marriage vs mating (not matting) -------------------------------- -is a fight / compromise between kodrat individual vs kodrat sosial.in some community, especially us, in eastern culture, perkawinan menentukan derajat/status seseorang. -social order, hanya bisa dibentuk di atas pondasi marriage.mating will lead to chaos, uncivilized human world.
--- stella stella <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Can't agree more, i believe that people who choose > matting only with their life are people who are > afraid of being hurt, but they don't realize that > matting is hurting in so many ways. But then > again,with this kind of thought may i consider those > western people chicken since lots of themprefer > matting than merrit?? > > Leti <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > menikah harus dengan orang yg seimbang, minimal > dengan orang yg > memiliki pandangan yg sama akan pernikahan itu > sendiri. > orang yg hanya mating ga mikir married adalah > orang-orang yg terluka > jiwanya (saya ga percaya co enggak), gimana pun > juga, kulit ketemu > kulit pasti akan menimbulkan percik emosi, walau dgn > psk sekalipun. > lalu ketika hubungan diakhiri begitu saja, ada > penyangkalan diri di > hatinya. kalo udah ga terasa sakitnya, itu adalah > karena sudah > terbiasa dan dianggap biasa. > chicken juga kali ya orang yang ga mau married tapi > cuma mau matting. > mereka pikir bisa menghindari 'sakit' jika tidak > menikah, padahal > dengan matting, mereka jadi 'sakit' beneran, > terutama mati rasa dan > mati 'rohani' alias kepekaan terhadap kehendak Tuhan > jadi hilang. > > > --- In [EMAIL PROTECTED], Romanticboy > romanticboy > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Aku di Belanda sekarang...dan mereka gak fikir > tentang > > marriage sama sekali because disini (belanda) udah > > biasa living together...But i prefer marriage aja > > walaupun aku tinggal di belanda tetap aku stay at > that > > point because living together gak ada gunanya..dan > > kalau mau rumah tangga yg harmonis mendingan aku > nikah > > dech.. > > > > regards, > > kurnia > > --- dina danayu <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > thx god. msh ada person like u. > > > dunia belum kiamat . > > > may i know, are u working person ? > > > > > > --- stella stella <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > > wrote: > > > > Pertanyaan kayak gini nih kayak buah > simalakama > > > kalo > > > > diajuin ke orang (baca = young people)di > indonesia > > > > nowadays. Soalnya berdasarkan apa yang saya > liat, > > > > orang indonesia specially modern people who > live > > > in > > > > big city doesnt really care whether u married > or > > > > just > > > > matting, me myself (sekali lagi baca= as a > female) > > > > prefer married lah, soalnya jaminan hukumnya > kuat > > > en > > > > its a bondary of a lifetime kali ya...walopun > ngga > > > > bisa terlalu diandalkan juga sih ikatan itu > ngliat > > > > tingginya tingkat divorcing. Udah ah back to > work. > > > > > > > > [ste] > > > > apaancoba?nyambungnggaksih... > > > > --- dina_678 <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Dear members, > > > > > i wonder, in Indonesian, we have 'nikah' & > > > > 'kawin'. > > > > > in english, we > > > > > have married & mating. > > > > > ok, members.. kira2 apa beda keduanya ? > > > > > especially, from gender perspective : > > > > > for ladies/woman/girls what's your opinion > ? > > > what > > > > > would u prefer&why, > > > > > married or mating. (u prefer married , right > or > > > > not > > > > > ??) > > > > > for gentlemen/men/boys, what's your opinion > ? > > > > what > > > > > would u prefer&why, > > > > > married or mating. (u prefer mating, right > or > > > not > > > > > ??) > > > > > > > > > > thx.. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________ > > > > Do you Yahoo!? > > > > Plan great trips with Yahoo! Travel: Now over > > > 17,000 > > > > guides! > > > > http://travel.yahoo.com/p-travelguide > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________ > > > Do you Yahoo!? > > > Make Yahoo! your home page > > > http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > > Do You Yahoo!? > > Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam > protection around > > http://mail.yahoo.com > > > > > > > > > Milis Curhat The Friendliest Way ... > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Yahoo! Groups Links > > To visit your group on the web, go to: > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/curhat/ > > To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to the > Yahoo! Terms of Service. > > > > __________________________________________________ > Do You Yahoo!? > Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam > protection around > http://mail.yahoo.com > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > > > > __________________________________________________ Do You Yahoo!? Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam protection around http://mail.yahoo.com Milis Curhat The Friendliest Way ... [EMAIL PROTECTED] Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/curhat/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
