-Caveat Lector-
Scattered Memories
And now the tears come, two and a half decades later. I
ache for all we lost in Vietnam - our buddies, our relatives,
our innocence.
I'm no heroine. I joined the Army Nurse Corps to go to
Europe; that's what my recruiter promised me. I was 21 years old
when I was ordered to Vietnam. I stayed 364 days. I cared for
the sick, the wounded and the dying. I did the best I could. I
am only coming to know that now.
For almost 20 years, I never spoke about that time, that
place - I buried my memories, my anger and a large part of "me"
deep, so deep, just wanting to forget; wanting to feel peace.
I only spoke to Sue about it because she was there too.
Years later in the Army Reserves, once again in fatigues and
combat boots out on field exercises, we'd turn to each other,
never making the connection of physical circumstances. We'd tell
each other funny war stories, and we'd laugh. Then one of us
would remember, and share, and then we'd cry. It would be months
or maybe a year before we would repeat the scenario.
In 1982, the Vietnam Veterans Memorial (The Wall) was
placed in our nation's capital. I saw pictures of it and the
vets on television or in magazines, and it brought out emotions
in me that went way beyond tears. And I, like many vets, knew it
wasn't over. We knew we had to go there. We didn't know why, we
just knew we had to go. The Wall was calling us home.
It took me five years to answer. Sue and I went together.
At first, we stayed far away in the trees. "Tree-Vets," we're
called. Then a picnic on the grass behind. The Wall where we
could see the visitors' heads moving along as their walk took
them other,
ready for retreat, we walked the length of those names, our
tears camouflaged by the night. Even there, even then, we rarely
spoke about the war, not even to each other. And we never wore
anything or said anything that identified us as Vietnam
veterans.
1992 was the 10th anniversary of the Vietnam Veterans
Memorial. Sue couldn't come, and I did two things I'd never done
before - I went alone and I went in uniform. I wore my current
dress uniform with the rank of Lieutenant Colonel, and all the
insignia, medals and decorations that tell a very specific story
to those who know how to read it. I could never have anticipated
what happened to me there. I wrote Sue that night:
'I carried you with me when I went to The Wall. I had the
strength to be there, but I didn't feel the entitlement. I did
put on a brave front. No raggedy remnants of faded fatigues or
sun-bleached boonie hats for me. I stood heads above the crowd -
proud (at long last) in my Class A's. My chest of ribbons saying
loud and clear, "I'm a vet, too. I was your nurse. Honor me.
Reach out to me. Please, help me to heal."
'And they came. They were there for you Sue. Oh, I wish you
could have been there! You would have been so touched; and it
was you who deserved what I received. God, but it felt so good
to cry the tears that for so long we held, and covered with our
laughter, and let the years bury so deep. They came, the 40-
something vets looking so much older than their years. Some with
the same eyes that we saw back then, the pain still very much
with them. They hugged me and held me, and most smiled through
tears as they tried to speak. They want you to know they
remember that you were there for them, and they're grateful. You
saved some of them and cared for them and for their buddies.
They love you. You were their nurse.
'I saw him hesitate at the edge of the crowd, then urged on
by a friend the WWI vet came forward. With crippled and deformed
hands, he stood as tall as his 86 years allowed and saluted me.
I smiled as my eyes filled with tears and returned his salute.
He was mortified that he might cry. I hugged him as his friend
took our picture. He spoke volumes in the simple words, "Thank
you."
'It was a strange deja vu. Remember when the GIs would
always take our pictures? They still do. And all those eyes
looking at us - how we learned to look right in them and say,
"It's okay, you're gonna be just fine."
'It's not so hard to see The Wall now, to be near it, to
feel its presence, to feel their absence. We're going to be
okay. It's time to heal, my friend...to know that you did
everything you could, and more; that it mattered that you
touched those lives.
'Next year we'll stand together when the Women's Memorial
is dedicated, and we can begin to forgive ourselves for our
imagined slights and shortcomings and our human frailties. And
we can begin the process of healing ourselves and coming to
peace with our memories. I love you, my friend.'
Veterans Day 1993, the Vietnam Veterans Women's Memorial
was dedicated in Washington, D.C. Thousands of women vets
attended, and we were overwhelmed. We led the parade - the
nurses, Red Cross workers, entertainers, women who worked in
supply, administration, logistics and intelligence. The streets
were lined with people applauding and crying. A vet sat high up
on a tree branch yelling, "Thank you! Thank you!" A man in a
flight suit stood at attention for over two hours, saluting as
the women passed by. People handed us flowers and hugged us. One
GI had a picture of his nurse taken July, 1964. He was trying to
find her.
The women veterans find each other. We know, at last, that
we are not alone, that we are not paranoid or crazy, but that we
have a lot of work to do in order to heal. We talk to each other
and find comfort as well as pain in our words and our tears. Now
after so many years, the process has finally begun and we hold
each other close and say, "Welcome home."
By Lt. Col. Janis A. Nark
Excerpted from "Scattered Memories - A Woman's Journey to War
and Back." Reprinted by permission of Lt. Col. Janis A. Nark,
from A 4th Course of Chicken Soup for the Soul by Jack Canfield,
Mark Victor Hansen, Hanoch McCarty & Meladee McCarty, (c) 1997.
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