Sounds like maybe they need sports! And yes, sports is my answer to everything :)
On Thu, Apr 30, 2009 at 9:01 AM, Michael Dinowitz < [email protected]> wrote: > > There's a limit to reading. Really. > Let me put this in perspective. I just got my oldest son (11) a complete > digital set of star trek books, almost 600 altogether. I don't know the > exact percentage he's already read but it's over 15% and that was all from > physical books. Do you want to know what he was doing last night on the > computer rather than playing games? sorting the books into folders, making > shortcuts to other folders (name, series, groupings) and the like. And I > can > say that he's only slightly above average when it comes to reading in this > family. Our family motto is "there are not enough people in the world > reading so we have to pick up the slack" :) > > Maybe she does find the schoolwork boring. I'll mention that to Judith so > she can bring it up tonight (Thursday nights I'm out till 12). Maybe we can > set up an alternate study path with her teacher. On the other hand, she > might just resent any attempt on our part to 'interfere' with her studies. > Minefield time again. :) > > On Thu, Apr 30, 2009 at 9:31 AM, Cameron Childress <[email protected] > >wrote: > > > > > I'm not a parent - so feel free to disregard anything I say, but I > > would say that a kid who won't stop reading books isn't the worst > > thing in the world. Maybe she doesn't want to do her homework because > > it's the same lame and boring stuff she already learned in class that > > day. She may just be seeking something new to learn in the books. > > > > I always avoided homework like the plauge. Hated it. I'd actually > > calculate how much homework I could just simply never do and still > > pass a class just based on test grades and in-class assignments. But > > I read a nearly book a night for several years. > > > > If these behavior problems are all around schoolwork, it might not be > > a behavior problem, it might just be a lame schoolwork problem. I > > haven't read the entire thread, so I may be off base but a reward of a > > new book (even form the library) might be a better carrot than the > > stick you are using now. > > > > -Cameron > > > > On Thu, Apr 30, 2009 at 8:48 AM, Michael Dinowitz > > <[email protected]> wrote: > > > Not really. I think the association with homework is due to the > timeline > > > from when she gets home till when she should go to sleep. The more > time, > > the > > > more resistance. > > > > > > We've talked to her teachers and they give the same story we know. > She's > > > smart and has been using it to coast through her work without using a > lot > > of > > > effort, something that is starting to become a problem as the grades > get > > > harder. She's "a dear to work with" but lazy in certain fundamental > ways. > > > > > > I think that she gets upset the more we stop her from being lazy. After > > > sending her to sleep last night I came in a few times (to put Sarah > Binah > > to > > > sleep, get her a bottle, etc.) and each time I removed a book from her > > > hands. 4 books and a radio she 'borrowed' from Judith. By the 4th book > > > Judith was home and that's when she got really beligerant. She was > laying > > on > > > the book with her finger inside and when I took it, it hurt her finger > > (she > > > says so I believe it). Her excuses such as sleeping with it, etc. just > > > didn't fit the facts and when called on that she exploded. I think > that's > > > one of the keys with my kids. They don't lie well and when called on > > their > > > lies, they react badly. I've got to teach them to have better escape > > routes. > > > :) > > > > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Adobe® ColdFusion® 8 software 8 is the most important and dramatic release to date Get the Free Trial http://ad.doubleclick.net/clk;207172674;29440083;f Archive: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/message.cfm/messageid:296504 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/subscribe.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=11502.10531.5
