--- In [email protected], "feste37" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > I'm not on a spiritual path, which is a meaningless phrase. You're > pretending to be all nicey-nice but I don't believe a word of it. >
In cognitive therapy attributing thoughts, feelings, and motives to others is called "mind reading." It's considered a "cognitive distortion." It's thought to lead to pain and dysfunction for a lot of people. Does it give you pleasure or happiness to believe bad things about me? Or do you find yourself becoming angry, even unhappy? For the purposes of an Internet group, where you and I will never meet and I have truly a limited ability to harm you in any way, can you explain the differences between "pretending" to be nice and actually being so? What difference does the internal state of heart and soul make to you, after all? Only my actions can affect you. Have I been hurtful to you or anyone that you know of? If you can point me toward someone I've harmed, I'll do my best to apologize and make amends. J.
