--- In [email protected], akasha_108 <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> 
wrote:
> > 
> > Nice job:  Confronting suppression.  They are cowards and wilt 
when one 
> > stands his ground.
> 
> > Jeff
> 
> Its a nice story. However, I have found in my experience, such 
direct
> confrontations do not usually have such a happy ending.
> Responses-in-kind usually create escalating responses-in-kind,
> pitta-levles and ego issues flair and a "small" issue grows to a
> larger issue, ultimately on that is harder to resolve.

I agree.  The story was Unc's.  By confront I mean willing to face 
without flinching.  Unc didn't directly confront (in sense of 
confrontation) the guy in his story.  His friend (in his previous 
story) did not flinch in the face of his inquisitors.  He didn't 
battle either, but I feel "confronted" them in the sense I used above.
Unc put the ball in the other guy's court (by throwing his clothes 
out the window) to create a real "confrontation"  The guy didn't 
pursue it, but wilted instead.  I believe we are actually in 
agreement here. :-)
That being said, sometimes a real "confrontation" is necessary when 
one doesn't do something to the point where things are so dangerous 
that direct confrontation is necessary (eg Chamberlain & Hitler).  
This can be averted IMO by standing one's ground at the outset.  
The "bully" will usually just back down.
Jeff





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