Chuck, we need to get the wives together! My wife doesn't like it either, but she does put up with it. Fortunately, she explained she has every confidence in me and the boat. I might be white knuckled at the helm, worrying about my 40 year old boat, while she's curled up in a corner of the cockpit reading a book! She absolutely hates to race but reluctantly crews my Comet, but only because our son and fiance' are sailing theirs.
Might be on the river this Saturday. Should be a nice weekend! Chris Price Pradel 35 Mk I ----- Original Message ----- From: "Chuck S via CnC-List" <cnc-list@cnc-list.com> To: "Us" <djmo...@bellsouth.net>, "CNC boat owners, cnc-list" <cnc-list@cnc-list.com> Sent: Tuesday, September 23, 2014 10:44:13 PM Subject: Re: Stus-List Wife dosen't like it when the boat leans Thanks for the suggestions. All good, but not for my girl. Hiring a coach or taking a course won't change the fact that she doesn't like that sailboats lean when powered up. She's just not interested in a sailing course or coaching or changing. We're 60 and been together 30+ years. We've had this boat for 12 years and she likes harbor cruises under power or anchoring overnight, or all the social stuff at the dock or rafting up. My daughter is the same. My son however is like me and took to sailing right off. He joined his college's sailing team and loves racing with me. I've raced the boat without my wife or daughter and won regattas with 1st time ever crew, so I assure you I am fairly competent. I can calmly explain which line to put to what winch and which way to turn it and never raise my voice except to be heard. I've put newbies on the wheel and coached them to steer and they loved steering. I've also taken guests who just wanted a ride, didn't want to do anything and I just set the autohelm and do it all like I do when I'm alone. My wife likes that style until it gets above 10 knots when the boat comes alive and we start making 6 plus knots and heel to 25 degrees cause the apparent becomes 16 and then we're doing 7.3 knots and lovin it, until she's almost crying something like, "do you have to make it lean so much? Let's find a place to go swimming." She's missing the sailing gene, but I can't change her and she has no desire to take a course or let me hire a coach. I guess I'll run our boat like a trawler when she's aboard, and save the sailing for when she's not there. I'm gonna order that tow toy. Chuck Resolute 1990 C&C 34R Broad Creek, Magothy River, Md ----- Original Message ----- From: "CNC boat owners, cnc-list" <cnc-list@cnc-list.com> To: "Gary Nylander" <gnylan...@atlanticbb.net>, "CNC boat owners, cnc-list" <cnc-list@cnc-list.com> Sent: Tuesday, September 23, 2014 7:44:09 PM Subject: Re: Stus-List Wife dosen't like it when the boat leans Ok, here's a response from a woman..... I married into sailing. Started with a small boat, took trips to New England and the Caribbean on charters in significantly larger boats (where my love for C&C began). I learned to love the lifestyle and a bit of racing but what really shifted my thinking was crewing on someone else's boat. Consider this, expectations are high and so is pressure when sailing with a spouse. When sailing on another accomplished skippers boat as added crew, you see how the experienced crew handles everything and before you know it you relax, a few years have passed, and your right there with them, loving every second..... I wouldn't expect every wife to catch the bug I did, but they might certainly see sailing from a different perspective and enjoy it more with a higher level of confidence. I know on Lake Lanier and other bodies of water there are some very patient and good skippers that would welcome a learning spouse. I'd be happy to help as well... Joanne Mocny S/V Obsession C&C 37/40+ Sent from my iPad On Sep 23, 2014, at 4:59 PM, Gary Nylander via CnC-List < cnc-list@cnc-list.com > wrote: Try Womanship - they have a school in Annapolis, but hold classes in the Caribbean. A friend went - loved it. Gary <blockquote> ----- Original Message ----- From: Tim Goodyear via CnC-List To: Dennis C. ; cnc-list@cnc-list.com Cc: Jean-Francois J Rivard Sent: Tuesday, September 23, 2014 4:46 PM Subject: Re: Stus-List Wife dosen't like it when the boat leans Dennis / others, Do you have any recommendations for such a course, preferably somewhere warm and with some considerable learning opportunities (moving from very competent crew to command / self-sufficiency, not basics)? Bev / other female listers, I'd be interested in your opinions too. Thanks, Tim On Sep 22, 2014, at 5:31 PM, "Dennis C. via CnC-List" < cnc-list@cnc-list.com > wrote: <blockquote> Don't just send your lady to sailing lessons. Send her to a week long ladies only sailing class. It's a LOT different than taking lessons with a coed group. She will not just get sailing lessons, she will get emotional support, counselling, share experiences with other women, etc. Chances are it will be a much more positive experience for her. I've had a couple lady friends do it and they absolutely swear it's the only way to learn sailing. Dennis C. Touche' 35-1 #83 Mandeville, LA On Mon, Sep 22, 2014 at 4:03 PM, Jean-Francois J Rivard via CnC-List < cnc-list@cnc-list.com > wrote: <blockquote> I'll let you guys know how the lessons help.. Racing did not help, she clammed-up even worse for fear that she'd screw something up. Even if on that particular race, everything that could be screwed-up was already taken care of so no one really cared. No amount of screwing-up was going to make our last place any worse. :-) Giving her the helm.. Been there done that, same result. Talking to other wifes.. It depends, At the club parties it runs the gammut from enthusiastic sailor ladies to killjoys that never come out sailing, just show up for parties.. When she runs into the lather all they say is too hot, too cold, too windy, too sunny, too humid, etc, etc. then I'm loosing ground. I'm banking on the lessons.. Truth to be told, if you're that much not into the boating thing, just sitting around on a boat is not much more fun than sitting around anywhere else.. Especially given the fact that on the lake, when it's (Really) windy, it's usually not very sunny, often a bit coldish, so you have to look at the big picture to appreciate what's going on. On the plus she's fairly athletic so maybe once she told what's what by someone else and understands better what's going on she'll get into the workout / physical side of it and get a little rush that way... 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