My Dear Katybug: You are welcome anytime for whatever help I might be able to give & I'm sure others don't mind, either. Sometimes we all have to vent over things........here's as good a place as any to do that. Mine tirades are usually slamming kitchen doors and throwing down dishes, etc. So, here would be easier on my dishes and doors, huh? (smile) Just keep in mind, all teenagers will come to an age where they will be looking for answers........they will want to "stretch their wings" a bit......if they've had a good foundation......they won't stray too far before they realize what's right. I remember telling my own boy........you will have to make your own choices and decisions one day.......your dad & I may not like them......we may even get real mad about it, but always remember, nothing you ever do will stop us from loving you. We'll just learn to deal with the decisions you've made. That boy is no longer a boy but a great young man who just turned 27 years old last month. He works at our Tool & Machine shop every day in the office and my husband says he is doing a fantastic job & he hopes to turn the business over to him in a couple of years when he sort of semi-retires. (smile) He gave us a lot of heartache when he became a senior in high school & for the next five years after that. Katy, I remember watching the ten o'clock news each night they talked about some horrific accident and looking close to see if one of the vehicles involved was his. He was living in St. Louis at that time. I was always expecting to get "the" phone call. When I talk about this period in his life to people now, I refer to them as the "Dark Ages" (smile). What saved him........he met a girl (smile) & I think, he was just tired of it all, the band members, the struggles, the just trying to survive until the next "gig". When he met Maleah, he gave it all up, went back and finished his last year of College and graduated, then got married. Within one year, they moved into a brand new house they had built. Yes, they have had problems this past six months, but he is such a different person, I say it this way, "he grew up". They go to church every Sunday, too. It's just amazing when the change happens. I am sure that your children will go through the same things......but one day, it will all come full circle & you'll be saying the same things I am. Just keep the lines of communication open where they feel comfortable coming and talking to you about anything and everything. Don't be shocked or surprised at what they want to talk about, just be open and honest as you can be. That's how we did it & believe me, when a nine year old boy comes and asks you "mom, what's rape?" it can throw you a curve. And, no to all, he was not hearing this or seeing this on t.v. in our home.....he was hearing this at school on the play ground & on the bus. I would hate to know what they discuss on the playground or the bus today as that was back in 1989 & '90. I'm just glad I don't have to deal with it today. (LOL).
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