In other words its easier to detect honesty in RL rather than virtually. larry
-- Larry C. Lyons ColdFusion/Web Developer Certified Advanced ColdFusion 5 Developer EBStor.com 8870 Rixlew Lane, Suite 204 Manassas, Virginia 20109-3795 tel: (703) 393-7930 fax: (703) 393-2659 Web: http://www.ebstor.com http://www.pacel.com email: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Chaos, panic, and disorder - my work here is done. -- > -----Original Message----- > From: Jerry Johnson [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > Sent: Tuesday, April 16, 2002 1:04 PM > To: CF-Community > Subject: RE: Internet cited as marriage wrecker > > > I know. I was just being a pain. > > Although, come to think of it, many of my best friends have > come from Internet and email conversations, turned into IRL meetings. > > There is no rush to move a relationship (of any kind) along > on the web, it just sort of meanders along. > > I learn a lot about the (in)consistancy of a person based on > that time-lapsed view. > > But I would never base a LTR (or even a short one) on just a > web friendship. > > And the sample you used (sheena greatbabe720) tells me almost > all I need to know about that user. > > l0z3r! :) > > Jerry Johnson > > >>> [EMAIL PROTECTED] 04/16/02 12:22PM >>> > But lets face it, its a bit easier to tell if sheena > greatbabe720 is as she > says she is, and GregStud10 is actually so. > > larry > > -- > Larry C. Lyons > ColdFusion/Web Developer > Certified Advanced ColdFusion 5 Developer > EBStor.com > 8870 Rixlew Lane, Suite 204 > Manassas, Virginia 20109-3795 > tel: (703) 393-7930 > fax: (703) 393-2659 > Web: http://www.ebstor.com > http://www.pacel.com > email: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > Chaos, panic, and disorder - my work here is done. > -- > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: Jerry Johnson [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > Sent: Tuesday, April 16, 2002 12:17 PM > > To: CF-Community > > Subject: Re: Internet cited as marriage wrecker > > > > > > Unlike the bar and singles club scenes where everyone is so honest? > > > > Jerry Johnson > > > > >>> [EMAIL PROTECTED] 04/16/02 12:13PM >>> > > Actually, I think the issue with the internet is that its so > > anonymous that > > people feel free to lie their asses off. > > > > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > From: "Larry Lyons" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > Sent: Tuesday, April 16, 2002 7:19 AM > > Subject: RE: Internet cited as marriage wrecker > > > > > > > The real big problem with it is that in terms of meeting > > people in bars > > and > > > so on, you have a lot of social cues and nuances that at > > least give you > > some > > > idea of the person. Chat rooms, emails etc don't have > those cues. So > > there's > > > a greater chance of making bad judgments regarding the > > person. I expect as > > > social behavior evolves for the web we'll start seeing the > > equivalent of > > > those same nuances and cues. > > > > > > larry > > > > > > -- > > > Larry C. Lyons > > > ColdFusion/Web Developer > > > Certified Advanced ColdFusion 5 Developer > > > EBStor.com > > > 8870 Rixlew Lane, Suite 204 > > > Manassas, Virginia 20109-3795 > > > tel: (703) 393-7930 > > > fax: (703) 393-2659 > > > Web: http://www.ebstor.com > > > http://www.pacel.com > > > email: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > > Chaos, panic, and disorder - my work here is done. > > > -- > > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > > > From: Dan Phillips [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > > > Sent: Tuesday, April 16, 2002 11:13 AM > > > > To: CF-Community > > > > Subject: RE: Internet cited as marriage wrecker > > > > > > > > > > > > I think the net can deffinately provide a way for people to > > > > meet others. One > > > > thing the net offers over a bar setting is that you can't > > > > actually see the > > > > other person. That gives people a certain courage to be very > > > > open and honest > > > > (sometimes too honest.) I'm sure we all know someone who > > > > knows someone who > > > > met online and started out innocently but soon were in > > over their head > > > > before they knew it. > > > > > > > > Dave Barry has a great story about this in his CyberSpace book. > > > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > > > From: Kevin Schmidt [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > > > Sent: Tuesday, April 16, 2002 11:06 AM > > > > To: CF-Community > > > > Subject: RE: Internet cited as marriage wrecker > > > > > > > > > > > > For once I think I agree with Larry :) The internet is > > only a tool. > > > > It's like saying that the bar is the equivalent of the > > internet. Yes > > > > you can pick up women on the internet just like you can at > > > > the bar. But > > > > if you are picking up women on the internet or at the bar, > > > > that signals > > > > a greater underlying problem. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > > > From: Larry Lyons [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > > > Sent: Tuesday, April 16, 2002 10:03 AM > > > > To: CF-Community > > > > Subject: RE: Internet cited as marriage wrecker > > > > > > > > My point exactly Erika, if it were not the net, or EverQuest > > > > or politics > > > > or > > > > whatever, it would be something else. If the marriage is > > in trouble, > > > > then > > > > its not the internet or whatever, its the people > > involved. The web or > > > > EverQuest or what have you is only an excuse. The time > > spent on those > > > > decrease as the other problems are resolved. > > > > > > > > larry > > > > > > > > -- > > > > Larry C. Lyons > > > > ColdFusion/Web Developer > > > > Certified Advanced ColdFusion 5 Developer > > > > EBStor.com > > > > 8870 Rixlew Lane, Suite 204 > > > > Manassas, Virginia 20109-3795 > > > > tel: (703) 393-7930 > > > > fax: (703) 393-2659 > > > > Web: http://www.ebstor.com > > > > http://www.pacel.com > > > > email: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > > > Chaos, panic, and disorder - my work here is done. > > > > -- > > > > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > > > > From: Erika L. Walker-Arnold [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > > > > Sent: Tuesday, April 16, 2002 10:55 AM > > > > > To: CF-Community > > > > > Subject: RE: Internet cited as marriage wrecker > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Actually, now that I've had time to think about it ... any > > > > > "hobby" can be > > > > > deemed a marriage wrecker if "abused". > > > > > > > > > > A fanatical love for cars, stamps, soccer, sitting in a pub, > > > > > you name it ... > > > > > I'm sure there are people who have taken their > > > > > marriage/relationships to the > > > > > edge and gone by putting too much time into other > > > > activities, and not > > > > > spending enough time with spouses/partners/children. > > > > > > > > > > Why, even too much work can kill a relationship. > > > > > > > > > > You have to now when to call it quits. When to sit on on the > > > > > couch, snuggle, > > > > > talk, spend quality time together. > > > > > > > > > > I think it all comes down to will power and time management. > > > > > As well as what > > > > > are your priorities in life. > > > > > Some people can juggle it all! > > > > > > > > > > BUT! Also, be aware, that sometime, some relationships cannot > > > > > be saved, and > > > > > it is not anyone's fault, some people do grow out of > > each other, for > > > > > whatever reasons. > > > > > > > > > > Erika > > > > > with a K > > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------ > > > > > > > > > > >>|-----Original Message----- > > > > > >>|From: Larry Lyons [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > > > > >>|Sent: 16 April 2002 15:48 > > > > > >>|To: CF-Community > > > > > >>|Subject: RE: Internet cited as marriage wrecker > > > > > >>| > > > > > >>| > > > > > >>|After reading the article, it seemed rather self-serving, > > > > > >>|perhaps to drum up > > > > > >>|support for that counseling service? > > > > > >>| > > > > > >>|I am very skeptical of these so-called articles there's > > > > > typically more > > > > > >>|anecdote than data. I'm still waiting for a decent > > study to be > > > > > >>|done on the > > > > > >>|issue, perhaps something like relating divorce rates with > > > > > >>|internet usage and > > > > > >>|type of internet access (broadband vs. dialup; mainly at > > > > > >>|work/school or at > > > > > >>|home etc). Otherwise its just hearsay. > > > > > >>| > > > > > >>|larry > > > > > >>| > > > > > >>|-- > > > > > >>|Larry C. Lyons > > > > > >>|ColdFusion/Web Developer > > > > > >>|Certified Advanced ColdFusion 5 Developer > > > > > >>|EBStor.com > > > > > >>|8870 Rixlew Lane, Suite 204 > > > > > >>|Manassas, Virginia 20109-3795 > > > > > >>|tel: (703) 393-7930 > > > > > >>|fax: (703) 393-2659 > > > > > >>|Web: http://www.ebstor.com > > > > > >>| http://www.pacel.com > > > > > >>|email: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > > > > >>|Chaos, panic, and disorder - my work here is done. > > > > > >>|-- > > > > > >>| > > > > > >>|> -----Original Message----- > > > > > >>|> From: Dan Phillips [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > > > > >>|> Sent: Tuesday, April 16, 2002 10:34 AM > > > > > >>|> To: CF-Community > > > > > >>|> Subject: Internet cited as marriage wrecker > > > > > >>|> > > > > > >>|> > > > > > >>|> Here is an interesting topic for discussion. > > > > > >>|> > > > > > >>|> > > > > > http://news.bbc.co.uk/hi/english/sci/tech/newsid_1931000/1931035.stm > > > >>|> > > > >>|> > > > >>|> **sits down with blueberry muffin and glass of > Juice, waiting for > > > the > > > >>|> discussions to begin** > > > >>|> > > > >>|> > > > >>| > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ Structure your ColdFusion code with Fusebox. 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