. How many houses do you think that realtor would sell? I'm guessing he would be looking for another line of work pretty quick. The only sensible thing to do in this situation is to take charge. To control that which is within your control. When you see a girl you want to meet, take a shot. Walk up to her, ask her a question, tell her you noticed her, ask her if she knows where they keep the lightbulbs, anything, but take a shot and say something! You won't get her number every time you try, but you will succeed a LOT more than you think. In fact, you will be shocked at how well you do. And when you are ready for proven strategies on how to meet women and get dates, see Take Action!, the dating advice book that is helping men to meet women anywhere and everywhere. Take Action! gives you all the tools you need to begin meeting women today. Click on the link below (or cut and paste) to learn more: http://www.dating-pickup-lines.com/takeaction2 http://www.dating-pickup-lines.com/takeaction2 Before you know it you will be emailing me to tell me about the incredible improvement in your dating life! Don't worry, I won't say "told you so." :) ------------------------------------------------------------ --------------------------------------------------- *II. Your Questions, Comments, Or Success Stories * --------------------------------------------------- I often get emails with questions or problems about how to handle certain situations with women, particularly about how to approach them. While there are not enough hours in the day for me to individually respond to each of these emails, I love getting them because it gives me some great ideas on what areas men need to focus on. And most men have very similar problems that fall into just a few categories, most of which are easily correctable. I can promise you that whatever problem you may have, a thousand other guys have had the exact the same issue, and many of them have learned to overcome them. On top of questions, I also get a lot of emails from guys who have read my book and are amazed at the results that they're getting. Mostly, these guys just want to brag about their successes! I love hearing about what a difference Take Action! can make, so please, send 'em in! Here is how to email me a question or success story about meeting women. The basic format is: 1. Be brief with your description (1 or 2 paragraphs), 2. Let me know if you have already read Take Action!, 3. Include your initials and hometown, and 4. Send your email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] and put the word "question" in the subject line. I will select the emails that address the most common questions and issues and respond to them in future emails. By emailing me you are giving your express permission for the question to be used in a future newsletter edition. Of course, I want to respect your privacy, so only your initals and hometown will be listed, NOT your email address or name. ------------------------------------------------------------ -------------------- *III. Next Edition * -------------------- In the next edition we will discuss the use of compliments as a way to tremendously improve your chances when you meet a woman, so be on the lookout for it in your inbox. 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