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  Thursday, September 09, 2004 


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Lenders Beware 


Whew. There sure are a lot of deadbeat borrowers out there. 

 Last week I asked readers to e-mail me their stories of how they played banker and 
were left
with an IOU. Well, the stories have been heartbreaking, horrible 
and hilarious. 

 Here's a sample of what I've received (for obvious reasons I'm withholding names): 

 "I have season tickets for the NFL with a friend of over 20 years," one reader wrote. 
"A couple
of years back, he was having some money problems and I paid for 
his season tickets (about $300). He promised to pay it back 
ASAP. About 5 games into the season and he's looking at me like 
I'm crazy when I ask him if he'll be able to repay soon. Boy, 
did he get an attitude. I explained that I wasn't pressuring 
him. It's just that I expected the money to be paid back in a 
reasonable amount of time and now I need the money 'cuz I'm 
running a little short and the mortgage is due. His response was 
that I should learn how to manage my money a little better. He 
did wind up paying me back about two weeks later. I learned a 
valuable lesson." 

 I hope that lesson was you have a jerk for a friend. 

 The nerve of this guy giving his friend a lecture about money management!

 Read on:

 "I sold my car (I could have gotten twice as much from someone else) to my best 
friend and
told her to pay me when she could. After more than a year had 
passed, I was getting married and could use the money. I asked 
her if she could start to pay me back in installments. To this 
she replied, 'I'm trying to buy a house and I will see what I 
can do.' I couldn't believe it. Needless to say, the friendship 
was ruined. After 8 years, we're talking now, but I learned 
never lend more than you're willing to lose." 

 This next e-mail is evidence that some people need to have their butt whipped.

 A reader wrote: "My boyfriend asked for $15,000. He wrote a promissory note [which 
included
a provision] for interest. He promised to pay me back in a year. 
I had received the money from a mortgage loan I had taken out to 
buy myself a new home in Florida." 

 The woman bought a home and allowed the boyfriend to move in. But he was using the 
money he
had borrowed to pay his share of expenses.

 "It was like I was paying him to live with me," the woman wrote. 

 Even I couldn't believe what happened next. Her boyfriend called the police after 
they got
into an argument over the money he had borrowed. 

 "I got arrested in my own home. I was thrown in jail. It cost me $6,000 to hire a 
lawyer to
get my arrest record expunged and to sue the ex for my money! I 
still haven't gotten it!" 

 I truly hope Hot in Florida, as she signed her e-mail, has figured out where she went 
wrong.

 Ladies (and gentlemen), if your honey needs to borrow a large sum of money, you need 
to show
him or her how to fill out a loan application - from a bank. 

 I would still love to hear from borrowers? Don't be afraid. I just want to know why 
all the
excuses? Why don't you come clean if you don't have the money? 
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[EMAIL PROTECTED] .What to Do With a Windfall 



 Did you see "Jeopardy" last season and the awesome answer man, Ken Jennings? If not 
you have
to read about his performance - 
http://letters.washingtonpost.com/W8RT044E2E4E82949E17F3F5FF52A0 

 Jennings was unstoppable until a show taped Tuesday - 
http://letters.washingtonpost.com/W8RT044E2E0EB2949E17F3F5FF52A0
 that will air in the fall, according to TV Week's Web site - 
http://letters.washingtonpost.com/W8RT044E2E1EA2949E17F3F5FF52A0 . He ended
up winning about $2.5 million overall in cash and prizes, 
according to TV Week sources. 

 Jennings's success at answering trivia questions makes me wonder: What would I do if 
I won
such a large sum of money?

 Susan B. Fulton, managing director at WealthTrust.FBB in Bethesda says if you come 
into money
-- a life insurance payment, car accident settlement, 401(k) payout -- play smart.

 "There is an inherent excitement that comes with the receipt of unexpected money and 
many
make foolish mistakes," says Fulton, who is a certified 
financial planner. 

 So what should you do if you get a lump sum of money?

 "Your first steps should be dictated by your life priorities," Fulton advises. 

 Your second step should be to find a professional to help you figure out what to do 
with your
windfall. If you're not sure where to start, click on this 
column - 
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 that may help. Educators Tax Break



Recently, I urged people to support legislation - 
http://letters.washingtonpost.com/W8RT044E292142949E17F3F5FF52A0 
 that would reinstate the federal tax break educators used to get.

 Well, one reader made a good point. She wrote:

 "I have worked as a school secretary for the past 18 years. I agree that teachers 
should be
granted a tax break for all of the supplies that they purchase 
for the classroom. But, I think that the support staff should be 
considered in this break, also. As a secretary, I have bought so 
much for the staff and students out of my own pocket over the 
years -- from rewards for students to activity books -- to keep 
them busy while I baby-sit them on bad weather days or when they 
can't go outside because of an illness or a behavior problem. 
When I see classroom and office supplies on sale, I often 
purchase them because we need them. I am sure you are well aware 
that the income of the secretaries in school systems doesn't 
hold a candle to the income of the teachers, so I think it would 
be nice to be considered for that same tax break." 

 I agree. Penny Pinchers



John McKee of Falls Church hit this way off the green for me. He 
wrote: 

 "My wife and I decided to take on the task of painting the hallway upstairs including 
the
high ceilings above the steps. Instead of buying a long 
extension roller to reach the ceiling, I thought I could use 
something I already had in my golf bag. That's right, I used my 
ball retriever that extends 30 feet. I simply duct taped a 
roller on the end of it and I was painting my high ceilings in 
no time. I saved time and money, which I hope to use on the golf 
course 
chasing balls with my retriever."


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 I went to the Rite Aid across from my office the other day and found a slightly 
awkward situation:
an impromptu bank line. A group of customers, rather than lining 
up behind individual cash registers, had formed one single line 
that fed all the cash registers, as at a bank or airport 
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 MUTUAL FUNDS
Federated Manager Is Wary of U.S. Equities - 
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 Steven Lehman is avoiding the U.S. stock market in his $1.7 billion Federated Market 
Opportunity
Fund because he says equity prices may be lower 10 years from 
now. 

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 CONSUMMATE CONSUMER
Reporting Rip-Offs (As Seen on TV!) - 
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latest miracle ab exerciser, 
a get-rich-quick scheme or a weight-loss supplement, many of 
those call-now-and-order products hyped on infomercials and TV 
shopping networks are nothing more than tacky junk. Separating 
the rip-offs from the useful gadgets isn't always 
easy.

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 WASHINGTON INVESTING
Real Value In a Mall Sale Is in the Property - 
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of Columbia for $12.6 
billion has made investors realize that a major regional 
shopping mall is a lot like a piece of land -- valuable because 
they aren't making 
any more of it.

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