Again, thanks for telling me this as sometimes I let people convince me that I am nuts. But I am not hurting anyone by taking them and like I said I am a wreck when I am not with them and I know they hate being without me. So I just need to be more assertive and stand up for what I feel in my heart. It helps so much when I find that I am not alone and many people feel like I do. I enjoy every second with my babies! I did not get them to leave them I got them so I would not have to be alone. So thanks once again Deanna for your input. Nancy and the girls
--- On Wed, 11/10/10, Deanna Corey <[email protected]> wrote: From: Deanna Corey <[email protected]> Subject: Re: [Chihuahuas] is it my baby or do all Chi's sleep alot? To: [email protected] Date: Wednesday, November 10, 2010, 8:14 AM well...I don't know...I think I would maybe disagree a little on the leaving issue. I think what makes a dog secure is knowing his person is there...they are pack animals after all and as such don't spend time alone. I also don't think dogs have a strong sense of time...I think you could be gone 3 minutes and it might seem like hours so needing to leave them for long periods doesn't make sense to me. The dogs that I have known over the years that had separation anxiety were usually shelter or rescue dogs that had been seperated from their owners and so had no sense of security. I think that setting boundaries and rules with them...with you there...is what gives a dog a sense of balance and security. When you can and when it's safe I think that dogs should go where there people go. In a pack situation they are not left alone when the parents go off to hunt...there are other trusted females and siblings and cousins still around to keep them safe and in order. Spoiling normally occurs because the "person" has no rules or boundaries when he or she are there...not because they are with the dog 24/7...just my ramblin' thoughts...and of course a rationalization so that I might have a good excuse to take my dogs everywhere LOL!! Waggin' Tails in The Dog Park, Deanna and The Dog Park Pack: Nugget, Shuai-Li, Mouse, Myrtle, Mable, and Caleb and honorary non-dog members of The Dog Park: Stella-Macaw, Stanley-Amazon, Miles the cat www.joys4toys.com From: Nancy Lucky <[email protected]> To: [email protected] Sent: Tue, November 9, 2010 9:20:28 PM Subject: Re: [Chihuahuas] is it my baby or do all Chi's sleep alot? yes and yes - mine cry when I take a shower too - but that is my fault because I do not leave them alone enough. I am going to try really hard to be better with the baby than I did with Abbey. But I was so afraid to leave Abbey and come home and find her hurt or gone as I just lost Sami. So I made her neurotic and now I am slowly breaking her. It is not her fault at all. But I also could not help myself at the time. I did what I had to do and now we will work together to make it better. Maggie is already so attached to me and now is the time that I will start leaving her to run to the store so she learns that she will be safe and that mommy will be home soon. Then when she gets bigger I will leave them together and before long it will all be great. But its going to take time and I am not going to rush it and scare them. It is also difficult because I have days when my neuropathy is so bad that I can barely stand so I can not leave, plus I have to take medications and can not drive on them so I can only do the best I can. I hear it over and over again - you need to leave your dogs more.... and it goes in one ear and out the other. The truth is when I am away from them I am miserable and so are they. But I will work slowly so that they can learn that it is okay to be alone at times. Nancy and the girls --- On Tue, 11/9/10, Ellen <[email protected]> wrote: From: Ellen <[email protected]> Subject: [Chihuahuas] is it my baby or do all Chi's sleep alot? To: [email protected] Date: Tuesday, November 9, 2010, 9:10 PM My sissy sleeps alot is this normal? I know she is still a puppy but my husband keeps asking me if this is normal. She hardly lets me out of her site and cries for me when I am in the shower is this normal to? Still a new chi owner and learning! ELlen ------------------------------------ " Lets talk about our wonderful little friends! Join today! " Yahoo! Groups Links
