--- In [email protected], [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:
>>One of the real crimes here is that Michael Schiavo has denied her any kind of therapy to rehabilitate her from the get go. Quite untrue according to the report Mark provided this morning. He spent the first 3-4 years trying all sort of therapies, devoting all of his time to help her come out of her state. > He has been heard by his > first x girl friend saying "that woman has ruined his life." Assuming this is true (and so much stuff appears made up -- just stating someone heard something doesn't provide much proof. A strong case for such statements would be stating who heard this, when, did they, at the time, document or tell others what they heard, etc) -- if someone spends every free moment caring for someone bedridden, it can take a huge toll. I was a caregiver for my mom for three years in her final stages of alzhiemers. It can be a draining and stressful job, particularly when there is an environment of care where all the family is not of one mind. I can understand how someone could, in fatigue and stress, vent and say something like your quote. And maybe its true -- that caring for Terry caused Michael to give up much. A venting statement doesn't change the fact that he apparently spent 4 years of very focused total commitment work serving terry and her rehabilitation. If he did that, which Marks' cited report indciates, he should be applauded for the totality of his actions, not some isolated statements that may have been simply venting. Many people that > have worked in the hospices that Terri has been in over the years have heard > him make remarks out of frustration like "when is she going to die?" and > also refer to Terri as a bitch. Again, if this did occur, why have not these people come forward, named, and stories checked out. It sounds like rumor, growing on rumor to me. But even if he did say it, you stated the case yourself: he said it in frustration. Per above, being a full time caregiver can be draining, exasperating, exhasuting and frustrating. Its obvious that at some points in time, caregivers will say things in frustration. And "when is she going to die" could have been said in many tones. It could have been a simple question, one of reverence, one of practical planning, one of fear. Just those words by themselves, with no context, doesn't paint a bad picture of michael to me. I asked at times, regarding my mom, when is she going to die. It was not malicious at all. First its a practical question. How long do we need to plan care? 3 months, 3 years, 30 years? I asked it wondering how I would feel when she had gone. I asked it as in a prayer -- when are you (god) going to let her move on? He called her a bitch? Again how well docuemtned is this? But assuming he said it. How many people have muttered "you bitch" to someone they love -- maybe directly, maybe playfully, maybe under their breath, maybe venting in deep frustration, maybe as a right-on description? Is anyone who calls their female spouse or girl friend a bitch now equated with Scott Peterson? We will need a 100 million new jail cells. >> How can anybody take his word for anything? This guy is no better than Scott Peterson and should have no power over anybody's life. You equate him with Scott Peterson bcasue he may, or may not, have said "when is she going to die?", "she ruined my life" .. . Wow you texans ARE tough, huh. >> This isn't to mention that he abandoned her and now has a common law wife with a couple of children by her. Terri's parents encouraged him to date. If you were in terri's place, with no chance of recovery (which after 4 years of trying to revive her, Michael appears to have concluded, along with best medical advice, this was happen) would you want your spouse to never have any sort of relation with a man? never have a family? particularly if she were in her 20s or early 30s? Why is dating, then living with someone a great crime in this circumstance. >> Whether you believe Terri should die or > not Michael Schiavo should have absolutely no say so in it. And why is that? Her husband should haveno say? And the sanctity of mariage means what to you? To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
