Dr. Pete, you have often written that MMY is a complete mystery to you, and you seemingly want to keep it that way.
For years my mother's behaviour was a complete mystery to me too. I must say that I have much easier time with her and also easier to forgive her and love her and appreciate her as she is, when I have started to understand why she behaves as she does. I also think I have a fairly good understanding of MMY's personality structure, and that understanding, even if it may be partial, I find to be helpful. This comment of yours is very sincere it think, but odd in the light that you claim yourself to be a doctor of psychology. Is it even correct to use the term you here, because you have claimed yourself to established on a level were there is no individuality left. Who gets irritated in you, when people analyse MMY's behaviour? Is it possible that there is some entity inside you, who is afraid of being seen, whose motives the more conscious part of you cannot accept? Is it possible that your experience of no individuality is just a cover story for energies, emotions and thoughts inside you, that you have started to perceive, but cannot yet own? Irmeli I've got a serious question for everybody and no implicit criticism is meant and I'm also curious if there is a legitimate/valid, whatever reason, someone can come up with that I'm not quite getting. Why do we need any story whatsoever regarding MMY? We can neither confirm nor disconfirm any story. The arguments go on and on. Most of our stories whether in the pro or con camp are simply narratives of what we already believe. All we have is our own experiences regarding MMY. The stories can never, ever resolve; they never "make sense" unless you deny huge chunks of contradictory material. So, why and what is this need that some, all, a few, including moi, struggle with? -Peter To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
