I think that when someone is unhappy with their situation, whether it be paid or volunteer work - or even a relationship, they should generally do the following:
1) Take Action: Attempt to change what you feel is wrong. At work this may mean attempting to change something about the company that annoys you. In a relationship that may mean communicating what annoys you to your significant other. In no case should you sit back and just "take it" till you explode. If #1 doesn't work then: 2) Evaluate Compromise: If the situation isn't going to change, or not change enough for your taste, are you willing to compromise yourself? Are you willing to adapt to the situation if the situation isn't willing to adapt to you? If you are not willing to compromise your position, then: 3) Move On: Leave the relationship, the job, or in this case, your volunteer position. I really don't think whether or not you are getting paid even has anything to do with this. If both you and they are unwilling to change, then you really should move on. But only after considering #1 and #2 first. -Cameron On Thu, Nov 12, 2009 at 10:12 AM, Scott Stewart <[email protected]> wrote: > In what little spare time I have I help teach a children's martial arts > class at the school that I train at. In exchange I get to train for free, > but I don't get paid for it. > > The lead instructor is going to France for six months, for college. Which > would leave me as the head instructor. > > 1) I came up through a traditional martial arts school, where even with very > young kids discipline was stressed from day one, and there were consequences > for student's misbehavior in class (push ups, wall sits, etc.) > > 2) My school stressed basics and mastery of techniques, it took a minimum of > two years to go from beginner to black belt. > > 3) I teach the way I was taught > > > > The lead instructor teaches very differently, it's all about fun and games > and it's more of a recess than a martial arts program, at least for the > beginners. The woman that is my backup used to be the head instructor in > this program and taught the lead instructor, he teaches the way that she > does. > > I have been told by the school owner that some of the parents do not like > the way that I teach and that I need to bend and compromise and are > threatening to take their kids out of the program until the lead gets back, > my backup has made no bones about the fact that she doesn't like the way > that I teach. > > > > Their black belts have only been training for a year. > > > > The school owner has made some promises to me, pertaining to rank > advancement which haven't happened.. If I was still at my school back home > I'd be working on my 3rd Dan Black Belt, as it stands I'm still a 1st Dan, > with no hope of advancement. > > > > There are other places that I can train, and move forward. > > > > I'm just concerned that I've compromised too much, is it really worth the > stress.. > > > > -- > > Scott Stewart > > IT Consultant/ColdFusion Developer > > 4405 Oakshyre Way > > Raleigh, NC 27616 > > (919) 874-6229 > > > > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Want to reach the ColdFusion community with something they want? Let them know on the House of Fusion mailing lists Archive: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/message.cfm/messageid:307781 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/subscribe.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=11502.10531.5
