--- In [email protected], "ispiritkin" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
>
> What a coool thread -- all 35 entries!  

I thought so, too. And so I'll spend my last post
of the week perpetuating it. (I think it's my last;
it is by my count. If I've gone over, Rick, do not 
hesitate to ask me to take a time-out for a week.)

> I, for one, did not know 
> there was a classification for my favorite kind of debating, where 
> people don't defeat their partners but instead support the ongoing 
> display of the fireworks.  Gosh, I wish more people did this -- but 
> without gradually spacing out into platitudes.  I usually end up 
> supplying material for both sides of the debate, kind of like an 
> actor playing two different roles in the same scene.

And that is the best part about having discussions
with *some* people on FFL. They "take the ball and
run with it," sometimes continuing the main theme
of another poster's post, sometimes segueing into
new and unexplored territory, and inviting others
to explore it with him or her.

Others try consistently to turn the discussion into
a head-to-head argument in which one or more of the
participants can declare that they've "won." How
pathetic. How completely antithetical to the spirit-
ual process. 

> I agree with Turq about what is said by the cherishing of one's 
> favorite myths.  I had a political epiphany once when I heard the 
> story of an activist in Chicago.  This activist had a certain point 
> of view because of the world he experienced daily.  His world was 
> filled with perpetrators and victims.  There were almost no other 
> actors in his stories, so he viewed socialism as the ideal system.  
> 
> My world, on the other hand, was filled with individuals with 
> potential to be strong and free and happy, so I viewed free minds 
> and free markets as ideal.  I realized that I would never ever be 
> able to find common ground with this activist, even though we were 
> both very dedicated to helping people toward better lives.  Not 
> one of my best arguments would ever touch him, because I may as 
> well have been talking about the politics of a different galaxy. 
> The people of my world were not the people of his. 

Exactly. The power of the *myths* that each individual
grew up identifying with have served to structure the
way they see the world. It's the same with regard to
the way that individuals see the issue of "problem
solving." If the myths they identified with growing
up involve adversarial resolutions -- battle, fighting,
getting in someone's face, "right" prevailing over 
"wrong" -- how are they going to tend to resolve con-
flicts in their own lives. On the other hand, if the
myths they identified with growing up are about finding
some other path through the maze of potentially adver-
sarial situations that arise in life, they might be
more likely to *look* for those other ways of dealing
with issues in which two parties disagree.

Take the hypothetical example of someone who grew up
listening to Wagner, and having his operas form their
personal mythos. They are full of conflict between
"right" and "wrong," with "right" prevailing. The
hero and heroine characters *deal* with situations
by putting on their horned helmets and riding into
battle singing "Yo ho, yo ho!" at the top of their
lungs. They look to "devastate" their "enemies" and
destroy them. That's just how the myths work. Now
would a person brought up on such myths tend to do
that in their own lives? Would they "act out" almost
every situation by trying to turn it into a battle
in which they could ride forth into battle and "win?"
Would they tend to identify with political figures
who do the same? Me, I dunno. It's just a hypothetical
situation, after all. :-)

Now imagine a person brought up on myths that involve
more creative and less confrontational resolutions.
The heroes and heroines are peacemakers, not warmakers.
They find commonality, not difference. Would a person
brought up on such myths act differently in situations
that invite the potential for conflict? I suspect so.
I think Obama thinks so, too.

> My point is that we people our internal worlds with personalities we 
> come to know, and we people our myths with the characters we are 
> familiar with.  Yet the people in my myth are different characters 
> than the people in your myth, so the effect of the myth is different 
> to each of us, and we may never really get how another person 
> understands the myth even when we both hear the same words.  

I think that what the world needs is better quality
myths. One of my spiritual teachers once said (and I
think with some wisdom) that the problem with America
is that it has "mediocre dreams." It's myths are mostly
about self-interest and self-gratification -- the rugged
individual lifting himself up by his own bootstraps. Very, 
very few of them are about helping others. I'm of the 
opinion that if the myths that people were exposed to on 
TV -- both in the programs and in the ads, which are 
probably more mythic than the programs, because their
very *intent8 is to instill desire -- were of a higher 
order, the people exposed to those myths might be of a 
higher order as well.

> Or maybe we could if we both enjoy Buddhist debate, and to keep the 
> exchange going we each help the other to make better and better 
> points about the two very different stories told by the exact same 
> words.

I really loved Stu's point about mythos and logos. It
was the same point I had been trying to make about
the distinction between the "plot" of a tale of power
and the *intention* behind it. 

Interestingly, the person on Fairfield Life who IMO 
does the best "Buddhist debate" is the person who 
claims to no longer have a strong spiritual path, 
Curtis. He goes out of his way to find some way to
bring any disagreement back to "common ground" and
allow it to resolve in both parties having learned
a little something, as opposed to just reinforcing
and strengthening each of their sets of preconceptions. 

I suspect we could all learn from this. I've sat in
rooms and engaged in the kind of debate that was 
discussed in the article Vaj posted, and it was a 
transformative situation. In a way, it was like the
archetypal myth of how men handle conflict situations
vs. how women handle them. In this myth, men get into
heated arguments or even fights, and then afterwards
go out together and share a beer and the whole thing
is forgotten. Women, on the other hand, often keep
the grudge going for years or decades. Or even
lifetimes, in our context.

I think the same thing could be achieved (the "guy"
perspective in this myth, that is) with debate and
disagreement here on FFL. One can disagree without
dissing. :-) And *after* the disagreement one can
still be friends with the person one disagreed with.

Call me an elitist ( oh...never mind...someone recently
did :-), but I cannot help but believe that the person
who can argue strongly for his "side" in some debate
with someone who believes just as strongly about the
other side, and do so without trying to demonize the
other person or develop some long-standing grudge
against them -- is onto something, evolution-wise.
I'm not one of those people yet, but I can aspire
to it. 

The ability to go out for a beer afterwards and laugh
is IMO indicative of a "higher evolution." Those who 
can only argue and do their best to *stay* in the
state of mind of argumentation and difference seem
to me to be more like dinosaurs whose time is long 
past and whom no one will miss when they finally go.



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