Hi ! I read the article and i agree with that. Elham On Mon, Sep 1, 2008 at 7:03 PM, Lílian <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> > Hi friends! > > I have just got it from a friend and felt like sharing it with you! > > > When the virtual love does not become Real... > :: Rosana Braga :: > > > Translated by Leandro Martins - [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > I've already received many messages from the readers asking me to > write about "virtual love", that a bigger number of people live in the > Internet, either in chat rooms, either through exchanges of messages. > But only now, not knowing the reason, I really felt inspired to write > about this "admirable new world"... > > The forms of communication are more sophisticated and practical. The > profiles allow each time more data. Beyond the old ones - and almost > old fashioned (?) e-mails - now there is also Orkut, MSN, Skipe, > webcams, among others tools that gives the clear sensation to them to > be each time more close to the other, no matter who this other is or > where he is... > > I do not want to fall in the temptation to say that everything is > excellent only when it is a professional relation and even about > friendship; perhaps I'm really stubborn in not believing that the love > can invade the virtual world, beyond time and space and flooding > hearts that we do not know where, nor who, nor when... perhaps > tomorrow, perhaps never... perhaps always, without never having > been... > > Then, not to radicalize, I will try to explain my reasons, even > because - I confess! – I myself have, in the past, already tried the > witchcraft of this virtual net that can struggle so many hearts > interminably waiting for a simple and absolute message... > Today, I really do not trust all this. I know, you can claim: "I know > couples that met on the Internet and are together until today"... Very > well! I also know, truly! > However, I count them in the fingers of one only hand, while all my > fingers are not enough to count the cases that I already had heard on > pain, tears, disillusionment, resentments, anxiety, unreliability, > reinforcement of low auto-esteem, among others feelings that makes me > consider risky and excessively inconsistent such way of love... > > Without counting that, definitively, I bet much more in everything > that it is not possible through the screen of the computer. I believe > in the subtlety of the meeting, eyes in the eyes, smiles almost > hugging, searching words, guessing something to show a direction… > things that in the Internet are excessively missing, excessively > vulnerable, excessively lost. > > In my opinion, all the fragility of the virtual relations, even if > still full of declaration and oaths of love, is the easiness that > people have of being who they are not, or who they would like to be, > but do not have the courage and do not consider themselves capable in > such a way... > Then, the words are typed, but they do not have soul. The feelings are > described, but they do not contain depth. The meetings are idealized, > but they do not have achievement force, they do not have availability > enough to happen... because they are, over all, disabled for the fear > of rejection, for the excesses performed without notion; the real > conditions ignored on behalf of the fleeting forbidden desires... > > This way, who is on the other side, fully immersed in this picture, > does not understand... Asking what has happened, what was wrong, what > could have been, lived, direction, shared... without never really > having at least heard the gasping breath of the other in search of a > love that could be real. > > And if I could give an advice, I would say that the virtual meetings > can be an excellent start, but they do not live in a place that does > not exist. It is necessary to become real as soon as possible, > avoiding all expectations that no one is capable to handle. > > The love in the singular is platonic, a gift that you keep in your > heart like a jewel kept in the safest drawer, locked, where nobody can > see. If it's love in the singular that you search, the Internet is > perhaps the ultimate place. > > However, if it's love in the plural that you wish, lived between two > hearts, this is only possible if meetings take place. Not necessarily > today, but has to be some place, sometime... so that it does not get > lost in the illusion of the mind, so lost in the constant doubts of > contradictory, suspicious, empty and, at the same time, so without > direction when it comes to recognize the true feelings. > Love follows the heart's path and not that of the inexistent virtual > world. > > > Leia Também: Quando o amor "virtual" não se torna "real"... > > Rosana Braga é Escritora, Jornalista e Consultora em Relacionamentos > Palestrante > e Autora dos livros "Alma Gêmea - Segredos de um Encontro" > e "Amor - sem regras para viver", entre outros. > www.rosanabraga.com.br e Comunidade no Orkut > > > > > > > --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "English Learner's Cafe" group. 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