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Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual problems. The
condition is most often described as being an inability to delay
ejaculation to a point when it is mutually desirable for both partners. The
definition of when ejaculation is premature is subjective. While some men
have trouble controlling their orgasm upon entry, others consider 5-10
minutes of copulation too little time. How long a man is able to last is
not the important factor in diagnosing premature ejaculation. The crucial
issue is if a man is satisfied with the length of coitus.
How is premature ejaculation caused?
Most men have experienced this problem at some time in their life.
Premature ejaculation was once thought to be caused by drugs or certain
infections such as urethritis, but popular wisdom suggests it is more
psychological in nature. The exact cause of the condition, however, still
remains a mystery.
Premature ejaculation often occurs during the first experiences with sex,
and in this case is most commonly attributed to anxiety. The majority of
men gradually learn to control their orgasm, and have no lasting effect.
Some men will develop a longer-term anxiety toward sex, which can cause a
prolonged experience with premature ejaculation.
Sexual behavior is also a factor. The longer the period since last
ejaculating, the quicker young men typically reach orgasm. Younger men tend
to ejaculate more quickly than older men, as experience seems to be
associated with ejaculatory control.
You Can Last Longer
We provide an overview of techniques for overcoming premature ejaculation
below. If you would like a more detailed discussion, we suggest You Can
Last Longer. This video will help to show you and your partner how to
overcome premature ejaculation.
What can I do to delay ejaculation?
Masters and Johnson method
The best way to fighting premature ejaculation is learning how to identify
and control the sensations leading up to orgasm. The Masters and Johnson
method does just that. The Masters and Johnson method requires a great deal
of patience and practice, but is very effective. Follow the steps below.
You may want to start with masturbation. Begin by bringing yourself to a
point relatively close to climax, and stop, allowing yourself to relax
before starting again. Each time you do this, bring yourself closer and
closer to orgasm until you cannot control it any longer. You may want to
practice with the aid of a lubricant. We recommend trying Astroglide.
Repeating this procedure a number of times on different occasions will help
you learn where your point of climax is. Once you have an idea about your
"point of no return" you should be able to direct stimulation from your
partner leading up to orgasm. The best way to practice this method is with
a caring lover, although you can try to prepare by yourself. With your
partner, engage in non-coital stimulation (like masturbation or oral sex)
and gradually allow yourself to reach that point just before ejaculation.
At that point, signal your partner to stop (often this is done with a light
squeeze or sound) and allow yourself to partially lose your erection.
Repeat these steps several times to get the hang of it. You should practice
these steps for several days before you attempt intercourse. Once you are
ready to try intercourse, lay on your back and direct your partner to
slowly allow you to penetrate. As soon as you feel that you are about to
climax, signal to your partner or give a gentle push upward. Relax for a
bit, then begin again. You should soon be able to control your ejaculation
and enjoy having sex.
Although the method is extremely effective, it could take weeks before you
get it just right. Remember, be patient and try not to put too much
pressure on the situation. If you don't get it the first time, shrug it off
and remember that you are working towards something that takes time. If you
still have trouble, don't hesitate to contact a sex therapist for guidance.
Squeeze technique
The squeeze technique is really just a variation of the Masters and Johnson
method, except that the assisting partner squeezes the tip or base of the
penis just before the point of climax to essentially cancel the orgasm. The
"squeeze" forces blood out of the penis and reduces the erection. You may
want to use the squeeze technique if the Masters and Johnson method alone
is not working.
Other techniques
Desensitizing creams are products which purport to lessen the sensations
felt by men during intercourse so that they can last longer. The limitation
that many men feel these creams have is that they make intercourse less
pleasurable by decreasing stimulation.
Masturbation is a technique used by many young men to increase their level
of control. It is thought that masturbation before sexual activity will
lessen the amount of desire a man feels thereby increasing control. This
technique is not very effective, however, as level of arousal is only part
of what contributes to the condition.
Condoms are an effective means of reducing the amount of stimulation
experienced during sex. Some men find that a condom helps them prevent
premature ejaculation by lowering their arousal. If one condom does not
decrease the stimulation enough, then put on one more. Condoms provide
excellent protection against STDs and pregnancy, so they're certainly worth
a try.
Sexual positions can affect a man's ability to control his ejaculation. The
typical "missionary" position (on top of your partner) is not the best
position while attempting to control ejaculation. Try laying on your back,
allowing the partner to control copulation. In this position you are more
relaxed, and can guide your partner easily.
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