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--------------------------------------------------- If you read Self Improvement Books, this free newsletter is for you. Information on new book releases, best sellers, book reviews, excerpts, special promotions, interviews with the authors & more. This is an opt-in, by request only newsletter. Subscriber information is listed at the bottom of this email. --------------------------------------------------- Send all questions to [EMAIL PROTECTED] Phone: (732) 761-9930 In this issue: => Sponsor of the Week => What�s New? Self-Help NEW BOOK RELEASES � November 3-4, 2004 => Self-Improvement Book Store => What Are People Reading? AMAZON.com Top 5 BEST SELLERS for Self Help => Book Excerpt: Live the Life You Love: In Ten Easy Step-by-Step Lessons � By Barbara Sher => Book Excerpt: The Right Relationship Can Happen: How to Create Relationship Success � By Nancy Pina => Book Review: Tibetan Buddhist Altars: A Pop-Up Gallery of Traditional Art and Wisdom � By Tad Wise, Robert Beers, David A. 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An Amazing Way to Deal with Change in Your Work and in Your Life � By Spencer Johnson, Kenneth H. Blanchard (Foreword) http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=0399144463/selfimprovemeonlA/ -------------------------------------------- *** BOOK EXCERPT: Live the Life You Love: In Ten Easy Step-by-Step Lessons � By Barbara Sher *** ------------------------------------------- What would it take to make you really happy? Would you have to be a huge financial success? Have the biggest house in town? Own your own helicopter? That's what advertisers tell us is the key to happiness. Well, I think they're totally wrong. Unless you have some innate, personal love of big houses or helicopters, don't let yourself buy into someone else's idea of the good life. If you do, you're in for a big letdown. Because no one but you has any idea what will make you happy. What you love is as unique to you as your fingerprints. You need to know that because nothing will make you really happy but doing what you love. Just look at people who are actually living their dreams. You can see a calm focus in their eyes and patience in their actions. They know they're in the right place, doing the right thing. I know a man who loves getting up in the morning, going out into his kennel and checking on his Jack Russell terriers. "I can't wait to get out there and say hello, see if they're okay, have them say hello to me." I know a fourth grade art teacher who says, "I love to create an atmosphere that makes the children open up. You should see what they paint. I think they're the greatest artists in the world!" And I know the owner of a cafe who loves to go to work every day. "There's nothing like having your own place. I like everything about it, grinding the coffee, talking to customers, even wiping the counter." Somewhere inside yourself you know what you love, too. You dream of starting your own business, or traveling the world, or finding the right mate; you wish you could ride the horses on your own ranch, or lead your party to victory as a senator; or go diving off the Great Barrier Reef with a fabulous underwater camera. Or maybe you don't know exactly what your dreams are, but you can sense them somewhere deep within you. Even when they're not clearly defined, they're never far away. As a matter of fact, dreams are almost impossible to get rid of. They trouble and tempt you. They keep reminding you that you're not satisfied with your life, that something crucial is missing. And that's very lucky for you. If your dreams didn't trouble you, you'd forget them entirely. That's what you were trained to do. Most of us were told that we'd have to make daunting sacrifices to go after what we love: we'd have to abandon our lives and live in garrets or on mountaintops and we'd have to have talent a thousand times greater than anyone else, because only special people make it. Whenever we dream out loud, we're criticized for being foolish by people who really have no idea how special we are. As a result, we crush our dreams without giving them half a chance. Whenever we begin thinking, "I'd love to travel," or "I'd love to paint," we quickly rattle off all the reasons why we can't: "I don't have the money, I don't have the time, I might not be good enough..." How do I know all this? Because I'm just like you. In the middle of trying to survive as a single working parent with two jobs, I too watched my birthdays come and go. When my life would get quiet for a moment, I could hear the nagging voice of unfinished dreams. What were they? I didn't really know. But sometimes in the evenings after I'd put the children to bed, I'd have thoughts I never would have admitted to anyone: maybe I was special. Maybe I was supposed to be doing something remarkable Maybe one day I'd be respected for doing what I loved. Sometimes I'd even take a tentative step. I'd convince myself that I should be able to make something of myself, no matter what the odds. After all, we create our own reality, don't we? All I had to do was believe in myself and I could do anything, right? At least, that's what it said in every self-improvement book I'd ever read�and I had read them all. Just think positive, tough it out, never quit. If you can't follow through on a dream, the problem is all in your head. Change your thinking. Pardon me, but when I write those words I start getting all steamed up because believing them made me feel like a complete failure. If those phrases work for you, more power to you, but they have never worked for me. I can't tell myself how to think. I can't do just anything I set my mind to (trust me on that one�I've been trying to learn Latin for years). As for quitting, I'm famous for it. I still fall off diets with stunning regularity. I say this now almost proudly, but back then I was certain that I was doomed to failure. I'd watch those TV commercials that show people with perfect bodies happily exercising on machines, and I'd listen to the promises that I could look perfect too if I'd only buy that machine and use it. But I didn't fall for the ads because I had tried a dozen times to exercise and by now I knew persistence wasn't my long suit. I'd lose motivation, or I'd get lonely; I was often in a lousy mood, I'd look for a million things to do besides exercise. Maybe someone out there could follow the instructions they give but not me. I knew myself too well to even try. Anyway, maybe what I loved wasn't so important after all. Maybe my dreams wouldn't really make me happy. Maybe this feeling that I'm special and that my dreams should matter was foolish, even neurotic. Maybe dreams are just that�dreams and nothing more. So I sighed and decided to give up. Obviously, I didn't have the right stuff in me. If I couldn't even stick with exercise, what was the point in trying for anything really big? When you don't have what it takes, you just settle for less. Oh, was I wrong. It takes my breath away to think about how close I came to closing the door on all my cherished dreams. But one day a question lodged itself in my mind and refused to go away. If I was such a failure, how had I managed to finish school and hold jobs and raise kids? Those were all hard to do. They required continued persistence over many years! And I had done them! How? Not with positive thinking or believing in myself, or improving my attitude one bit, that's for sure. I must have accomplished those feats some other way. I felt on the verge of a very big discovery. I was so excited that day I called all my startled friends and shouted into the phone, "We can all have what we want and we don't have to change at all, and we don't have to have the right attitude or anything! Isn't that astounding? We've all been sold a bill of goods! I'll get back to you on this!" Obviously I had my own way of accomplishing hard things. Determined to design a program that would suit me, I sat down and carefully took apart every belief I ever had about what it takes to achieve a dream. So I wasn't perfect. So what? I wanted a life I would love anyway, and I wanted it as soon as possible. And I was willing to rethink every assumption I'd ever had to get that life. What I learned changed my course forever. The list price for this book is $12.95. To purchase it for $10.36 at a 20% discount from Amazon.com, go directly to http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=0440507561/selfimprovemeonlA/ -------------------------------------------- *** BOOK EXCERPT: The Right Relationship Can Happen: How to Create Relationship Success � By Nancy Pina *** -------------------------------------------- >From Chapter One: Self Discovery Discovering your true self, discarding built-up pretense that is designed to disguise vulnerability, and accepting who you are will change your future relationship outcomes. Self-reflection provides vital answers that will help you to attract the best-suited individual and then allow that person into your life. By delving into past experiences in other significant relationships, you can end the cycle of drawing individuals who do not serve your desired purpose of creating a successful, committed relationship. Only by understanding your reasons for drawing particular individuals at each specific life stage will you obtain insight and clarity. The process of self-discovery leads down many different paths, depending on our ability to tune into our inner voice of truth and reason and allow it to be our guide. This guidance pertains especially to the type of individuals we permit into our intimate lives and the effects those choices have, influencing not only our behavior, but also our interactions with those around us. Tapping into the wisdom of your soul's truth, understanding you possess the internal tools necessary to create what you desire - especially the right relationship - is the start of our journey. In your search for happiness, making mistakes along the way is the part of the journey as each experience and every individual you have encountered so far has aided in your soul's growth, whether the experience was positive or negative. All reflected back to you lessons you needed to learn in order to evolve as a person. If experiences seem to repeat in your life, you have not completely understood the lesson yet. The path to discovering the right relationship is not a straight line, but one with twists and turns that we will learn to smooth out by examining the types of individuals you have attracted into your life. When thinking of a significant past relationship, can you see instances where you seemed to now what was about to occur but denied that inner feeling or intuition? In moments before critical vents, do you seem to hear your inner voice telling you not to do something? Developing an understanding, acceptance, and appreciation for your intuition is of paramount importance in self-discovery. The best ways to describe intuitive feelings is in physical terms: you may feel that you have "butterflies in your stomach," "a lump in your throat," or "a gut feeling." Your subconscious mind is alerting you to intuitive messages through your senses. In your inner thoughts, there are new ideas, sparks of creativity, and clues to your genuine self. From these inspirations of the mind come aspirations, such as the desire to live a genuine life and share it with the right partner. Your conscious thoughts can often try to undermine these pure ideas by flooding you with validity questions and playing on your doubts, fears, and anxieties. But remember, the only true teacher is the one who has always been with you, your inner voice. Your intuitive mind is the voice of your true self, but it is often ignored because of subconscious fears. The journey of self-awakening takes great courage. It is a path that requires reaffirmation of your intention to practice self-discovery every day. Over the course of my career, I listened to numerous stories from divorced men and women who experienced a moment of clarity just before they married their former spouses. Their intuition told them not to marry these partners, but their conscious minds, their egos, overpowered them with feelings of guilt and social obligation. On their wedding days they knew they were marrying the wrong person. I have heard others say that they knew intuitively when entering into new relationships that they were repeating an unsuccessful cycle with the same type of partner as before. They allowed their conscious minds to reaffirm their emotional choices and ignored their inner knowledge of the predetermined outcome. Clarity emerged once they decided to take a closer look at the qualities that consistently attracted them and the unmet needs they repeatedly tried to fulfill through their intimate relationships. As Helen Adams Keller (1880-1968) so expressively wrote, "When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened up for us." In past relationships, have you looked so long at a closed door that you missed the new one that opened? To get additional information on �The Right Relationship Can Happen� or to purchase a copy from Amazon.com, go directly to http://www.yourtruematch.com/amazonspecial.htm -------------------------------------------------- *** BOOK REVIEW: Tibetan Buddhist Altars: A Pop-Up Gallery of Traditional Art and Wisdom � By Tad Wise, Robert Beers, David A. Carter *** ------------------------------------------------- Wise, who brought us Tibetan prayer flags in a gift box with "Blessings on the Wind," offers another treat for grownups who are interested in Tibetan Buddhist practice. This pop-up book features five colorful Tibetan altars, such as might be found in a home or monastery. Wise and Beer encourage readers to use the book as a devotional tool, finding a quiet space and spreading the book (which opens with two "doors" from the center of the cover, like a temple) to the appropriate pop-up for meditation. Each pop-up page includes a mantra to recite as well as a glorious three-dimensional image of Green Tara, Shakyamuni Buddha, Avalokiteshvara, Manjushri, or the Medicine Buddha. All five embody different spiritual qualities and can be called upon in various times of need--Medicine Buddha in case of sickness, for example, or Green Tara to protect the devotee from fear. Some readers may also wish to incorporate use of a 108-bead rosary (not included). Copyright � Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved. The list price for this book is $21.95. 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