Congrats to you, and especially Katy, on having such a good week! As for the having more than one child, you never know what you're going to get with the second (or third or fourth I imagine!). Our first didn't like to sleep and wanted to eat all the time as a baby, and was very slow to roll over, crawl, walk, etc. Our second is a very sleepy baby and eats quickly - and started rolling over at 3 months! He's only 4 1/2 months right now, but already is so different from his older brother at the same age... But having a second isn't twice the work - it's much more! And our oldest has done a great job of adapting to having a younger brother - although the occasional jealousy tantrum does arise...
But this is without the younger one actively trying to get his older brother's toys... in a few months, when the crawling has been mastered - all bets are off! :-) All that to say, it's amazing what you can adapt to and manage. 5 years ago, I would have said you were nuts if you would tell me I'd end up with 2 boys under 3... Now, I seem to be coping. Or at least effectively deluding myself! Have a great weekend all! :-) Lisa >From: Samantha Morris <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >Reply-To: "canada" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >To: "canada" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >Subject: [canada] RE: for Sam >Date: Fri, 10 Sep 2004 10:45:57 -0700 > >Thanks so much Martha. I appreciate your kind words. What you say makes >total sense. Its just hard to see the end of the tunnel right now. I see >you have twins that are 3. I honestly don't know how people have more than >1 child. Perhaps if Katy hadn't been my first I would have bit the bullet >again. I'm 37 and I don't know if I can handle doing this all again. Part >of me wonders if Katy had a sibling she might be easier, but my >psychologist >said that she could be worse!! > >I know what you mean about not being a follower. I've always believed >that. >She is smart as a whip. People are always amazed at her command of the >English language. She knows some pretty big words too =-) I'm just so >scared about doing the right thing in my parenting to channel all this >stuff >the right way. Its such a critical part of making them who they will >become. > >Anyway. Thanks very much for writing. You don't know how much I >appreciate >it!! > >Katy had a good day at Lori's yesterday. She didn't throw up all week =-). >Hopefully we are on our way to getting over that little phase. I took her >to buy a treat on the way home yesterday since she was such a good girl for >Lori all week. I just hope we can build on this now. > >Thanks again! >Sam > >-----Original Message----- >From: doug [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] >Sent: Friday, September 10, 2004 6:16 AM >To: canada >Subject: [canada] for Sam > > > "Its been a really hard few weeks. I do honestly doubt myself and >my parenting skills a lot lately." > >Awww, Sam! I hate to hear you say that! Don't doubt yourself. You're >doing a great job at facing a really difficult challenge. You're not >sitting around hoping this will fix itself, you are actively pursuing help >and guidance to get through this problem - that is sooo much more than many >of us parents are smart enough to do! You are also smart to find ways to >vent, here and hopefully with your friends and family. It's so important >to >find ways to get some of your frustrations and concerns out so you're not >bottling them up. > >I think so many of children's behaviours are personality related, not >"parenting" related. The kind of strong willed behaviour you're describing >is like that. I don't think you can "parent" that away and I don't think >you should. It can be such an asset. Strong willed people are less likely >to be followers. They won't succumb to peer pressure as easily as others. >They are the people who are often very successful in their education, >careers, etc... They can also have trouble accepting authority. I think >the parenting challenge here is to find ways to positively channel the >positive aspects of the strong willed personality and find strategies to >minimize the negative aspects of this personality. > > "I just hope the teenage years are nicer to me (ha ha I know!!)" > > >Don't psych yourself out about the teenage years! You are really on top of >her behaviours now. It is hard work right now, but you may find ways to >work "with" her behaviour, rather than "fight" it. If you are able to do >that now, you'll be all set for the teenage years and be way ahead of the >other parents who dealing with these kinds of behaviours for the first time >when the hormones hit! So try to find a positive side to this whole thing. >Be pleased that your daughter won't be "pushed" around and excited to know >that you're identifying the issues now so that you have lots of time to >develop a really great relationship with her. > >Big ((((HUGS)))). I know it's hard. 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