I think it's at least the norm of what my parents went through. My husband and I, on the other hand, are much more in sync.
You could offer to go to a Unitarian church with the family - it won't upset your agnostic sensibilities, yet will allow your wife to honor her belief system as well. It's a nice balance. -d On 12/5/06, Zaphod Beeblebrox <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > First off, in case you don't know, I'm agnostic. Agnostic in the > sense that I can't prove what's out there, but then again, if there is > something out there, I'm certain it's not the god/gods we've been > worshiping on this rock. My wife grew up methodist, but no longer > goes to church, and believes in the god of the bible. My daughters > have all gone to a baptist based mothers-day-out (my wifes grandmother > is baptist and attends here) program for years up until now when my > oldest is now in a secular school. I kinda cringe whenever I hear my > daughters singing these religious songs and definitely didn't like > hearing my daughter expound on why she wanted a dress with a cross on > it (so everyone would know that jesus died for her...and she was 5 at > the time). My wife also agreed with me that the dress thing was a > little over the top so we put my daughter in public school > kindergarten instead of the kindergarten program they had at this > church. > > Anyway, last night we were talking about our circle of friends and how > all the men are agnostic while the women have faith. She remarked > that friend A's husband would at least go to church with them to set a > good example. I replied that I didn't think that was setting a good > example at all because it would be hypocrisy. She thinks that without > my catholic upbringing, I wouldn't have the knowledge to make my > decision today. I look back on my catholic upbringing as a wasted > effort at brainwashing. The conversation ended with this remark, > "Let's not talk about this anymore, this is something I'm not proud > of"........ouch! That was a dagger. > > The conversation wasn't heated at all, and I really don't think she > meant to be hurtful, but it seems to me that she believes my > agnosticism to be defect of some sort. I didn't say anything about it > last night, but it really did bother me throughout the night. I have > a feeling that most mixed religion households would probably go > through this and that I might be overreacting. The thing is, the > feeling is not reciprocal, I'm neither proud nor ashamed that she's > got a faith in god. That's just who she is, and I'm proud of her in > whole. > > thanks for letting me get that off my chest. :) > > feel free to chime in and tell me that this is the norm :) > > > -- > "You scumbag, you maggot > You cheap lousy faggot > Happy christmas your arse > I pray God its our last" > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Create robust enterprise, web RIAs. Upgrade & integrate Adobe Coldfusion MX7 with Flex 2 http://ad.doubleclick.net/clk;56760587;14748456;a?http://www.adobe.com/products/coldfusion/flex2/?sdid=LVNU Archive: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/CF-Community/message.cfm/messageid:221658 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/CF-Community/subscribe.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
