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Thanks, Robert, for the fantastic information!
Most of us never think about these issues until it's too late.
Wm
On Tue, 17 Aug 1999, Robert Tatman wrote:
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> William Hugh Tunstall <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> > -Caveat Lector-
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> > Speaking of conspiracies, I've often wondered about the mortuary
> > business.
> >
>
> http://www.philly.com/specials/99/burying/html/bury02.asp
>
> The Burying Business:
> Why funeral costs stay so high
>
> Examining rituals and reforms of the industry that cares for our dead. First
> of five parts.
>
>
> By Dianna Marder
> INQUIRER STAFF WRITER
>
>
> In The American Way of Death, Jessica Mitford told of grieving families
> bullied into paying inflated prices for unnecessary embalmings and for
> waterproof caskets padded with Sealy Posturepedic mattresses, lined with satin
> pillows for an eternal slumber.
> That was fully 36 years ago, and despite government efforts to reform the
> funeral business many of the old problems remain and new ones have emerged.
>
> So loud was the public cry for reform after publication of Mitford's scathing
> indictment of the industry that the Federal Trade Commission launched its
> first effort at regulation. And so resistant was the industry that the debate
> over regulation lasted nearly two decades.
>
> Today, 15 years after passage of the first federal Funeral Rule, planning a
> funeral can be just as difficult, just as costly, just as confusing as ever.
>
> Funeral directors now charge a fee of about $1,000 -- over and above other
> specific costs -- just to take your business.
>
> Federal regulations require funeral directors to give families an itemized
> price list. But some don't. When they're caught, they're fined. But the
> industry struck a deal with the government so the names of violators don't
> become public.
>
> The federal regulations were never meant to contain prices. The average cost
> of a funeral rose 26 percent in the last five years -- more than 10 times the
> rate of inflation. At $4,000 to $8,000 (the average funeral now costs $5,500),
> the funeral is still among a family's most expensive purchases.
> The reforms did not cover cemeteries. Many cemeteries now charge as much or
> more to dig a grave as to buy the plot. The U.S. Senate Special Committee on
> Aging has ordered an investigation of the death-care industry, specifically
> looking at allegations of deceptive and high-pressure sales tactics by
> industry providers.
>
> Laurie Ekstrand, an official with the General Accounting Office, which is
> conducting the congressional investigation, said her office was stunned by the
> absence of consumer protection and the complexity of funeral planning.
>
> "It was a real eye-opener," Ekstrand said. "We had no idea about all this."
>
> Hank Leszczynski battled his adrenal cancer for three years, enduring
> chemotherapy, radiation and experimental drugs. In all that time, he could not
> bear to believe he would die. How could his two small sons be left with no
> memory of his face, his touch, or the sound of his voice at storytime?
>
> And in the final days of his life in 1995, when hope of a cure was gone and
> the focus was on making him comfortable, Hank's mind was consumed with
> weightier thoughts than the funeral.
>
> In some hospice cases, families are able to plan funerals together. But that
> was not the situation for Hank and his wife of seven years, Karen.
>
> When Hank died on April 5, 1995, at age 42, he left Karen with two sons, ages
> 2 and 3, a small insurance policy, and no funeral instructions. Karen didn't
> even know which funeral home to call.
>
> There is no shortage of funeral homes; this region has 600. Most people use
> one that buried other relatives or happens to be close by.
>
> Karen called the funeral home nearest her house in Andalusia, Bucks County:
> Fluehr Funeral Home. Richard J. Fluehr Sr., owner of the family firm, outlined
> her options. (He declined to be interviewed for this article.)
>
> "He was nice," Karen said. "Not at all pushy."
>
> Still, she was overwhelmed by the number of decisions that had to be made --
> and money was a concern.
>
> She was shown a price list for things she didn't know whether she needed or
> wanted: embalming, limousines, flowers, prayer cards, burial clothing and
> something called an "outer burial container."
>
> What Karen remembers most from those difficult days are the words of a hospice
> social worker.
>
> "She told me right away: 'Don't let the price of the coffin measure how much
> you loved your husband.' "
>
> "And that was good advice," Karen said, "because I didn't know what to
> expect."
>
> Generations before ours had more first-hand experience with death. Children
> died in infancy more frequently, and more siblings were lost to disease.
> People often died in their beds and were laid out in the parlor. There was a
> procession through town to the cemetery. Bells tolled -- once for a man, twice
> for a woman. A funeral wreath on the door told everyone a death had occurred.
> The family wore mourning clothes, and when you saw someone dressed in black,
> it was appropriate to stop, ask who had died, and offer condolences.
>
> But as the viewing moved from the family parlor to the funeral parlor and
> medicine extended life, the lessons of the past became lost. The price of a
> funeral rose while the value of the rituals and ceremonies of death was
> diminished. Death became something that wasn't talked about, and funeral
> arrangements were made behind closed doors.
>
> Although television talk shows paved the way for more frank conversations
> about some formerly prohibited topics -- adultery, homosexuality, even
> prostate cancer and erectile dysfunction -- most Americans still feel
> uncomfortable talking about mortality and money, the very combination of
> factors involved in funeral planning.
>
> Today, the hospice movement is slowly bringing death home again, and
> bereavement groups provide the support once offered by friends and neighbors
> -- but even in these counseling sessions, the issue of cost is rarely
> addressed.
>
> And in that silence, the funeral and burial business remains mysterious.
>
> The future of that business is being shaped now by shifting demographics and
> new financial forces.
>
> Men and women who moved to another state for the sake of a job don't
> necessarily want to be buried there. And yet there may no longer be enough
> relatives back home to provide a reason for shipping the body there. Aging
> parents who moved to Florida now find the cost of shipping their remains is at
> least $1,600, in addition to the $4,000 to $8,000 for the funeral back home
> and $2,000 more for the burial there.
>
> There has been more inter-religious marriage. Because the funeral is still a
> religious rite for many people, a spouse whose partner is of another faith
> finds it difficult to choose a funeral home and cemetery when the partner
> dies.
>
> Perhaps the biggest influence on the industry's future will come early in the
> 21st century, when the number of deaths each year is expected to rise.
>
> Baby boomers are turning 50 at the rate of 10,000 a day. About 2.3 million
> people in the United States die each year, but by the year 2040, that figure
> will almost double -- to 4.1 million annually, according to the National
> Funeral Directors Association.
>
> This is the same '60s generation that dramatically changed the way we wed
> (introducing the write-your-own vows) and give birth (bringing the father into
> the delivery room, using midwives and reintroducing breast-feeding). They've
> already brought a renewed emphasis on hospice care and death with dignity.
>
> Now the death-care industry is bracing for those 76 million boomers to change
> funerals as well.
>
> Competition in the $25 billion death-care business is already the focus on
> Wall Street.
>
> Three international conglomerates have been buying up independent funeral
> homes and cemeteries throughout the country for at least a decade. Service
> Corporation International, the Loewen Group and Stewart Enterprises already
> own about 15 percent of all the funeral homes and cemetery properties in the
> United States and control 25 percent of the profits.
>
> The first charge Karen Leszczynski encountered was Fluehr's professional
> services fee, which was $725 then, four years ago. Today Fluehr's fee is
> $1,295.
>
> Essentially, it covers overhead; it is what the mortician charges for acting
> as a general contractor.
>
> The fee came into existence in 1984 with passage of the Funeral Rule -- the
> first federal law to regulate the funeral business.
>
> For decades, funeral directors had been hiding their overhead costs in one
> package price that was given as the price of the casket. But the Funeral Rule
> required itemized pricing -- a separate price tag on each piece of merchandise
> and each service performed. Funeral directors found they could no longer
> inflate casket prices high enough to include overhead.
>
> Instead, the government approved the concept of a professional services fee.
>
> The industry said the fee was justified because funeral directors are on call
> 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. They maintain fleets of vehicles and
> buildings that have to be heated and air-conditioned. If they do their jobs
> well, the funeral goes smoothly and the family has positive memories of an
> important life ritual -- a benefit with no specific price tag.
>
> But the professional services fee does not cover a funeral director's time at
> a viewing, or at a Mass, or at a funeral service itself. Nor does it
> compensate time spent at an interment, where the body is lowered into the
> ground. All those costs are added to the bill separately.
>
> And since 1984 the average professional services fee has escalated from $125
> to $1,025, according to the National Funeral Directors Association.
>
> Some consumer activists call it a "walking in the door" fee -- similar to the
> fees charged by lawyers or doctors for office visits or consultations.
>
> Lisa Carlson, who heads the Funeral and Memorial Societies of America, a
> lobbying and educational group, said the fee should be abolished.
>
> "What other company gets paid for answering its phone?" Carlson asks.
>
>
> It was time for Karen to select a casket. Fluehr, the funeral home owner,
> handed her a looseleaf display book of caskets.
>
> Funeral homes nationwide are replacing their casket display rooms with
> looseleaf binders. It is a more efficient use of space -- and for some reason
> has helped increase sales. Karen said she preferred the arrangement because
> she dreaded walking into a room full of caskets.
>
> Most families don't know what to select, Carlson said, and are easily drawn to
> whatever the funeral director says is the most popular model.
>
> Karen picked out a bronze-finish casket priced at $925, plus a name plate and
> crucifix for $55.
>
> "I wasn't going to go for the plain pine box, but I wasn't going to go for the
> top-of-the-line, either. I went with what they said was their standard," she
> said.
>
> Ultimately, Karen said, she found the cemetery-related expenses the most
> confusing.
>
> She told Fluehr she wanted Hank buried on sacred ground, in a Catholic
> cemetery. So he called the closest -- Resurrection -- and made arrangements.
>
> That's when Karen learned that Archdiocesan cemeteries all sell only
> double-depth graves. The first body goes in at eight feet and the second at
> six feet.
>
> A client today can buy one double-depth grave for two bodies at $800
> (including a one-time fee of $100 for perpetual care), or a family plot for
> six bodies that costs $1,800 (including $300 for perpetual care).
>
> But you cannot buy one grave for one person for $400.
>
> Robert Whomsley, who heads the Archdiocese cemetery office, calls the
> double-depth graves "singles." But people like Karen, who really only want or
> need one grave site, bristle at that terminology. A true single, Karen said,
> would be a $400 grave site for one person.
>
> The Archdiocese is not alone in selling only double-depth graves, which use
> space more efficiently. Ivy Hill Cemetery operator David Drysdale said his
> cemetery also sold only double-depth graves -- priced at $850.
>
> Next, Karen said, she was persuaded to spend $525 on an outer burial container
> -- an object she had never heard of.
>
> The container is a grave liner, she learned. The least expensive is made of
> granite, the most expensive made of bronze. It is placed in the ground before
> the coffin, ostensibly to keep the surrounding earth from caving in.
>
> No state or federal law requires the use of liners, but cemeteries are free to
> make their own rules -- and the vast majority require liners. For cemeteries,
> liners reduce grounds maintenance costs. For funeral homes, they represent one
> more product to sell.
>
> When Karen was making Hank's arrangements, a liner was still optional in
> Archdiocesan cemeteries. It became a requirement in July. Whomsley said he
> added the requirement for the sake of maintenance.
>
> "We didn't think it would be a big change since 90 percent of families using
> Archdiocesan cemeteries used grave liners anyway," he said.
>
> Karen said that when she told the funeral director she was confused about the
> liner, she was shown a grisly picture of a collapsed grave.
>
> "I didn't know what to do," she said. "So I just gave in and bought the
> cheapest liner."
>
> Another surprise for Karen was the cost of digging the grave, called the
> opening fee.
>
> In this region, opening fees run from $450 to $1,200, according to the
> Memorial Society of Greater Philadelphia. Ten years ago, the fee ranged from
> $300 to $600.
>
> In Archdiocesan cemeteries, the opening fee is $775 and, like all cemetery
> charges, it is subject to change annually, Whomsley said. Cemeteries also
> charge another opening fee when the second person is buried. Archdiocesan
> cemeteries refer to this as a reopening fee and charge about $725.
>
> Karen's expenses for funeral and burial totaled $5,610 -- which is within the
> average range nationally.
>
> Still, it was more than Karen, who had two toddlers to support, really wished
> to spend.
>
> Karen never had a chance to explain her financial situation at the cemetery
> because the funeral director made the cemetery arrangements over the telephone
> -- a common practice. But Whomsley said parish priests may request a price
> break for a needy family.
>
>
> A few weeks after the funeral, Hank's brothers held a beef and beer party to
> help pay the bill.
>
> Karen still felt numb. At home, she was bombarded with calls from monument
> dealers.
>
> Telephone soliciting by funeral homes and cemeteries is becoming a common
> consumer complaint nationwide, said Carlson, of the Funeral and Memorial
> Societies. In New Jersey, funeral homes are not permitted to do telemarketing,
> but cemeteries are.
>
> In Pennsylvania, no law bars telemarketing by funeral homes or cemeteries.
>
> Monument dealers are not covered by telemarketing laws, and many make full use
> of the opportunity to market their product by phone.
>
> "One salesman in particular kept calling, and finally I said, 'Please don't
> call me -- I just don't know what I'm going to do yet,' " Karen said. "And I
> think he did call me once more."
>
> Eventually, she decided to go to a monument dealer who had sent a mailing but
> had not called.
>
> She had to abide by the rules set by the Archdiocese: One double-depth grave
> can have only a flat marker. For an upright marker, the family must purchase a
> plot of at least two double-depth graves.
>
> Karen picked out a flat concrete marker.
>
> "Nothing elaborate, no metal trim," she said. "But I had to decide if I wanted
> his name on one end and leave the other end blank for my name, or I could have
> one name under the other."
>
> But what if she should marry again and be buried elsewhere? Would there be a
> blank space eternally on Hank's marker?
>
> She chose Travis Memorials in Oxford Circle, which worked with her on the
> arrangements of the letters so that there is room for another name later, but
> for now it does not appear that something is missing from the marker.
>
> And Karen individualized the wording on the marker as well. The original said:
> "Forever in our Hearts." She had them take out "Forever" and, in recollection
> of "Always," the Irving Berlin song she and Hank danced to at their 1988
> wedding, she made it "Always in our hearts."
>
> Adam, who was 3, and Alek, who was 2, did not attend their father's funeral in
> 1995.
>
> Months later, Karen took the boys to the cemetery for the first time.
>
> She prepared them by explaining that they would see a marker on the ground.
> But when they arrived, a nearby grave site was being dug and the earth from
> that grave was piled high on Hank's, obscuring his flat marker. The boys
> cried. Karen didn't know what to say.
>
> When she complained to cemetery officials, they said it was unavoidable -- and
> they couldn't guarantee it would not happen again. Since then, Karen and her
> children haven't had problems on their visits to the grave site.
>
> Hank's marker is continuing evidence that he lived, Karen tells Alek and
> Adam.
>
> "Daddy's always here," she tells the boys. "No one can tell you that you
> didn't have a Daddy because you did -- and you do."
>
> She kneels by the grave and talks to Hank -- about how their sons have grown
> and how much she misses him -- while the boys run and play in a stand of
> evergreens on the hill.
>
>
>
>
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