Without going into details....I do agree with you and your message is so true.
I have a spouse who couldn't tell you much about what's wrong with his wife
(me) of 53 years. It hurts, but I get past it and deal with the people who do
care. I have 3 wonderful sons who keep on top of things. The youngest lives
with me. I couldn't do much without him. He is so caring and loving and I'm
blessed to have a wonderful son like him. The others live out of PA but call
and are always caring about me. I guess they take after their Mom as I am one
who takes care of everyone, even now. I don't understand the other kind of
people, but figure it's them that have the problem. When I developed Breast
Cancer 20 years ago, I lost many, so called, friends. I couldn't understand it
as I was always there for them. You learn a lot when you have Cancer. People
can't deal with it. I found the same when I lost my Daughter. People would
avoid you when a hug would have meant so much. I have many wonderful
friends.....mostly ones that enjoy the same things I enjoy. They would do
anything for me and have. These are the real keepers. I also have old friends
from many years ago that write and support me all of the time, so I feel
fortunate. Some of the best support is given to me here on line. We all share
similar things and understand what the other one is going through. There is so
much warmth and caring and even though it's the internet, I feel surrounded by
it all and, believe me, it helps me through some rough days. Marty, you are
one of the best and I do hope that whatever you put in the wall comes to be.
You take care my friend.
18's to you.
Millie
----- Original Message -----
From: Marty Gartenberg
To: [email protected]
Sent: Sunday, April 21, 2013 2:59 PM
Subject: [CMLHope] The Keeper
This is actually the story of my life. You are all my friends and I value
your friendship and wanted to share this with you. Now, before you read the
rest let me explain what a keeper really is to me. Anyone can be a keeper. I
have seen it many times, a wife helping her husband, a husband helping his
wife. A friend helping his or her friend. People that really care about each
other trying to always be there for them to help.
However, I have also seen the opposite. I have seen that sometimes when
people become ill then their partner or friend decides to leave. When I was
going through my bone marrow my wife Shelly never waivered, but some of my so
called friends decided to leave, and I never forgot. It is these kinds of
people that were never keepers to begin with.
I read and see the love and compassion of the people on this site and I am
simply amaized in seeing one human being selflessly helping another human
being. When one has some problems and another can comfort that person then they
are what I would call a keeper.
18's
Marty
Dear Keeper,
I grew up in the 50's with practical parents. A mother, God love her, who
washed aluminum foil after she cooked in it, then reused it. She was the
original recycle queen, before they had a Name for it... A father who was
happier getting old shoes fixed than buying new ones, which we couldn't afford
anyway, but in spite of that we still made due.
Their marriage was good, their dreams focused. Their best friends lived
barely a wave away. I can see them now, Dad in trousers, tee shirt and a hat,
and Mom in a house dress, broom in one hand and dish-towel in the other. It was
the time for fixing things. A curtain rod, the kitchen radio, screen door, the
oven door, the hem in a dress, things we keep.
It was a way of life, and sometimes it made me crazy All that re-fixing,
eating, renewing, I wanted just once to be wasteful. Waste meant affluence.
Throwing things away meant you knew there'd always be more.
But then my mother died, and on that clear summer's night, in the warmth of
the hospital room, I was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there
isn't any more.
Sometimes, what we care about most gets all used up and goes away...never to
return. So... While we have it.. it's best we love it... And care for it....
And fix it when it's broken.... And heal it when it's sick.
This is true... For illness, For marriage.... And old cars... And children
with bad report cards..... Dogs and cats with bad hips.... And aging
parents..... And grandparents. We keep them because they are worth it, because
we are worth it. Some things we keep. Like a best friend that moved away or a
classmate we grew up with.
There are just some things that make life important, like people we know who
are special..... And so, we keep them close!
Good friends are like stars.... You don't always see them, but you know they
are always there.
Keep them close
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