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The Old Man and the Dog
by Catherine Moore
'Watch out! You nearly broad sided that car!' My father yelled at me.
'Can't you do anything right?'
Those words hurt worse than blows. I turned my head toward the
elderly
man in the seat beside me, daring me to challenge him. A lump rose in
my
throat as I averted my eyes. I wasn't prepared for another battle.
'I saw the car, Dad. Please don't yell at me when I'm driving.'
My voice was measured and steady, sounding far calmer than I really
felt.
Dad glared at me, then turned away and settled back. At home I left
Dad in
front of the television and went outside to collect my thoughts. Dark,
heavy clouds hung in the air with a promise of rain. The rumble of
distant
thunder seemed to echo my inner turmoil. What could I do about him?
Dad had been a lumberjack in Washington and Oregon . He had enjoyed
being
outdoors and had reveled in pitting his strength against the forces of
nature. He had entered grueling lumberjack competitions, and had
placed
often.
The shelves in his house were filled with trophies that attested to
his
prowess.
The years marched on relentlessly. The first time he couldn't lift a
heavy
log, he joked about it; but later that same day I saw him outside
alone,
straining to lift it. He became irritable whenever anyone teased him
about
his advancing age, or when he couldn't do something he had done as a
younger man.
Four days after his sixty-seventh birthday, he had a heart attack. An
ambulance sped him to the hospital while a paramedic administered CPR
to
keep blood and oxygen flowing.
At the hospital, Dad was rushed into an operating room. He was lucky;
he
survived. But something inside Dad died. His zest for life was gone.
He
obstinately refused to follow doctor's orders. Suggestions and offers
of
help were turned aside with sarcasm and insults. The number of
visitors
thinned, then finally stopped altogether. Dad was left alone.
My husband, Dick, and I asked Dad to come live with us on our small
farm.
We hoped the fresh air and rustic atmosphere would help him adjust.
Within a week after he moved in, I regretted the invitation. It seemed
nothing was satisfactory. He criticized everything I did. I became
frustrated and moody. Soon I was taking my pent-up anger out on Dick.
We
began to bicker and argue.
Alarmed, Dick sought out our pastor and explained the situation. The
clergyman set up weekly counseling appointments for us. At the close
of
each sessi on he prayed, asking God to soothe Dad's troubled mind.
But the months wore on and God was silent. Something had to be done
and it
was up to me to do it.
The next day I sat down with the phone book and methodically called
each
of the mental health clinics listed in the Yellow Pages. I explained
my
problem to each of the sympat hetic voices that answered in vain.
Just when I was giving up hope, one of the voices suddenly exclaimed,
'I
just read something that might help you! Let me go get the article.'
I listened as she read. The article described a remarkable study done
at a
nursing home. All of the patients were under treatment for chronic
depression. Yet their attitudes had improved dramatically when they
were
given responsibility for a dog.
I drove to the animal shelter that afternoon. After I filled out a
questionnaire, a uniformed officer led me to the kennels. The odor of
disinfectant stung my nostrils as I moved d own the row of pens. Each
contained five to seven dogs. Long-haired dogs, curly-haired dogs,
black
dogs, spotted dogs all jumped up, trying to reach me. I studied each
one
but rejected one after the other for various reasons too big, too
small,
too much hair As I neared the last pen a dog in the shadows of the
far
corner struggled to his feet, walked to the front of the run and sat
down.
It was a pointer, one of the dog world's aristocrats. But this was a
caricature of the breed.
Years had etched his face and muzzle with shades of gray. His hipbones
jutted out in lopsided triangles. But it was his eyes that caught and
held
my attention. Calm and clear, they beheld me unwaveringly.
I pointed to the dog. 'Can you tell me about him?'
The officer looked, then shook his head in puzzlement. 'He's ;a
funny one.
Appeared out of nowhere and sat in front of the gate. We brought him
in,
figuring someone would be right down to claim him. That was two weeks
ago
and we've heard nothing. His time is up tomorrow.' He gestured
helplessly.
As the words sank in I turned to the man in horror. 'You mean you're
going
to kill him?'
'Ma'am,' he said gently, 'that's our policy. We don't have room for
every
unclaimed dog.'
I looked at the pointer again. The calm brown eyes awaited my
decision.
'I'll take him,' I said.
I drove home with the dog on the front seat beside me. When I
reached the
house I honked the horn twice. I was helping my prize out of the car
when
Dad shuffled onto the front porch. 'Ta-da! Look what I got for you,
Dad!'
I said excitedly.
Dad looked, then wrinkled his face in disgust. 'If I had wanted a dog
I
would have gotten one. And I would ha ve picked out a better specimen
than
that bag of bones. Keep it! I don't want it' Dad waved his arm
scornfully
and turned back toward the house.
Anger rose inside me. It squeezed together my throat muscles and
pounded
into my temples. 'You'd better get used to him, Dad. He's staying!'
Dad ignored me. 'Did you hear me, Dad?' I screamed.
At those words Dad whirled angrily, his hands clenched at his sides,
his
eyes narrowed and blazing with hate.
We stood glaring at each other like duelists, when suddenly the
pointer
pulled free from my grasp. He wobbled toward my dad and sat down in
front
of him. Then slowly, carefully, he raised his paw.
Dad's lower jaw trembled as he stared at the uplifted paw. Confusion
replaced the anger in his eyes. The pointer waited patiently. Then
Dad was
on his knees hugging the animal.
It was the beginning of a warm and intimate friendship. Dad named the
pointer Cheyenne . Together he and Cheyenne explored the community.
They
spent long hours walking down dusty lanes. They spent reflective
moments
on the banks of streams, angling for tasty trout. They even started to
attend Sunday services together, Dad sitting in a pew and Cheyenne
lying
quietly at his feet.
Dad and Cheyenne were inseparable throughout the next three years.
Dad's
bitterness faded, and he and Cheyenne made many friends . Then late
one
night I was startled to feel Cheyenne 's cold nose burrowing through
our
bed covers. He had never before come into our bedroom at night. I woke
Dick, put on my robe and ran into my father's room. Dad lay in his
bed,
his face serene. But his spirit had left quietly sometime during the
night.
Two days later my shock and grief deepened when I discovered Cheyenne
lying dead beside Dad's bed. I wrapped his still form in the rag rug
he
had slept on. As Dick and I buried him near a favorite fishing hole, I
silently thanked the dog for the help he had given me in restoring
Dad's peace of mind.
The morning of Dad's funeral dawned overcast and dreary. This day
looks
like the way I feel, I thought, as I walked down the aisle to the pews
reserved for family. I was surprised to see the many friends Dad and
Cheyenne had made filling the church. The pastor began his eulogy. It
was
a tribute to both Dad and the dog who had changed his life. And then
the
pastor turned to Hebrews 13:2. 'Do not neglect to show hospitality to
strangers, for by this some have entertained angels without knowing
it.'
'I've often thanked God for sending that angel,' he said.
For me, the past dropped into place, completing a puzzle that I had
not
seen before: the sympathetic voice that had just read the right
article...
Cheyenne 's unexpected appearance at the animal shelter. . ..his calm
acceptance and complete devotion to my father. . and the proximity of
their deaths. And suddenly I understood. I knew that God had answered
my
prayers after all.
Life is too short for drama & petty things, so laugh hard, love truly
and
forgive quickly. Live While You Are Alive. Forgive now those who made
you
cry. You might not get a second time.
And if you don't send this on--who cares? But do share
this with someone. Lost time can never be found.
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