----- Original Message -----
From: Ben Braver
To: CF-Community
Sent: Tuesday, December 30, 2003 6:57 AM
Subject: Re:I think I'm in trouble
I really agree with Larry. I think a committed relationship, whether marriage or not, is a partnership. If one goes off making decisions that affect both without consulting, that's not right.
Eri*K*a and Philip have an excellent perspective on this - if it isn't significant, then of course go ahead and do it.
Just my tuppence.
-Ben
>Glad it worked out Matt, lesson learned, if you're going to be spending
>most of the rest of your life with the lady, you'd better involve her in
>the decisions.
>
>larry
>
>At 11:53 PM 12/29/2003, you wrote:
>>And now, the final word...
>>
>>She finally looked at the car this evening and rode in it . LOVED it.
>>
>>Says to me: Even when you're wrong, you're right.
>>
>>We're keeping it now.
>>
>>All this problem was due to the fact that I didn't include her. She
>>doesn't care so much what I bought, just the approach that I took.
>>
>>This is easily proof that God exists.
>>
>>:-)
>>
>>This girl is wonderful... it's just that she overreacted on this
>>occasion.
>>
>>- Matt Small
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>On Monday, December 29, 2003, at 06:48 PM, Andre Turrettini wrote:
>>
>> > Matt, I would strongly suggest that if you sell a mustang, then sell
>> > hers.
>> > This car will maintain value better because of its collectibility.
>> > Plus, she has to drive the minivan and not you!
>> > DRE
>> >
>> > -----Original Message-----
>> > From: Matthew Small [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>> > Sent: Monday, December 29, 2003 1:56 PM
>> > To: CF-Community
>> > Subject: Re: I think I'm in trouble
>> >
>> > The car:
>> > http://www.hotrod.com/featuredvehicles/96679/
>> > <http://www.hotrod.com/featuredvehicles/96679/>
>> >
>> > On Monday, December 29, 2003, at 02:53 PM, Ben Braver wrote:
>> >
>> > > Glad it's all working out, Matt.
>> > > She sounds like a good person.
>> > > Happy New Year to you both.
>> > > -Ben
>> > >
>> > > >OK everyone, I have a lot of answers straight from the source...
>> > > >
>> > > >1) She's upset because I made a major purchase without consulting
>> > > her.
>> > > > To my credit, I have been telling her that I wanted something new,
>> > > but
>> > > >I didn't find anything until I saw this Mustang.
>> > > >
>> > > >2) She would not have been mad if I had bought something sensible,
>> > > just
>> > > >a bit annoyed that I had not included her. This is not because she
>> > > >wants to dicate things to me, it's because if I had been thinking
>> > > about
>> > > >what is good for us rather than me.
>> > > >
>> > > >3) I was wrong, I will admit it.
>> > > >
>> > > >4) She told me that if I wanted the car, I could keep it if it was
>> > > what
>> > > >I wanted, and she meant it.
>> > > >
>> > > >5) We tried to return the vehicle. There is no 72 hours right of
>> > > >rescission on automobiles.
>> > > >
>> > > >5) We were going to trade it for something else (the dealer gave us
>> > > >this choice) but there was nothing else in my price range that I
>> > > liked.
>> > > >
>> > > >6) We've decided to keep it and sell it outright. I feel that I can
>> > > >get at least what I put into the vehicle since it's below blue book.
>> > > >
>> > > >7) I'm taking her out tonight to Carraba's for some delicious
>> > mussels.
>> > > >
>> > > >8) She's a wonderful, understanding person. She was just extremely
>> > > >upset that I did this without her input.
>> > > >
>> > > >9) I actually think she likes the car, now that she's seen it, and
>> > she
>> > > >will like it more after I take her out in it tonight.
>> > > >
>> > > >10) Thank for your input.
>> > > >
>> > > >11) This car is WAY faster than Tim's.
>> > > >
>> > > >- Matt Small
>> > > >
>> > > >
>> > > >
>> > > >On Monday, December 29, 2003, at 11:20 AM, Andre Turrettini wrote:
>> > > >
>> > > >> This is true. Matt, Can you give us more insight into her stong
>> > > >> response?
>> > > >> DRE
>> > > >>
>> > > >> -----Original Message-----
>> > > >> From: dana tierney [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>> > > >> Sent: Monday, December 29, 2003 8:18 AM
>> > > >> To: CF-Community
>> > > >> Subject: Re:I think I'm in trouble
>> > > >>
>> > > >> He's right tho, if my SO tried to dictate the car I could buy I
>> > > would
>> > > >> run
>> > > >> like hell in the other direction. Unless he was buying it for me;
>> > at
>> > > >> that
>> > > >> point he deserves some say. Sorry Matt but imho this is a major
>> > red
>> > > >> flag
>> > > >> which you ignore at your peril.
>> > > >>
>> > > >> Dana
>> > > >>
>> > > >> >Mike,
>> > > >> > You're either single or have the most tolerant wife on the
>> > > planet!
>> > > >> >"perhaps the marriage is just not meant to be"... you're killing
>> > > me,
>> > > >> Man.
>> > > >> >
>> > > >> >~Simon
>> > > >> >
>> > > >> >Simon Horwith
>> > > >> >CTO, Etrilogy Ltd.
>> > > >> >Member of Team Macromedia
>> > > >> >Macromedia Certified Instructor
>> > > >> >Certified Advanced ColdFusion MX Developer
>> > > >> >Certified Flash MX Developer
>> > > >> >CFDJList - List Administrator
>> > > >> >http://www.how2cf.com/
>> > > >> >
>> > > >> > -----Original Message-----
>> > > >> > From: Haggerty, Mike [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>> > > >> > Sent: 29 December 2003 15:23
>> > > >> > To: CF-Community
>> > > >> > Subject: RE: I think I'm in trouble
>> > > >> >
>> > > >> >
>> > > >> > Keep the car, give it a name, add nitrous, flourescent lights,
>> > a
>> > > >> tricked
>> > > >> > out odometer and racing seats. Put a big sticker on the back
>> > > >> windshield
>> > > >> > indicating you are part of a street racing team.
>> > > >> >
>> > > >> > What was the name of the car Will Farrell's character drove in
>> > > Old
>> > > >> > School? If your wife can't deal with you having a cool ride,
>> > > which
>> > > >> is a
>> > > >> > part of your identify, perhaps the marriage is just not meant
>> > to
>> > > be.
>> > > >> > Imagine what life will be like in 20 years when she becomes
>> > > >> hysterical
>> > > >> > over a bunch of doylies over or something - you do not want
>> > that.
>> > > >> It's
>> > > >> > going to be lemonade and cucumber sandwiches instead of beer
>> > and
>> > > >> chicken
>> > > >> > wings, and that ain't right. Put your foot down and keep your
>> > > >> dignity.
>> > > >> >
>> > > >> > M
>> > > >> >
>> > > >> > -----Original Message-----
>> > > >> > From: Matthew Small [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>> > > >> > Sent: Saturday, December 27, 2003 11:43 PM
>> > > >> > To: CF-Community
>> > > >> > Subject: I think I'm in trouble
>> > > >> >
>> > > >> > I pulled a boner today.
>> > > >> >
>> > > >> > I'm in the market for a new vehicle, since the truck that I'm
>> > > >> driving,
>> > > >> > while good looking and well running, has 173,000 miles on
>> > > it. It's
>> > > >> a
>> > > >> > 1995 Chevy Silverado, 4x4. My fiancee loves the thing, thinks
>> > > it's
>> > > >> the
>> > > >> > manliest truck on this earth. For the record, she's 23, I'm 31,
>> > > we
>> > > >> > don't live together, and she's never had a FT job before since
>> > > she
>> > > >> just
>> > > >> > graduated Grad School with an MBA. She's a lovely girl, just a
>> > > >> little
>> > > >> > idealistic sometimes due to youth.
>> > > >> >
>> > > >> > So I go out today, just browsing and this car catches my eye -
>> > > it'
>> > > >> s a
>> > > >> > 2001 Mustang GT. Worse yet, it's a Mustang GT Bullitt - a
>> > Steve
>> > > >> > McQueen style race car. So I test drive it, am unnaturally
>> > > scared to
>> > > >> > death of it, and then buy it. I figure since it's only got
>> > > 38,000
>> > > >> on
>> > > >> > the odometer, that it will get getter mileage than the giant
>> > > truck,
>> > > >> and
>> > > >> > that she also has a Mustang that this will resonant well with
>> > the
>> > > >> > fiancee.
>> > > >> >
>> > > >> > Anyway, I proceed to call her after I buy it and she starts
>> > > crying
>> > > >> > because I got rid of the truck. She's a bit emotional too
>> > > >> sometimes.
>> > > >> > Please don't get the wrong idea, she's great, but emotional
>> > about
>> > > >> > things sometimes.
>> > > >> >
>> > > >> > Let me tell you a little bit more about the car - it's
>> > > unbelievably
>> > > >> > fast. I don't know the stats, but the car has some sort of mod
>> > > >> chip in
>> > > >> > it that pushes it to 305 HP. It's a five speed ass haulin'
>> > trip
>> > > to
>> > > >> the
>> > > >> > hospital then to jail for wreckless driving. I admit that I'm
>> > a
>> > > >> freak
>> > > >> > for speed sometimes. This is without doubt the fastest car
>> > I've
>> > > >> ever
>> > > >> > been in. Anyway, it's a cool little thing with all of the
>> > bells
>> > > and
>> > > >> > whistles.
>> > > >> >
>> > > >> > We're not going to have any children soon, so that not an
>> > issue,
>> > > but
>> > > >> > she did say that she thought I was going to get something more
>> > > >> "yuppie"
>> > > >> > - like an SUV or BMW or something like that.
>> > > >> >
>> > > >> > Anyway, that's the boner. I think I'm going to take the car
>> > back
>> > > >> > tomorrow morning and get the truck back. Any comments from my
>> > > >> friends
>> > > >> > on the list?
>> > > >> >
>> > > >> > - Matt Small
>> > > >> >
>> > > >> _____
>> > > ><image.tiff>
>> > > >>
>> > > >>
>> > <image.tiff>
>> > >
>> > >
>> > _____
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>> >
>> >
>>
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