I will tell Xiao Yu that her beautiful language is her most intimate direct
relationship with her heritage.  I want her to know that I don't expect her
to convert to English or being American.  We are all integrating into her
culture.  We are very active with the Spokane Chinese Association, and while
Spokane is certainly not a hub for Chinese people, I seem to find a Chinese
person or two at most places where we go.  Recent visits to Costco and
Wal*Mart each found Chinese speaking shoppers (or employees) who could
translate for me upon request.  Walt, Sarah and Zoey are learning her
language and that process had begun before she got here.  I will try to keep
CHINESE food available to her at all times in the refrigerator, until I can
see that she has moved into a comfort zone where food is concerned.  The
Chinese Language School teacher is also going to teach us some basic skills
in Chinese cooking and then anyone can make dinner, including the three
older girls.  We attend the Spokane Chinese Associations functions, and
we've become regular members.  We get all their regular newsletter postings
via email, which demonstrates how accepting they are of our family as group
members.  There is nothing about Xiao Yu's culture, which is become a part
of her, that I want to see fade away; rather, we will try to embrace the
culture/language more into our lives.  Fortunately, Walt and the girls are
motivated to do so.  Sarah is proud to be learning Chinese.  Walt knows it
is really tough to learn, but he is always putting in the effort.  They are
in their second semester of study.  The Chinese Language School principal
was very disappointed that Xiao Yu did not opt to come to class last week.
She insists Xiao Yu attend this Saturday.  They will talk with her, and
determine how to integrate her into the school.  There is an advanced class,
and Xiao Yu's language skills are clearly advanced!  Like we continue to
study English in our educational system, I want Xiao Yu to have the
opportunity to continue to master her lanuage.

About her name.  We call her Xiao Yu.  She learned in CHINA that Xiao Yu
means Jade.  She is enrolled in school as Jade XiaoYu Bowden.  She seems to
"go with the flow" - and I expect she accepts the American people calling
her Jade, in a "when in Rome, do as the Romans do" - kind-of thing.  At home
no one uses Jade, but that may change (or may not).





Paula Bowes mother to: Xiao Yu 13, Sarah 11, Zoey 10, Eric 5, Jill 4 and Beth Anne 2

ShaoWu SWI - Fujian Province, PRC
LOI 12/17/03, PA 2/9/04, LID 6/29/04, TA 9-20-04, Adopted: 10-10-04 Agency: Adoption Advocates Int'l




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