Maybe you need to instruct the bully in the ways of the Jedi, personal like :)
Seriously though, aside from what needs to be done to the bully, I would suggest that your nephew take some kind of self defense classes. The mental blow something like this can have can be enormous. The structure of martial arts, and the self confidence it brings with it can be very beneficial. There have been a lot of good stories from people that were assaulted, robbed and even raped, about how much more secure they felt after some basic training. I like grappling styles, Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. The Rangers have been doing it for years, and the Army combative manual is moving to it. I started doing it when I was still in N.C. Really good workout, and actually a very useful fighting style. I know everyone wants to see the bully punished, as he should be, but personally I would be more concerned about how you nephew deals with it. I have been jumped and beat up pretty bad before and it can really cause you as much mental pain as physical. I know it would be great if we didn't have to think about teaching our kids how to defend themselves, but we all live in the real world (well most of us do). The cops and teachers can and will only do so much. Many of them are just as scared of the bad kids as anyone. Just an idea. Tim -----Original Message----- From: Raymond Camden [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Friday, August 29, 2003 7:47 AM To: CF-Community Subject: RE: fights in school - Update So, I have more info now and that I'd share. The fight was not 100% one side. The bully first shoved my nephew, then my nephew told him to quit and pushed him back. My nephew turned away, and when he turned back, the bully punched him right in the mouth. Still seems like a pretty tight case. Oh, and it gets better. My nephew's cousin goes to the same school. A week before the bully threatened him. He reported it to a teacher. Yesterday, the father of my nephew asked the principal about this report... and the principal said he had no idea what they were talking about. They went to the teacher who had taken the report - and the teacher said he thought it was just stupid kid crap and ignore it. Lovely. I wonder if I can home school? Oh, and the bully is still at school... and was braging about how much attention he was getting. -rc > -----Original Message----- > From: Dana Tierney [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > Sent: Thursday, August 28, 2003 6:33 PM > To: CF-Community > Subject: Re: fights in school > > > If the parents have the means to do so I would encourage them > to bring legal action, personally. Especially against the > school which in my opinion has the responsibility to provide > a safe environment. They will hear lots of whining about the > taxpayers' money, but should remember that they ARE the > taxpayer (right?) > > And if it were me, yes, I would insist on bringing criminal > charges with great prejudice. Tell them to be prepared for > many people to try to talk them out of it, and for lots of > blaming the victim. > > I have been though this, and my thought at the time was that > hey this si my kid and if his mother won't stand up for him > these people sure as heck are not going to. Also, since this > kid apparently attends the same school, I would make a great > noise about how this child need to not have to worry aboput > running into this other kid in the halls tomorrow. Keep him > out of school if necessary. > > Dana > > cantrl. a writes: > > > Jeez! Why can't the kids these days do like the President and talk > > everything out peacefully? > > > > > > > > > > >So, someone I know, a 13 year old, was just beat up at school. All > > >his teeth were knocked out. The child in question who beat > him up was > > >17 years old, and had a long history of violence in the > school (was > > >even kicked out last year and sent to one of those 'camps'). What > > >kind of legal options are available to his parents? I'm > assuming at > > >the least they can have the cops pick the kid up and bring > suit for > > >damages against the parents, and maybe the school for leaving this > > >little punk in? (And yea, I'm a little mad now. The 13 > year old is a > > >sweet kid who weighs about the same as my 3 year old - in other > > >words, he is tiny.) > > > > > >-rc > > > > > > > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm?link=t:5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm?link=s:5 Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5 Signup for the Fusion Authority news alert and keep up with the latest news in ColdFusion and related topics. http://www.fusionauthority.com/signup.cfm
