mmm all the strong feelings were in favor of withholding as I recall and in this instance I think withholding is really the more compassionate way to go.
Dana On Mon, 31 Jan 2005 13:32:41 -0600, Deanna Schneider <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Hm.... Well, actually, she was always a bear of a human being. She > never (at least in her adult life) had many friends. She was always > extremely judgemental and difficult to be around. She was always > paranoid - people were stealing her husband, we were conspiring > against her, blah blah blah. I think she probably had some undiagnosed > mental issues all her life. That all magnified as she got sicker. She > used to call my parents and leave really vile messages for "that slut" > (my mom). We've often wondered at the irony that of all the > grandparents, she was the least loved and the one that's lasted the > longest. I don't mean to be crass, but the reality is that some people > just aren't all that likable. My mom and dad have done a good job of > being respectful to her and of doing their best to take care of > someone that's never made it easy. In some ways, the further dementia > was a blessing. She seemed to get past the really mean part and mostly > was just funny - like looking at the world through a 3 year old's > eyes - full of wonder again. She's been happier than she ever was, in > her state of confusion. I still don't consider it a quality life. The > phone scares her, she's still super paranoid. She "hid" her dentures > long ago and we've never replaced them, because she'd just hide them > again. She's incontinent and abusive (physically) to the staff if they > try to help her. I'm amazed that a little 92 lb woman can be so ornery > when she wants to be. She's bruised several of the employees. > > Anyway, I just thought it would be interesting to see if all the folks > with really strong convictions about end of life issues would feel the > same when it was someone "real." > > > On Mon, 31 Jan 2005 12:49:03 -0600, Gruss Gott <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > Deanna wrote: > > > Would you do it? Or, would you do the feeding tube? Discuss. > > > > > > > Getting old can be so undignified. In this case it sounds like she's > > led a full life and certainly has an intelligent granddaughter, which > > is probably an indication that she raised good kids. Living a long, > > full, successful life like that is quite an accomplishment. > > > > Even if a cure was 10 years away, it probably wouldn't be helpful to > > her, so if it was me I'd want euthanasia, but I guess the non-feeding > > tube method is the next best legal one. It sounds like your parents > > will know best. > > > > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Purchase Captivate from House of Fusion, a Macromedia Authorized Affiliate and support the CF community. http://www.houseoffusion.com/banners/view.cfm?bannerid=52 Message: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=i:5:145595 Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/threads.cfm/5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=s:5 Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5 Donations & Support: http://www.houseoffusion.com/tiny.cfm/54
