Actually, i have some sympathy for Sandy's ex-- I am not justifying his 
actions - clearly he is behaving like a freak, but I suspect its that 
he isn't mentally all there right now.  Remember his wife just left him 
(for another man no less), and I would assume she didn't leave  him 
because he is a wonderful, happy person to be with - perhaps he was 
already depressed, perhaps its a drinking problem - either of those 
situations might cause someone to behave in an inappropriate manner.  

BEFORE you flame me for this message- I do not condone his actions.  At 
all.  I am glad Sandy filed a restraining order, but I am hoping that 
he has 'shot his wad' so to speak and will leave her alone.  I think 
that attempting to have him arrested for trying to make an ebay 
purchase may a)  make him more unstable (and i don't think its because 
he is a jerk, i really think he is unstable and b) may cause him to be 
more abusive to Sandy. 



----- Original Message -----
From: "Michael Corrigan" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
Date: Thursday, February 14, 2002 12:30 pm
Subject: Re: RE: Screams of Anguish

> I agree with your sister Sandy.  Step out of your situation for a 
> second 
> and ask yourself, what advice would you give to someone else in 
> your 
> situation?  I think that should help you decide what to do.
> 
> Also, by allowing him to get away with this, you are, at least in 
> his 
> mind, saying that it's ok to do this and he will keep doing it.  
> If you 
> need support, I'm sure that there are a myriad of organizations 
> out 
> there that have the resources to help you with these things.  I 
> just 
> afraid that he will continue to escalate this and by doing 
> something to 
> stop him, you will most likely be able to break the momentum.  
> Don't 
> allow yourself to be in position one day where you find yourself 
> saying 
> "If I only would have done this or that, then I might have been 
> able to 
> prevent this stuff"  Hind sight is 20/20 so use your past 
> experiences to 
> give you that vision.
> 
> 
> Michael Corrigan
> Programmer
> Endora Digital Solutions
> 1900 S. Highland Avenue, Suite 200
> Lombard, IL 60148
> 630-627-5055 x-136
> 630/627-5255 Fax
>  ----- Original Message ----- 
>  From: Sandy Clark 
>  To: CF-Community 
>  Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:25 AM
>  Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish
> 
> 
>  I've actually requested the forms from the US Attorney's office. 
> Its a 
> pain
>  and I'm not sure its worth my time to pursue, but as my sister 
> said 
> when I
>  told her (she is a US Marshall), "He's a big boy and has to reap the
>  consequences of his actions."
> 
>  So I guess I will pursue.  Hard to believe it has to come to 
> this 
> tho....
> 
>  -----Original Message-----
>  From: Larry Lyons [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
>  Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 12:05 PM
>  To: CF-Community
>  Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish
> 
> 
>  Its a power thing from the sounds of it. In other words, "You 
> can't do 
> this
>  to me so I'm going to prove it to you by messing up stuff of yours!"
> 
>  damn I hate that sort of adolescent tripe.
> 
>  I'd seriously consider doing the wire fraud charges.
> 
>  larry
> 
>  --
>  Larry C. Lyons
>  ColdFusion/Web Developer
>  Certified Advanced ColdFusion 5 Developer
>  EBStor.com
>  8870 Rixlew Lane, Suite 204
>  Manassas, Virginia 20109-3795
>  tel:   (703) 393-7930
>  fax:   (703) 393-2659
>  Web:   http://www.ebstor.com
>         http://www.pacel.com
>  email: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
>  Chaos, panic, and disorder - my work here is done.
>  --
> 
>  > -----Original Message-----
>  > From: Sandy Clark [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
>  > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:59 AM
>  > To: CF-Community
>  > Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish
>  >
>  >
>  > Apart from moral support I don't think so.
>  >
>  > He's called me and threatened me.
>  >
>  > This weekend he broke into my ebay account, locked me out of
>  > it and changed
>  > my username and password so I couldn't get in and Attempted
>  > to buy something
>  > with that account.
>  >
>  > Luckily I was able to prove all of this to Ebay's
>  > satisfaction and not only
>  > did they restore my account, they actually ended up deleting
>  > his.  (which
>  > surprised me no end!)
>  >
>  > I'm contemplating filing criminal charges (wire fraud) against him
>  >
>  > Funny thing is I just want him to leave me alone.  You'd
>  > figure if someone
>  > moved 3000 miles from you,you would get the picture???
>  >
>  > Sandy
>  >
>  > -----Original Message-----
>  > From: Larry Lyons [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
>  > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:50 AM
>  > To: CF-Community
>  > Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish
>  >
>  >
>  > On the first part, that's great.
>  >
>  > As for the second, that sucks.
>  >
>  > Anything we can do to help?
>  >
>  > larry
>  >
>  > --
>  > Larry C. Lyons
>  > ColdFusion/Web Developer
>  > Certified Advanced ColdFusion 5 Developer
>  > EBStor.com
>  > 8870 Rixlew Lane, Suite 204
>  > Manassas, Virginia 20109-3795
>  > tel:   (703) 393-7930
>  > fax:   (703) 393-2659
>  > Web:   http://www.ebstor.com
>  >        http://www.pacel.com
>  > email: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
>  > Chaos, panic, and disorder - my work here is done.
>  > --
>  >
>  > > -----Original Message-----
>  > > From: Sandy Clark [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
>  > > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:54 AM
>  > > To: CF-Community
>  > > Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish
>  > >
>  > >
>  > > <cfset Answer = true>
>  > > <cfset answer = "good">
>  > >
>  > > 5 miles from home, at my contracting rate and no Overtime!!!
>  > >
>  > > Very Glad I am not in LA after this past week.
>  > >
>  > > I actually had to file for a restraining order on my ex and
>  > > he is still in
>  > > LA.  What a mess.
>  > >
>  > > -----Original Message-----
>  > > From: Michael Corrigan [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
>  > > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:37 AM
>  > > To: CF-Community
>  > > Subject: Re: RE: Screams of Anguish
>  > >
>  > >
>  > > By the use of upper case, I'm assuming that you got a new gig?
>  > > True/False?
>  > >
>  > > <cfif answer eq "True">
>  > >     good/bad?
>  > >     <cfif answer neq "Bad">
>  > >         CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
>  > >     <cfelse>
>  > >         Well, look at it this way...you could still be in LA ;^)
>  > >     </cfif>
>  > > <cfelse>
>  > >     My Bad! Here's a muffin...and a beer.
>  > > </cfif>
>  > >
>  > > Michael Corrigan
>  > > Programmer
>  > > Endora Digital Solutions
>  > > 1900 S. Highland Avenue, Suite 200
>  > > Lombard, IL 60148
>  > > 630-627-5055 x-136
>  > > 630/627-5255 Fax
>  > >   ----- Original Message -----
>  > >   From: Sandy Clark
>  > >   To: CF-Community
>  > >   Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 10:27 AM
>  > >   Subject: RE: RE: Screams of Anguish
>  > >
>  > >
>  > >   The only thing that was fusebox in that project was that 
> they 
> had
>  > >   fuseactions. Other than that, it was so screwed up, it
>  > wasn't funny.
>  > >
>  > >
>  > >   I'm a big fusebox proponent,  Unfortunately, they won't be 
> using  > > fusebox in
>  > >   my NEW JOB!!!!!!
>  > >
>  > >
>  > >   -----Original Message-----
>  > >   From: Beth Fleischer [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
>  > >   Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:03 AM
>  > >   To: CF-Community
>  > >   Subject: Re: RE: Screams of Anguish
>  > >
>  > >
>  > >   fusebox fixes alot of these issues
>  > >
>  > >   ----- Original Message -----
>  > >   From: "Sandy Clark" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
>  > >   Date: Thursday, February 14, 2002 11:05 am
>  > >   Subject: RE: Screams of Anguish
>  > >
>  > >   > At the last place I was at, they weren't ready for me to 
> do 
> the
>  > >   > project I
>  > >   > was hired to do and threw me at doing QA testing on
>  > > another project.
>  > >   >
>  > >   > I have never seen code where every query in a page was
>  > named "Q".
>  > >   >
>  > >   > Comments on code read something like
>  > >   > <!-- Now increment a by one --->
>  > >   >
>  > >   > However Custom Tags were never commented by were named 
> something
>  > >   > scary like
>  > >   > <CF_RunFromScriptA>
>  > >   >
>  > >   > I feel your pain.  C, I really really do.
>  > >   >
>  > >   >
>  > >   > ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
>  > >   > Sandra Clark
>  > >   > Macromedia Certified Advanced Coldfusion 5.0 Developer
>  > >   > Shayna Productions
>  > >   > http://www.shayna.com
>  > >   > [EMAIL PROTECTED] <mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
>  > >   >
>  > >   >
>  > >   >
>  > >   > -----Original Message-----
>  > >   > From: C. Hatton Humphrey [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
>  > >   > Sent: Thursday, February 14, 2002 10:57 AM
>  > >   > To: CF-Community
>  > >   > Subject: Screams of Anguish
>  > >   >
>  > >   >
>  > >   > Okay, I've got to vent somewhere, and since we're all CF 
> people
>  > >   > here I can
>  > >   > do so and not completely confuse my audience.
>  > >   >
>  > >   > I am tasked with updating and maintaining a B2B EC site 
> that 
> has
>  > >   > been in
>  > >   > existence for over 3 years.  I just recently (November) 
> moved 
> it
>  > >   > from FoxPro
>  > >   > to SQL Server for a datasource.  Now I'm doing more
>  > mods to it and
>  > >   > am having
>  > >   > to deal with 800 and 1,500 line pages that have the same 
> query 
> 4
>  > >   > times with
>  > >   > one ID reference different.
>  > >   >
>  > >   > I think the great Geek Cartoonist Illiad said it best in
>  > > this strip:
>  > >   > http:
>  > >   >
>  > >   > C. Hatton Humphrey, Developer
>  > >   > Fisher, Towne & Associates
>  > >   > 716-839-2141 x336
>  > >   > [EMAIL PROTECTED]
>  > >   >
>  > >   >
>  > >   >
>  > >
>  > >
>  > >
>  > >
>  >
>  >
> 
>  
> 
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