Hi Scott, Well first let me say that the simple fact you are even asking speaks volumes about the quality of father you hope to be. My heart goes out to you about having to put your little bean in daycare so early.
Infants at that young age respond mostly to touch and sound. So lots of cuddles and talk to her as much as you can. If you're just chilling on the couch do it shirtless with your bean on your chest wearing just a diaper. (or naked if you want to live on the edge) Skin to skin contact is very important for creating early bonds. Talk to her a lot. My wife and I always employed a "no baby talk" policy with the kids (that condescending oochie koochie crap always sent chills up our spine). So we just talked to both our girls like they were adults from the start. Including them in conversations, asking them questions, telling them what we were doing etc. So for instance when we were changing her diaper or taking her temperature we would always tell her. "I'm just going to stick this thermometer under your arm pit, it's going to cold honey, so be prepared." We are firm believers that babies understand much more than they can convey. That's a little off topic though, sorry. To me the most important thing you can do is just spend time. Doesn't really matter what you are doing, just be there. Give your bean lots of reasons to trust you, since right now she's learning how to trust. That's about the best advice I can give. My hat's off to you for being so aware. It's too bad more dads can't be more like you. On Fri, Dec 4, 2009 at 9:33 AM, Scott Stewart <[email protected]>wrote: > > I know there's some seriously good dads on this list, I need some advice > (wisdom). As much as we didn't want to we've had to put our daughter into > daycare, we can't afford to live on one salary, so my wife has to work. > > My daughter is only 3 months old, and I don't think she has any concept of > what's going on. > > > > I want to be a better (read: more involved) father than my dad was, What > do > you guys do to make sure that the time that you do get to spend with your > kids the best quality time it can be? > > > > -- > > Scott Stewart > > IT Consultant/ColdFusion Developer > > 4405 Oakshyre Way > > Raleigh, NC 27616 > > (919) 874-6229 > > > > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Want to reach the ColdFusion community with something they want? Let them know on the House of Fusion mailing lists Archive: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/message.cfm/messageid:309030 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/subscribe.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
