> > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "martyboi" <martyboi@> wrote: > > > > Taking Responsibility For Your Feelings > > > > Often people think caring, being compassionate, means catering to the > > emotional needs of another person. They think they need to say, "Oh, > > how are you feeling? You are sad today? You are depressed? Oh, just > > tell me what is it." They sit, listen and console the person; they > > support and in fact encourage the other person's feelings of > > negativity and misery. Pampering a person in this way just leads to a > > bigger mess. > > > > Just realize how often you ask people how they feel. See, today you > > feel good. Tomorrow you don't feel good. Who cares? There is no > > guarantee you will feel good after doing anything. You may feel > > miserable. You may suffer. You don't need to care for people's > > emotions at all. This may look very cruel, but I tell you it is okay, > > because it makes you strong. > > > > A wise person does not care for emotions because emotions are ever > > changing. And everyone has to work out their own karma. If you are > > feeling bad, you must have done something terrible in your past. > > Otherwise, why would you feel bad? Nature is never unjust. Nature > > always does justice. If you are unhappy, it's because of your own > > karma. If you are suffering, it's because of your karma. Suffer. > > Finish it off. Suffer and finish. Nature brings joy to one who has > > done good and brings suffering to those who have down wrong acts. > > > > It is not necessary to care for anybody's feelings at all. Absolutely > > not. You needn't complain at all. The question is, are you doing your > > job? Do your job. That's it. That makes people really strong. And no > > one complains. Nothing to complain about. > > > > Once a very educated gentleman went to visit an enlightened master. A > > third person spoke with them, and then left the room, and in half and > > hour, that person met with an accident on the road and died. When the > > news came, the master just kept silent for a minute or two and then > > started doing his usual business. The gentleman said, "There's no > > compassion here. I cannot understand this." > > > > For a Master, for an enlightened person, death and life is nothing. > > It's like going from one room to another room. A big deal! Time, > > infinity, dead and gone. So what? The person who is knowledge neither > > cries for the living nor cries for the dead. Do you see what I am > > saying? It's not lack of compassion. But compassion we often > > misunderstand as pampering, telling nice words, giving attention - all > > those things. There is no way you can demand that kind of attention in > > the company of a true master. If you demand attention - get out! > > Straight. When you complain, you will be asked to just get out. Do > > your job and be happy. That's it. > > > > That strength of discipline helps people to go beyond their feelings > > and emotions. I think that is good because then you are busy doing > > something. You are not sitting and thinking, brooding over, expecting > > someone to console you or to uphold you. Isn't it? Simply working, > > simply busy and achieving your goal. Your mind is focused on that. > > Then that brings so much strength in you. > > > > Certainly I don't want you to whine and complain. No way. I don't care > > how you feel. I care for you and I don't care how you are feeling. You > > feel up and you feel down - it's so much moodiness. So much wasting > > of time happens in this. > > > > Take responsibility for your own feelings. In the world, often people > > throw their responsibility of their feelings on others and on > > situations, circumstances. Somebody else is responsible for my feeling > > down. Because you said this thing to me, I am feeling low. You didn't > > look at me, so I am feeling low. > > > > You know, no one is responsible for the way you feel. YOU are totally > > responsible if you are feeling happy or unhappy. Take that > > responsibility. When you take responsibility, you gain power. Then > > you become happy. > > > > JAI GURU DEV > > > > January 2000 > > Bad Antogast, Germany > >
"See the job, do the job, stay out of misery." - Maharishi
