Some inline comments... > Well the prime set of kids I've watched grow up over the last 12 years > was day-cared by their grandmother who runs a day care and it seems to > be a pretty nice one. She's very organized and, I think, very good > albeit a bit on the authoritarian side. I'd have to say she has a > good day care from the looks of it.
So, are those kids better behaved than the kids in the article? > That having been said, the kids are extremely annoying. ah. apparently not... > The oldest > boy is starting his change of life and that's, shockingly, mellowed > him out some and now you can actually speak with him here and there. Change of life? Puberty? Tween? menopause? big muscley sports car? :-D > He once threw water on my car for no apparent reason and, while it was > only water, it displayed what I consider to be a lack of respect. I > just haven't seen that kind of behavior with kids with stay-at-home > parents. OMFG! Water!!!?!? Hope you chopped his arms off! I would hope that there's not a "slippery slope" comment coming as a response. This time it was water...next time... sulfuric acid! ya' know, you could probably make a case of impulse control issues too. Maybe even find a doc that'll prescribe meds. That'd make it much easier, no? In fact, I'd be willing to bet you could pick at random a Pediatrician who'd recommend some sort of counselling, too. Sometimes kids do stupid-ass stuff. there's no sense of consequence. do his parents set limits and consequences? are they logical? consistent? Logical consequences and consistency are paramount when dealing with behavioral issues. Is the "authoritarian" grandmother offset with extremely permissive parents? Does she say "no jumping on the furniture" and when the parents get home, and the kid runs across the livingroom without touching the rug, do they simply say something like, "Oh goodness, junior has so much pent up energy he just needs a release, it'll be okay..." that sort of crap freaks kids out! I'm not saying that they have to be as authoritarian as Grandma, but there's got to be some consitency, even if it means finding a daycare that is closer in style to there own parenting skillset. Both (all) "parents" need to be involved. No, I am not suggesting one must have two parents in order to be raised properly, what I _am_ saying is that everyone that is "parenting" this kid needs to be on the same page discipline-wise. They need to set the boundaries and what the consequence is. Not everything is going to be an easy read, what would a logical consequence be for throwing water on a car? But the way that a situation is dealt with must be agreed by everyone involved. > I should add that 100% of kids I've met in France are well behaved. I wish this were true in my own experience. I have met both well behaved and devil-spawn French chillins', just like 'mericans. > The average school kid there is about 80% better behaved than the > average kids here. They riot better there, the students. right to the burning cars, they've really got it down to a science. > There are the street urchins of course, but > they're the same all over. indeed. the workhouse for the lot! -- will "If my life weren't funny, it would just be true; and that would just be unacceptable." - Carrie Fisher ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| ColdFusion MX7 by Adobe® Dyncamically transform webcontent into Adobe PDF with new ColdFusion MX7. Free Trial. http://www.adobe.com/products/coldfusion?sdid=RVJV Archive: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/CF-Community/message.cfm/messageid:231481 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/CF-Community/subscribe.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=11502.10531.5
