Esther Will you be sharing your whitepaper with this email list when it's completed?
Thanks Mike On Fri, Jul 8, 2016 at 1:55 PM, Esther Schindler <[email protected]> wrote: > I'm mostly staying quiet at the moment because I want y'all to speak, > rather than I. > > But I have a quizzical expression on my face, in particular for those who > don't find one-on-ones useful. I'd love to hear more about your reasons for > feeling that way. > > And in particular -- for everyone -- please tell me what you expect to > happen in a one-on-one. What is talked about? What isn't? (What SHOULD be? > What SHOULDN'T be? Who should make those decisions?) > > Because if we each have different expectations about what such a meeting > is, we'll respond to it differently. > > For instance, it kind of sounds as though some people see "one on one" as > if it's an employee review. ("Here is what you are doing well and what > needs improvement.") For someone else it might be a boss' to-do list > ("first, get THIS done, then work on that") -- which would be annoying if > you both already know what the priorities are. > > So, especially if you find these meetings annoying or too frequent... what > (if anything) could a manager (or client!) say or do to make your life > easier? (In regard to communication or lack thereof.) > > Peter Loron wrote: > > I’ve never found 1-1 meetings to be very useful for me. If I am not on > track or am failing somehow, come grab me immediately and let me know. If > I’m kicking ass, come grab me and let me know. Other than that, stay out of > my hair and let me get stuff done. No reason to schedule anything. If > there’s a reason to talk, then do it immediately. If there’s no reason, > then don’t waste my time. > > > > -Pete > > > > *From: *<[email protected]> > <[email protected]> on behalf of Matthew Butch > <[email protected]> <[email protected]> > *Date: *Friday, July 8, 2016 at 06:34 > *To: *Esther Schindler <[email protected]> <[email protected]> > *Cc: *Discuss <[email protected]> <[email protected]> > *Subject: *Re: [lopsa-discuss] Attention hive mind: Advice on doing > one-on-one meetings? > > > > From the employee side- I HATED weekly scheduled one on ones. That’s way > too frequent and interrupted my workflow. I would say at max once a month, > though I could see longer time frames depending on the person- every other > month, every three or every six (the max it should be). Honestly, I think > it depends on the employee, and maybe depends on where they are at in their > career. I’d probably review the frequency every six months. > > > > Scheduled is probably a good so that employees know they have time with > their manager, and can prepare. > > > > Be absolutely clear about what it is for. I had one manager who clearly > started them because he wanted to start controlling and micromanaging us, > and I hated that. > > > > The agenda that I prefer is a free form discussion of what ever the > employee wants to talk about, maybe with a few prompting questions- How’s > the work/life balance, how’s the stress level, anything bugging you, where > do you want to go in your career. I don’t want it to be status updates > (where are you at on this project, etc) because those are for team > meetings or I can approach my manager separately as needed instead of > waiting. > > > > I can certainly fill in more details about my experience if you need it. > > > > I hope that helps! > > > > On Jul 7, 2016, at 17:22, Esther Schindler <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > Once again I'd like your input. I like to think the subject is interesting > enough that you'll enjoy responding. > > This obviously isn't networking-related, but it certainly is germane to > techies. Or, really, to anyone who works in a corporate environment. > > I’m writing a white paper that aims to give advice to creative workers > (and to software developers in particular) about how to do one-on-ones > well, in a way that benefits everyone (manager, employee, company… heck, > the whole world). Fortunately, this isn’t a short piece, so I have some > room to spread out. And I'd like your input (privately or publicly). > > The key question: *What should people know about manager-and-worker > one-on-one meetings? * > > What do you wish your manager or employees had understood? What did you > appreciate when they did? > > Among the topics I’m going to cover: why one-on-ones are important; what > dire things happen when you don't do them, or don't honor that process; how > the one-on-one is different based on your roles (manager/peon, > client/consultant, mentor/mentee); logistics and timing; what you should > expect to talk about... and NOT to talk about; real life examples (and > lessons to take away from them); judging success. > > I’d love to hear from you about your advice and experience with > one-on-ones – both the good ones and (even more valuably) when things did > not work ideally. Tell me your stories. Anecdotes are awesome. If they > happen to fit in any of the categories above, that’s groovy; if not, that’s > cool too. > > You don’t need to be an “authority” on HR or doing one-on-ones. I want > real-world experiences! > > It's completely okay to be anonymous; the point here is to share advice. > Though if you would like to be quoted, that's do-able. (Context does help; > if you've managed developers for 12 years readers will get a different > perception than for someone on her first job.) > > --Esther > twitter.com/estherschindler > > _______________________________________________ > Discuss mailing list > [email protected] > https://lists.lopsa.org/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/discuss > This list provided by the League of Professional System Administrators > http://lopsa.org/ > > > > _______________________________________________ Discuss mailing list > [email protected] > https://lists.lopsa.org/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/discuss This list > provided by the League of Professional System Administrators > http://lopsa.org/ > > > _______________________________________________ > Discuss mailing list > [email protected] > https://lists.lopsa.org/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/discuss > This list provided by the League of Professional System Administrators > http://lopsa.org/ > >
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