Finally a sensible response; thank you Ms. Poppins, I could not have agreed with you more!
On Tue, Aug 25, 2009 at 10:30 AM, S T <[email protected]> wrote: > Ok guys, I think we've all heard enough!! This is supposed to be a list > for sharing practical information and help. You both have different opinions > about parenting, this is not the place to have it out. Why don't you just > meet in person? A good old-fashioned dual perhaps? Perhaps you wouldn't be > so vocal Andrey, without the protective screen of the computer in front of > you? Saying that, I am now going to sit in front of my computer > screen-shield and have my 2 cents before you go. > > It is completely understandable that some Russian people may resent the > fact that foreigners barge in to their country, flash their money around and > 'exploit' the people. However, this is not all foreign people and I really > don't think you have a right to generalise like that Andrey. Tourists (who > are often foreign) I'm sure are more responsible for these things, so I can > see how you could easily change that lable to 'foreigners' or 'expats'. > Please don't confuse the two, they are very different things. We live here, > work here, share your economy and try to learn and fit in with your culture. > Now, as a nanny, I don't believe this job to be humiliating or dead-end. I > am very satisifed with my career as I believe education and the care of > children is the most important thing for the future. And yes, I have a > degree (in science) and have had been previously employed in other jobs > which you may view as more 'successful', but this is what I love and I am > proud of my choices. Of course, I see some very sad cases of parents merely > abandoning their children to hired help, but believe me Andrey, this trait > is not solely reserved for Westerners. There are people like that in every > country, and you are being very naive if you think the rich and powerful > people of Russia don't have a bit of help at home. > > I understand that there is a close family connection in Russian families > and admire it often. But if there is no extended family available, would you > really prefer a College girl who doesn't give a damn about your family to be > watching your kids if there is a choice? If a family can afford it, why > shouldn't they have a professional? You said yourself that kids eventually > go off to school and have 'outsiders' influence them, why don't we just send > them to the woman next door for their education?! I'm sure she would love > the company! You wouldn't because you want the best for your children and > the best comes from a professional. A teacher who is responsible, educated > and accountable. And that Andrey, is exactly what a good Nanny is. > > I agree that some people are not very good at being parents and hire help > to compensate for that. But some people are not very good at being parents > and buy beer and vodka to compensate for that. Every family is different, > every circumstance is different and I do not understand why you ave chosen > to attack Peter and 'foreigners'. I think you ought to go to one of the > Russian Nannying websites and see how many Russian families are seeking > 'outsiders' and even... 'foreign outsiders!!' for full-time care of their > children. It's not just expats, it's not just Russians. Everyone needs some > help sometimes. It sounds to me as though Peter is really trying to do the > best he can for his child, and if that's different to what you would do, so > be it! It's his choice. If you think the way you were brought up was the > best way, you are free to raise your children as you please. > > Now, I had best get back to my dead-end job. That's the same job that sees > me travel the world, help someone learn and watch them grow, wake up with a > smile and go to bed knowing that I have done something good for at least one > other being on this messy, crazy, wonderful planet. Can you do that today > Andrey? I hope so. > > > _______________________________________________ > Expat mailing list > [email protected] > http://www.lists.ru/mailman/listinfo/expat > http://www.expat.ru/forum/ > -- Marika Waern Moscow Mob. Russia +7 985 231 6499 Mob. Sweden +46 7308 32054
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